My personal feelings after watching White Collar: A friend like Peter Burke? Sorry, I'd say "no"
After watching White Collar in one sitting, I was surprised to find a character who embodied almost everything I hated about a 'friend.' He might be a decent boss, a good colleague to work with at the office, but for him to enter my private life as a friend? The answer is 'never.'
I'm not Elizabeth Burke, who could passionately love him and tolerate him.
Nor am I like Neal Caffrey, who, in some 'miraculous' way, could forgive and put up with him for so long. Perhaps it's because Neal had no other choice, perhaps it's because he lacked a father figure to take responsibility and guide him from a young age (as he told James), perhaps it's because Peter also helped him... there are many reasons. But everything has its limits. You help me, but I help you (it's a give and take), hopes (or illusions) can always be shattered. And if I remember correctly, Neal's decision to leave New York (I'm not talking about 'faking his death') and go to Paris to start a new life was made even before the FBI refused to release him and before all the events of 'Panthers'.
A healthy relationship is about give and take (if Peter truly considered Neal a friend). Just because Peter is a good person with an FBI badge and Neal is a criminal doesn't mean only Neal needs to change. Just because Peter is a good guy doesn't mean his sacrifices are noble, and Neal's sacrifices are taken for granted because "You owe him" (the excuse Elizabeth used from the first season). After watching six seasons, I honestly didn't feel Peter was trying to change his flaws at all (or maybe he didn't realize it and thought he was perfect). This man will never understand the feelings of others. All he thinks about is himself (how disappointed he is, how difficult his situation is, how responsible he is, etc.), how good he is (how much he sacrifices) for Neal, and how he looks good to his own eyes as 'the best agent of the year' (as written on his mug).
Peter Burke annoyed me from the very first episode. The way he almost immediately enjoying the things he thought Neal had tricked June into getting (I see that as a hint that he might later turn a blind eye and accept Neal's 'shady' methods if he also benefited from them). The words he says to Neal as Neal walks down the stairs in Byron's suit (a scene I really liked) are actually an attempt to justify his jealousy (because a criminal like Neal gets these good things so easily) and his competitive spirit, unwilling to lose to Neal (this is something that's present throughout the canon). In this world, there's not only effort, but also kindness and luck. Neal was lucky to meet June at the secondhand shop and June's kindness in letting Neal stay.
The episode 'Home Invasion' is the final straw. The way he enters Neal's house and stays without even asking Neal a simple question like, "Can I stay?" (I hate this type of person the most). His rather impolite actions (which could be justified as wanting Neal to leave so he could see what Neal is secretly doing, but honestly, that's not nice at all). Then he secretly investigated Alex's fingerprints, and what he didn't expect was that she would find out and rush to the scene, ruining the mission. He belittled Neal, and then belittled Neal's friend as well. The way he justified his wrongdoing. When Neal angrily questioned him, saying that he had let Peter stay at his house while Peter investigated his friend, Peter brought up the music box incident (meaning Neal had investigated the music box behind his back, so he could also have investigated Alex behind Neal's back. Or perhaps because Neal still coveted the music box, Alex reappeared, so he investigated her? Frankly, either way, it's just blaming others).
After that, he was sometimes good, sometimes bad (this is what makes me feel this character is poorly developed and inconsistent). What I felt best about him was when he signaled Neal to run away and what he said in the 'reduction hearing' (this was the only thing that made me feel he genuinely considered Neal a friend). But what he did afterward was like 'a slap in the face' to what he said, turning it into hypocrisy.
The 'Cape Verde' incident is what put him straight on my 'blacklist' (it could have been a 'different version' of the season 6 ending if he had discovered Neal's fake death from the start). While everyone else moved on (including Neal, who was settling into his new life and had a new girlfriend), he just couldn't get over it. All that time he kept saying it was for Neal, but from another perspective, wasn't it all for himself? – his obsession, his desire to atone for his mistakes. He keeps saying he wants to bring Neal 'home,' but does he ever ask himself if he has the ability or the capacity to take on that responsibility? (What happened afterward clearly answers no) - His blind stubbornness. He acts as if he's only there to save Neal while refusing to admit he's the one who led Collins straight to Neal (when Moz asks why he's there, he doesn't tell the truth either) - His hypocrisy.
Everything would be better if it ended with Neal's life in Cape Verde, so that what happened in New York would be a good memory (a hope) for Neal. It's better than dragging him back only to have 'someone' yell "you're just a criminal" in his face, gradually shattering those good things for Neal. The scene in the New York office, when Diana jokes about shooting him, he laughs. Then when Peter and Jones joke about the electronic ankle bracelet being a medal, he laughs. But when they turned away, his expression as he held the anklet showed no happiness at all (for a moment I wondered if he really wanted to come back, or if he just had no other choice). By then he had a free life in Cape Verde to compare with, and I saw things for Neal begin to change from this point.
Peter may have been very noble, 'teaching' Neal many things, but what he did contradicted what he preached to some extent. His boundaries weren't as clear as he appeared. This is the source of my discomfort with him. The title of 'good person' and the badge used to justify his bad behavior, and he still presented himself as a noble person (as if suffering from amnesia) – it was so hypocritical. While the other was a criminal who knew what he was doing was against the rules, knew who he was and where he stood, and didn't consider himself noble (it was much more palatable).
I wasn't bothered by his attitude towards Neal or his distrust of Neal, because that was his job, and Neal was indeed a smart criminal. It would be less irritating if he didn't call Neal a friend and maintained professional boundaries. The problem hindering this 'friendship' doesn't just stem from Neal alone. Peter's use of power over Neal and his own personality are also significant issues, along with their differing perspectives (this requires change from both sides, not just Neal).