Mystery Bandit

'It is an awful chaos--light and darkness.' Instagram - bethlam13

[duskwayfarer]

“Keep abortion legal”

Cyndi Lauper and Debbie Harry, late 90’s NYC

[missmentelle]

How to Tell Your Friend That You Need a Break From Supporting Them

When I worked at a mental health crisis centre, I couldn’t believe how many people came to us, not because of their own problems, but because they were so lost in a friend’s pain that they couldn’t take it anymore. I saw a lot of people who were so worn down from helping someone else that they couldn’t sleep, eat, socialize or focus at work or school. They were consumed with guilt every time they put down their phones, went to sleep, or dared to enjoy themselves and have a good time. All because they had no idea how to set boundaries.  Helping your friends through a tough situation is a wonderful and noble thing to do, but it only works if you’re mentally in a place to do so. If you’re dealing with issues or mental illness of your own, you’re not always capable of being someone else’s shoulder to cry on 24/7. And that’s okay. Sometimes, you have to put yourself first. You can’t help someone else if you’re a mess yourself. You can’t save a drowning person with a sinking ship.  Telling a friend that you’re overwhelmed and you need a break is one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do. Honesty is the best policy - don’t go radio silent on them, or avoid answering their messages. Be honest about how you’re feeling, and what you need from them. If you’re stuck on what to say and how to start the conversation, here are a few suggestions. Feel free to copy them exactly: It’s really hard for me to admit this, but I’ve been feeling like I’m on the verge of a breakdown lately. I love you and I care about you, but I need to take some time to take care of myself for a while.  I’m really concerned about you, but I honestly don’t know how to deal with this and I’m worried I’ll say the wrong thing. I really think that you should talk to a professional about this.  This is hard for me to admit, but I have a lot going on in my life right now, and it’s getting to be too much for me. Would it be okay if we talked about lighter stuff for the next little while?

You deserve more support than I can give you. I think you need to tell a close family member or professional about what’s going on. 

It seems like every time we talk about this, things are worse for you. I’m worried that my advice isn’t helping you at all, and I think you should talk to someone more qualified than me. 

I’m really worried for your safety, and it breaks my heart, but I can’t keep you safe all by myself. Would it be okay if we told someone else what was going on? 

I’m sorry, but I can’t answer my text messages 24 hours per day. I really want to make sure that you always have someone to turn to if I’m not available. Are there some other people you would trust with this? I can help you tell them, if you’re not comfortable doing it by yourself.  I hope these suggestions are helpful - best of luck to all of you, and make sure to put your own mental health first when you have to. 

[dr-dendritic-trees]

My dash seems to have formed a theme tonight (from unrelated blogs that don’t typically reblog each other, which perturbs me.

[loveinstereo]

[katanafatale]

Playing with different makeup trends I’ve been observing on the runway.

No filters, just natural lighting.

Lip is all from one lip liner MAC’s Naked which is fitting because you best believe I’m having a “be naked and beat that face” kind of day.

[saq-rabbit]

=============SPACE MOMS=============

YES, they all aged NO, they didn’t stop being beautiful YES, They will forever be our Space Moms. 

[mysterybandit]

Brilliant! Lobe this!

[micdotcom]

Watch: New anti-Trump ad reminds us of his own misogynistic words.

[ambelle]

yet he has women supporters and I don’t even know why I’m on this planet

[the-bitch-goddess-success-deact]

“donald trump tells it like it is!”

yeah, like it is 1945

[mysterybandit]

Gross. Come on America! Don't let this man achieve more power!

[eyebrowgod-deactivated20181204]

a 90’s kid? don’t you mean sad adult?

[eyebrowgod-deactivated20181204]

70,000 people have reblogged this but no one is trying to defend themselves

[vanilita]

There is nothing to defend

[lookingforshadows]

#i read a post once that described 90s kids as the generation of nostalgia #because so much technological advancement happened in such a rapid timeframe when we were growing up #that we can clearly remember having technologies that are now obsolete #like going from a corded hugeass phone to a small computer in your pocket just within our formative years is a major thing #and it sparks a nostalgia for our seemly ‘simpler’ childhoods #because so much rapid development makes it seem like it was a lot longer ago than it actually was (x)

[instead-of-sighs]

This is the most solid explanation of our decade I have ever heard.

[fakenasty]

Oh my god

[retr0philia]

Just to add onto that, our childhood wasn’t even technology based. We grew up knowing of chalk, skateboards, jump rope, street hockey, playgrounds, butterfly collecting, etc. Slowly technology took over our lives and now there are hardly kids playing outside in the summer. We can clearly remember our childhood as it was and now we can see the clear line between it. We were the generation right smack in the middle of it all. Our parents were of non-tech and our children/young siblings will be all tech.

[breelandwalker]

Not to mention, ours was the last generation that grew up with all those bright promises of “work hard, go to college, and you’ll have a successful life,” only to find those hopes abruptly dashed when the housing bubble burst. Milliennials have grown up expecting that disappointment, because for them, the problem has been there since Day One.

So 90s kids aren’t just nostalgic…we’re BITTER. And we ache for those days when we could still think that the world was boundless and full of the opportunities we were promised since the first day of kindergarten.

[ellingtonm00se]

Every time someone adds to this i have to reblog.

[mysterybandit]

Word. 

[we-the-anon-family]

Atena Farghadani is a 28-year-old Iranian artist. She was recently sentenced to 12 years and 9 months in prison for drawing a cartoon.

This cartoon, that she posted on her Facebook page last year, depicts members of the Iranian parliament as animals. It was drawn in protest of new legislature in Iran that will restrict access to contraception and criminalise voluntary sterilisation. Atena’s charges include ‘spreading propaganda against the system’ and ‘insulting members of parliament through paintings’.

Last August, 12 members of the elite Revolutionary Guard came to Atena’s house, blindfolded her and took her to the infamous Evin Prison in Tehran. According to Amnesty International:

“While in prison last year, Atena flattened paper cups to use them as a surface to paint on. When the prison guards realised what she had been doing, they confiscated her paintings and stopped giving her paper cups. When Atena found some cups in the bathroom, she smuggled them into her cell. Soon after, she was beaten by prison guards, when she refused to strip naked for a full body search. Atena says that they knew about her taking the cups because they had installed cameras in the toilet and bathroom facilities – cameras detainees had been told were not operating.”

She was released in November and gave media interviews and posted a video on YouTube detailing her beatings, constant interrogations and humiliating body searches. She was then rearrested possibly in retaliation for speaking out and has been imprisoned ever since. In January, Atena went on a hunger strike to protest the horrible prison conditions. Her health suffered dramatically, and after losing consciousness and suffering a heart attack in February, she was forced to eat again.

The quote used in the comic is taken from the speech Atena gave at her trial. It has been translated into English by the Free Atena Facebook page. You can read the whole thing here.

Time is now against her, she has just two weeks to lodge an appeal. Michael Cavna, comic journalist for The Washington Post, has launched a campaign appealing to artists to help bring awareness to Atena’s case by creating their own artwork in support of Atena and using the hashtag#Draw4Atena. Can a bunch of artists and a hashtag really make a difference and put pressure on the Iranian Government to release Atena? Probably not. But just remember that Atena is currently in prison enduring horrible conditions, and if her appeal isn’t successful, she will be there for another twelve years. FOR DRAWING A CARTOON AND POSTING IT ON FACEBOOK. Don’t we owe it to her to at least try?

Alot worse actually happens out there.. once Being a soldier (which turned me into an activist) showed me..

Signal boost.

[artzandmusiczloverstuff]

This definitely deserves a boost

[worldpeaceinformant]

Just nasty….

[scary-monsters-and-super-creeps]

#IF YA WENT HARD FOR CHARLIE HEBDO YOU SHOULD GO HARD FOR THIS

[mysterybandit]

Amnesty International are asking people to sign a petition to help get her released. Link...https://www.amnesty.org.uk/actions/free-atena-farghadani-iran-prison-drawing-cartoons-artist

[makeupbag]

[mysterybandit]

Eyes

[whenyouworkatamuseum]

What is a ‘weekend?’

When someone schedules an important interdepartmental meeting on a holiday weekend Friday that you would have normally taken off, and you change your schedule to accommodate it.

Then the meeting gets canceled morning-of because the organizer forgot that  it was a holiday weekend and “ a lot of you were probably hoping to get out of here early,” and all of the behind-the-scenes, 9-5 staff are like

But you’ll be at the museum all weekend because you work in programs.

Long holiday weekend, indeed.

[mysterybandit]

Cats face = my face on Thursdays when everyone gets to go home for the weekend.

[zoomine]

[mysterybandit]

Oh the joy! 😊

[iamhannalashay]

my boyfriend king-jsmoove thought it would be a good idea to record my hair in slo-mo. 🌻🌻🌻

[mysterybandit]

She’s completely and utterly fabulous. I wish I could hug her! ;D 

[oksanelle]

[mysterybandit]

This is one of the best TV shows on the telly box at the moment. Oh the characters!

[mysterybandit]

Notions and tickets, short circuits and folding mirrors. I am mad, calls the spider, waving its many arms.  And in truth it is terrible,  Multiplied in the eyes of the flies. They buzz like blue children In nets of the infinite, Roped in at the end by the one Death with its many sticks.

Sylvia Plath, excerpt from Totem, Ariel

[mysterybandit]

George The Poet - I Need (Maverick Sabre Live Lounge version)

[mysterybandit]

Stephanie Mann   www.stephaniemann.org/

‘In Possibility’, 2015. Framed digital print, 103 X 72cm

(part of)  Keratin, Moving image, 2015 (1 minute 58 seconds)

Still Life on Safari, Digital print, 100 x 70cm (2014)