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[prostatorgasmsgirl]

Make the time.

I see regular questions and asks to @instructor144 about Doms who can’t make the time to connect with their Subs, everyone has LIFE everyone can find a reason to be busy, I’m going to try and explain why this hurts a Submissive.

We NEED to know you think about us… That’s right, it is important to a Submissive to know that even when we are not together or there are other things going on in our lives, that it is us you are thinking about. I guarantee she is thinking about you. Not once in a while ALL the time.

We NEED to feel your control… I will speak personally about this. When I don’t feel ownership I start to become a bound up mess, I feel insecure and uncertain about pretty much everything. Life becomes a game of second guessing myself. The clarity is gone from my life.

We NEED to know you care… We care about you our Dom so deeply that it scares us. It’s a love that surpasses any other…. we gave you the gift of ourselves… we need to know that you understand and appreciate exactly how hard that is for us, that you love us, that our needs come before everything else.

We NEED to feel safe… Safe from outside influences, but mostly safe from ourselves, our thoughts, safe from the thought of you leaving or being abandoned… connection is the only way you can do that.

We NEED to be your priority… You see we TRUST you, we trust you with all that we have and are, we are willing to sacrifice pretty much anything and do for you. We in return expect to be the most important part of your life.

We NEED your help…. When things go astray, when something goes wrong we need to know that we can reach out to you and get help, you hold the keys to our peace of mind.

You chose to accept her submission, treasure it, know that she NEEDS you, know that she will self implode or worse without you there. Make the time, when you use the bathroom, when you make a cup of coffee, when you have a minute, when you brush your teeth…. Make the time. She does for you over and over again. As the saying goes…. “Too busy is a myth, we make time for what is important to us!”

[kink-archive]

[mojofire]

One aspect of the MojoFire project has been to make something better than Tumblr. Cloning Tumblr won’t make anyone happy. Before the purge, were you happy with how things were on Tumblr? I don’t know anyone that was. It just got worse and worse and worse until multiple communities, some fragile, got destroyed under the boot of Tumblr.

Enough bitching about Tumblr, let’s look at your future.

Let’s start with post types. Tumblr has Text, Photo, Quote, Link, Chat, Audio, and Video. We will be changing this somewhat.

We are dropping Quote. Essentially a Quote post is just a formatted text post. Quotes are one of the least used post types. Dropping it makes our site cheaper to run and faster to develop. Instead of maintaining something that is rarely used, we can use those resources to build something new.

Chat is not going away but it is being baked into the site. Instead of having to create a post to start a conversation, MojoFire will have multiple entry points to start a conversation. AND, if you are not into conversation, this feature can be turned off. In fact, it will be set to off by default. You will actively need to turn chat on to use the feature.

The other post types will work more or less the same. Link posting, and media embedding of audio and video files will work like most other social media sites.

We have some new post types we will be discussing in the near future. Stay tuned for all the updates!

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[reflectedtruthsblog]

Testing…

Two lists, one for a test and one for play. When the test complete, we started the video chat and He began to explain.

“Tonight will be a bit different,” He began. As He explained His instructions, my eyes widened. Even as my mouth was forming the words “Yes Master” behind my gag, in my head I was shouting, “Are you crazy? What!?! That thing is covered with bumps!”

But as is so often true for a submissive, obedience triumphs over fear. I did as He instructed, placing the frightening item exactly where He wanted it and exactly where I most feared it. When He then told me to lay back and relax, I did try, and as He was saying “There now, are you anticipating?”, the “mmmpf mmmmphh” that He heard behind the gag was not actually a “Yes Master” but rather “I’m scared, Master.”

So what happened? Perhaps the setting may have been too high, but it was not as awful as I feared and I survived it without a single injury. (A low setting might be more enjoyable in the event we have an opportunity to try that a second time around.)

The reality,  though, is that no matter what we try, and there are many things we have tried in the past and I’m sure many more we will try in our future, my Master always has my best interests at heart. He knows me very well, He knows my limits and my boundaries, He knows just how far to push them without pushing me to a breaking point. Moreover, He knows me well enough to know how to manipulate and play my form as delicately and expertly as one for whom Stradivari crafted his magnificent instruments.

While pushing that limit was not part of the initial test that we did, it was something new to try and it was a way for my Master to break down a little tiny wall that I probably have been trying to keep up. He’s good at finding those walls and knocking them over even when I cannot see them. So with that wall removed He was able start fresh, sweeping away the rubble and laying the foundation for something new and better.

I’m incredibly thankful to have a Master who continues to chip away any wall I try to build. Sometimes I forget…

He is my wall now.  

© reflectedtruthsblog 2018

[dominantlife]

My Vision Of Our Tumblr Replacement

I started on Tumblr soon after it was created with a vanilla blog. Since then, hardly a day has gone by that Tumblr wasn’t a part of my life. I have made excellent friends on Tumblr over the years. In fact, MOST of my friends came from relationships I made via Tumblr. The precious, bubbly cupcake that is in my bed? Tumblr. So you can imagine how painful Tumblr’s announcement has been for me.

I love seeing the marginalized communities that are shunned elsewhere on Planet Earth have a safe place to exist and be themselves. It always made me smile when I see a Tumblr blogger ease out of their shells, steadfastly into the world.

Well, that shit is no more.

As some of you may have noticed I started a community effort to rescue these communities. I want everyone involved because it will be our garden, our club, our safe space to be ourselves.

And the new site (name to be withheld until we have something to show) is not just for kinksters, I want vanillas too; artists, witches, horror writers, brewmeisters, budtenders, book sluts, fandoms of all types, beat poets, wilderness photographers, Burners, vampire hunters, Dungeons and Dragons players, and rocket scientists. Hell, I want people who just want to blog about cats and cabins in the woods.

What we won’t tolerate are bullies, minors, Nazis (and their fucked up allies), abusers or trolls. They can fuck right off to a cesspool of their choice.

I am putting up the cash to get this started PLUS I am making this a community effort, that is why I am being so transparent about the process with our Discord planning group. Yes, it is chaos. We have taken on an INSANE project to get done in less than 2 weeks. Well, 9 days now.

This isn’t my first rodeo. I am actively trying to keep my anonymity as long as I can, but I know it will soon be spugged out in due order soon. You will then see what I have done in the past and learn about a very vanilla project that has been near and dear to my heart. You have probably heard of it and maybe even participated!

The beta site will not be perfect. It will be good but not perfect. Hell, we have been suffering with “far from perfect” with Tumblr now for years. It is my hope that our community can put up with our rough edges for a little while.

Where we are tonight is pretty good. We have selected a host, got our software loaded, installed the Linux packages required and are now getting those packages to play nice with one another. We had it working for a bit until a small issue with the registration page required some elbow work.

I am working on the branding and marketing with a bunch of really smart pervs in our Discord group. I am really proud of all of our volunteers and want to thank them all. 

If you want to volunteer or simply eat popcorn and watch the porn riots, please use this invite link: https://discord.gg/jVempgb

Remember, Discord is just the site we are using for planning, not the actual site we are moving to.

Many of you have asked about the Library For Kinksters, it will be archived and placed on the now site.

We plan to allow you to import your Tumblr blog over to our new site but Tumblr may have other ideas. Other services have been using Tumblr’s API for exporting and now Tumblr now seems to be shutting down that API functionality.

That is all for now. Keep your heads held high and remember you are ALL FUCKING AMAZING PEOPLE!

- Dominant Life

P.S. Please reblog the shit out of this. Santa may drop a slutty elf off at your house for Christmas!

P.P.S. Oh and pirates. I really want pirates on the site too!

[ironfistinvelvetglove]

Thanks , @dominantlife, this is precious help. So you say I can bring my bandanna and hook as well? :)

*IF*

[dominantlife]

Yes you can! And don’t forget the parrots and rum, but especially the rum.

[dominantlife]

Get signed up at MojoFire.com!

[sassygrlkit]

Good morning

Good Morning

One morning, I start getting extremely erotic texts. It begins Monday. A text telling me to imagine your mouth sucking on my nipples. With the text is an audio file.

My nipples immediately hardened. My breath comes a bit quicker. I open the file to find what sounds like nipples being licked and sucked on and a growling voice.

“You taste so good, little girl.” you say . “I love your tits first thing in the morning.” Followed by more licking sounds. “Touch your nipples for me.” you demanded.

What the fuck is going on? I’m barely awake but I feel so horny I want to touch myself. Shit, no time. I have to get ready and go. While changing my top I graze my still tight peaks and moan.

At work, I tell myself it has to be a mistake. Someone must have misdialed my number. I try to put it out of my mind but continue to come back to it throughout my day.

On Tuesday, I wake slowly and begin my morning routine. I glance at my phone to see a message. This time the text says ‘Open your legs’. Again there’s an audio file.

Okay. What the hell is this? I open it and your rumbling voice is stern. “Spread them!” you order. “I want you to touch yourself for me.” A pause then “Do it! Put your fingers in your pussy then rub your clit with your wet fingers.”

As crazy as it seems, I’m now so horny from listening to your dirty talk. I figure why not? I ease my underwear to the ground and test my pussy. I’m so wet. I gather some of my wetness to rub my clit.

I’m rubbing myself and can’t quite get myself to cum. I decide to listen to your audio again. It’s what got me wet in the first place. Sure enough by the end of your recording my pussy is contracting with my release. The spasms rocking my body.

At work, my mind wanders. What the hell is going to happen tomorrow? Will you text me again? I crave your voice & your orders.

Wednesday morning I wake early to check my phone. Nothing. I lay in bed unable to go back to sleep. I’m horny as hell and crave your direction. I lay there imagining being licked all over by you. Just as my body is ready to go. BING! I have a message.

My message reads ‘Use your fingers’. I press play on the audio. “Mmmmmm. Is my sweet girl ready for me?” you laugh. Damn, even your laugh is sexy. “Put your fingers in your pussy. Fuck yourself imagining it’s my cock.”

As the audio turns silent, I do as you tell me. My fingers begin pumping into my wet pussy. Then the audio continues. “Yes baby. Do you feel my hard cock? You’re so wet and warm. You feel so good squeezing my dick in that tight wet pussy. Mmmmmmm. Come on my cock baby. Do it now.”

I’m hypnotized by your rumbling voice. I pound my fingers into my pussy over and over. As you talk, I speed up. I’m breathing hard and moaning loudly as I feel my growing orgasm approach.

As you tell me to come, I shatter. “Oh fuck! Yes!” My body trembles. As I lay there my body shaking, I think about you.

It’s Thursday and apparently I’m now a morning person. I wake early excited to see what you have in store for me today. I wait and wait my arousal growing as I lay there thinking of your voice growling in my ear.

Finally the message appears. ‘Grab your favorite toy’. I grab my rabbit vibrator from the bedside drawer. Back to my phone to listen for your instructions.

“Alright baby girl, I want you on your hands and knees. Oh yeah. That’s right baby. Put your head down but keep that sexy ass up. Mmmmmm! Perfect.”

I’m immediately following your directions. I lay that way waiting to see what you have in store for me. I realize I’m holding my breath and exhale. Fuck. What am I doing? I’m so turned on my body aches.

Then it comes. You say “Slowly put the tip of your vibrator in you pussy. Just like that.” My hands go between my legs and begin inserting the head of my vibe in. I stop and wait. “Keep sliding it in slowly. All the way baby. Until it bottoms out. Imagine my fat cock in its place. I’m so fucking hard imagining my cock sliding so slowly through your slick wet entrance and sinking deeper and deeper until I bottom out. Am I there yet baby? Good.”

And then silence. Shit! Are you kidding me? I stay still. My head on the bed, ass in the air, arms beneath me holding my vibrator deep in my wetness. I want to move. I want release but I can’t bring myself to do it.

Then your voice again. “You feel so good baby girl. Now I want you to switch your toy on and slowly fuck yourself until you cum for me. Don’t you go fast. I know you want it fast and hard but today we’re going slow.”

I slowly slide my vibe out feeling each ridge as it rubs the clenching walls of my pussy on its way out. Slowly leaving my body. Slowly driving me crazy. I stop when only the head is left and begin to move it back into its home.

It’s torture to go at such a leisurely pace. My body wants me to thrust it in over and over. But you, you want slow so I find myself paying attention to the slide in and out as my pussy holds tight to what has now become your cock. I continue at this speed until my body is shaking with the need to cum. My inner thighs are wet with my juices.

In and out. In and out. In and out. I hang on the edge. Body shaking and mind reeling. I’m so fucking close. So close. Please fucking make me cum. Please. I need relief from my body being so coiled tight. My pussy clenches onto you. Wanting you buried deep inside me.

“Cum for me baby. Soak my cock baby. Cum! Mmmmmmm!” You say and bam it starts. It languidly sweeps through my body. “Good girl.” Your praise makes me explode.

“So good. So fucking good! Yes!!” I holler. My body is shaking. Cum dripping down the vibe and onto my hand. My orgasm pushes you out. Squeezing so tight.

I drop to the bed and lay quietly before rolling out of bed to head off to work. My mind wanders to thoughts of what you could be doing. Did you cum too? I smile to myself as I get out of my car and head off to work. No matter what happens today, it’s going to be a lovely day. My goofy smile plastered to my face I enter the building.

Friday morning I wake very early and glance at my phone. No message yet. I lay waiting. My body tingles all over. I widen my legs trying to alleviate the pressure in my clit. Damn I need to touch myself. I don’t dare do it until you message me.

Waiting I picture you laying in your bed stroking your cock until it’s so hard it begins to twitch. The first beads of precum glistening from the head. God I want to taste it on my tongue. Swallow you slowly as your cock fills my mouth. Suck slowly at first. Enjoy the texture of your dick. The smoothness of your skin and your dick hard and pulsing. I trace the veins that line its length.

FUCK!! I’m full blown horny now. So ready to take my pleasure into my own hands. DING! I grab my phone. ‘On your back. Put your hands above your head.’ What the hell? Still I do as told. I lay there still.

Your audio begins. “Today you won’t touch yourself no matter what. I will tell you what I want to do to you. I’m going to call you in a minute. If you’re ready for me, I want you to answer the phone and put it on speaker. I’ll tell you what to do from there.” The audio ends.

Fuck! Fuck! Fuck! Okay. The messages were one thing. This is stepping the game up quite a bit. I really want to hear your voice but I feel extremely shy at the same time.

I’ve been in a relatively safe place. Now I have to decide to make a leap into something I’m ignorant of. I don’t know that I can even talk to you. FUCK! I’m such a tongue tied mess around men I’m attracted to.

The phone begins to ring. Shit! What am I going to do? As I have a mini freak out, I know in my heart I’m going to answer. I gather the strength to reach for the phone and throw myself off this cliff.

I hit the answer button with a shaky finger almost knocking it off the bedside table. I turn my speaker on as directed. Your voice growls out of the speaker. “Good job baby! I knew you could do it.” I have a full body shiver. Fuck, this is really happening.

Your voice comes clear and confidently into my bedroom. It belongs here. Low and sexy as hell. So damn masculine. “You okay little one? Talk to me.” I shiver again. Can I just listen? “Say something baby. I know you’re there. I can hear you breathing.”

“Yes. I’m here.” I squeak out. What the crap? Why did I do this? I can’t talk to you. Shit. Should I hang up?

Your purr of a voice fills my room again. “Nervous sweet girl? How about I talk and you listen for a bit? Does that sound okay? I want you to be comfortable with this.” You sound so kind and caring.

“Yes. Thank you.” I reply timidly. I hate the fact that I have to force every word out. It makes me feel like a child. What my body wants is anything but childish though. I’m flushed and waiting for what you may say next.

“Listen closely. I’m laying in bed, fisting my cock. It’s hard and aching for you baby. You drive me fucking crazy. Are you still laying on your back?”

“Yes.” It’s all I seem to be able to get out. I squirm a bit at the feeling that is running through me just listening to your voice. A quiet moan escapes my lips.

You chuckle. “Oh sweet girl. You are just delicious. Now put your hands back over your head.” You pause but don’t need to because my hands automatically respond immediately. “Such an obedient one. I’m going to enjoy this.”

My whole body is heated. I kick off my covers and lay waiting. “Spread your legs wide for me baby. Make room for me.” You growl into the phone as you hear the movement of my legs in the quiet of my room.

I immediately spread my legs as far as I can. I feel so empty and achy. I want to relieve myself as I’ve been doing all week. Why is today different? I lay quietly and listen intently for your voice.

“Good girl! I love how well you follow directions. Now listen as I make myself cum imagining my cock buried inside you. First I want to give you a taste of what is to come. Open your mouth. That’s where this cock is going first. That’s good baby. Stick your first two fingers slowly into your hot wet mouth. Imagine yourself sucking the head of my cock as you suck on your fingers.” I leave one hand above my head and timidly slip the tips of two fingers in my mouth. “How do I taste baby?”

“Hot and hard.” I say around the fingers in mouth.

“Yes. Taste my thick cock as it slides in and out of that sexy wet mouth. That mouth isn’t all that’s wet is it baby girl? No. I know. Your tight little pussy wants my cock too doesn’t it? I know baby. Be patient.”

I can hear the sounds of your hand stroking your cock. Slow and steady to begin. I close my eyes and imagine it’s really you pumping in and out of my mouth. Fuck yeah! I time my fingers to the sounds of your strokes. You’re breathing has changed. You make moaning and growling noises as you begin to get excited. (See continued on next post)

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[the-romantic-dominant-de2019091]

Thank you @sassygrlkit - Great piece.

-TRD

[a-daddys-search]

We the Kinky...

We the Kinky, of the BDSM Culture, in order to form a more Unified society, establish Safe Sane and Consensual, insure Tolerance, provide awareness against Predators, promote general Wellbeing, and secure the blessings of Knowledge to ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Guideline for the Sexually Liberated.

Guidelines of Liberation:

1.  Protect yourself - You are the first and last defense for your well being, take the time and effort to know who you are playing with. Vetting someone is not telling them you don’t trust them, it’s telling them that you care about yourself. If they have a problem with this, they may not have your best interests at heart. Additionally, Safewords are a valuable method of communication. Assign no stigma to them, (you are not ruining a scene, or disappointing your partner, by using them) as they can prevent problems; physical, mental and emotional.

2.  Inform Yourself - There are many resources for beginners and advanced alike, FIND THEM! Knowledge and furthering your education about kinks will allow you to get more out of your time and allow you to explore new things. It will also help you communicate your needs with a partner (or potential)

3.  Know Yourself - While the fantasy that your partner knows you better than you do is great. It is almost never the case early on. Know what drives you, why you choose this lifestyle. What you wish to gain or give. Know what is important to you, and what you need from it.

4.  Choose your own Identity - never let someone else tell you who or what you are. Labels can be a trap or even be misleading If you feel you are “something” then don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise. For some even having an “Identity” is limiting, so remember that “Choosing not to decide, is still a choice” (and an option)

5.  Choose your own Limits - Your limits are exactly that, YOURS. You decide what you Will Not do, or Must Have, in your relationships. No one else can make that determination for you. You certainly CAN choose to have no limits with a trusted partner, but that is YOUR choice, not theirs.

6.  Choose your own Kink - Enjoy what you enjoy… It’s OK… You are free to be you. Don’t hesitate to experiment, Read, LEARN. But above all, be kind and true to yourself.

7.  Communicate, Communicate, Communicate - Mind reading is not possible. Knowing a person so deeply that you can read or predict them is. But that usually takes years of… you guessed it… Communication.  You have to learn how to communicate; your needs, your desires, your fears… even if it’s a crayon drawing, make the effort to make yourself understood. This will only benefit your relationships.

8.  Protect your Partner(s) - There are times when someone has placed trust in you. Those times are when they are most vulnerable. This is true for both sides of the slash. Sometimes you can push yourself beyond your own limits “for the sake of your partner” and it’s possible they are doing the same. This scenario can end badly. Simple “yellow” safewords (by either side) can mean the difference between a good scene and a bad one. Additionally, knowing their medical or special needs is critical.

9.  Protect your Friends - Be there for them, to talk to, to confide in, on the watch for red flags they may miss. Pay attention to who is approaching them at public gatherings, require communications from them before they leave with people they did not arrive with. Be their safe call.  We all have the potential to miss important tells when the NRE (New Relationship Energy) kicks in. Since you are on the outside, your feedback and watchfulness may make the difference one day… Likewise, be ready to accept this same input from another trusted friend.

10. Protect your Community - Be aware of, and Follow, the rules and policies of any venue, Public or Private. Do not Create or Bring Drama to public venues, sometimes it’s unavoidable, so work closely with the venue’s administration to minimize this. Creating problems, or failing to follow established rules and guidelines can get venues closed or create undesired law enforcement interdiction. Don’t be that person.

11. Accept the Variety - Remember that your kink is not everyone else’s just as theirs may not be yours. Be kind and remember that we all have different tastes with the same mantra of Safe, Sane, and Consensual. If we cannot be accepting of each other in this community, we certainly should not expect those outside our realm to accept us.

12. Cause no Harm - Never knowingly out someone, spread rumors about others, or do anything to undermine another relationship (except #9 above). It’s simply bad form. Again, don’t be that person.

-Grymjahk

[wraphappypappy]

Rules to live by…

[voodooprincessrn]

Not broken 💔

[racksley]

If she chooses you, first and foremost, understand how lucky you are

If she chooses you, don’t get upset when she grows distant, she often gets caught in her own thoughts but she will always return to you

If she chooses you, don’t make her feel that her desire for affection is needy, some days she simply craves to be close, to be reminded that she is wanted

If she chooses you, remind her of her beauty each day, and always kiss her twice because kissing her once just isn’t enough

If she chooses you, give her the space she needs when she’s frustrated and surprise her with flowers on random days rather than out of apologetic flashes or set holidays, she hasn’t been shown that appreciation enough

If she chooses you, call her randomly just to hear her voice, and make sure to remind her of how gorgeous she is on that call even if you haven’t seen her that day, she is always beyond stunning

If she chooses you, tell her she’s doing good and encourage her, because she often feels alone in taking on the world and she won’t ask for help out of her desire to be independent

If she chooses you, applaud her parenting, she often gives all of herself without allowing herself enough sleep or self care and self love to stop and realize how exhausted she is

If she chooses you, understand that she gets excited over random songs and the moments when you listen, she’ll tell you her entire world so long you give her your attention to

If she chooses you, show her patience, she hasn’t been loved the way she deserves and often doubts that her emotions are valid, she will beat herself up for feeling sad or reflecting on her past

If she chooses you, hold her when she doesn’t ask, she will melt into your arms as if she was meant to be there, and it will fill your entire body with love rather than solely your heart

If she chooses you, understand her strength and remind her of it, she has survived evil so powerful it could break a person, yet she still stands

If she chooses you, love her through her past, her present and her future, she carries the weight of the world on her shoulders

If she chooses you, play with her hands and keep your hand on her thigh whenever you get the chance, you’re lucky to touch her and she will adore the soft intimacy of your affection

If she chooses you, understand she’ll tell you about her past in time, and when she does, kiss her and remind her of her value, she is worth more than you or anyone else deserves

If she chooses you, love her for her laughter and the way she throws her head back, it’s the most beautiful sight

If she chooses you, ask her what’s wrong and when she responds that she’s okay ask again because she won’t want to burden you with the thoughts in her mind

If she chooses you, spoil her with more than your affection, she deserves the entirety of the goodness in this world

If she chooses you, take the time to learn about her kids as much as you learn about her, she will fall in love with you for the value you bring to their childhood

If she she chooses you, buy her wine randomly because it calms her from stressful work days, and make sure you hug her and tell her how important she is and how proud you are, it will make her breathe a little easier at night

If she chooses you, scratch or rub her neck, she will love you for the simple things

If she chooses you, make sure she eats lunch and dinner, and even breakfast, because she often forgets or doesn’t make the time to do so

If she chooses you, bring her caramel frappuccinos with a shot of espresso in the mornings, it’ll help her kickstart the day after she’s been up all night being the best mother her kids could have,

If she choose you, never take for granted the honor you have winning her heart, make sure you respect her and you work each to day to get closer to deserving her

If she chooses you, please make sure you don’t let her fall asleep upset, because she’ll wake up the next day feeling as if she’s lost her place, when really she’s the only place anyone with eyes should ever want to be, her and her happiness

If she chooses you, no matter what, make sure you tell her you love her

If she chooses you, please choose her too, she is fragile and kind and she is made of all of that goodness in the world that she deserves,

You are beyond incredibly lucky,

You have the best opportunity in getting her love because it’s the best thing you could get in your entire life

If she chooses you, please don’t stop choosing her

If She Chooses You Part 2 // ARH

[delightfulsubg-deactivated20210]

This made me cry.

[submissive-seeking]

A Dear Future Dominant Letter… by elegant-submissive-nj (sadly deactivated)

“Dear Future Dominant,

Submissive women think and feel differently. We feel everything. We want everything. The ugly parts of you we want as well. Submission is a great gift that will be bestowed upon you but such a loving soulful submissive. You can not pick and choose what parts are worthy to share with her. Please learn her. Learn who she is first. Place the hands you own on her face as you take her hand on a powerful path. Understand the why of how she holds walls so high. Take each brick and throw them to the ground. Break down and be raw. Dominant’s should be vulnerable too. Understand nurturing. Love yourself before you love her. Make yourself a priority. Allow the submissive to hold you high and help you become the best man you can be. Never stop learning and knowledge is power. Make sure you are transparent in expectations. Laugh. Laugh a ton. Kiss her forehead and smile. Please make mistakes and work from them together.Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Place yourself first so you can become the best man you can be. It is at that point, you can take care of a submissive 100% Give yourself to her. Feel her presence as she kneels before you. Take each breath and understand those same hands around her neck will also be the same hands you will hold her with in aftercare. Be calm. Submissives hide when they feel scared. Never raise a voice, simply because you do not need to. Let her in who you are. Let her see the weakness you may have. Accept unconditional love. Do not have her ever second guess the submission and dominance of the relationship. Smile. Smile alot. Share with her how you need her to be at your mercy. Understand patience. Guarded woman are guarded for a reason. Learn why. Make her a priority. Communicate why you need her over your knee. Share with her you’re most powerful secrets. With a fist full of hair, explain to her in her ear what you need and will take. Never over step boundaries. Make her smile be the largest in the room. You will be the one to benefit 100% to learn her core. Be you. All of you. Just love her–and yourself.

Sincerely,

Tons of Beautiful Submissive Women”

[lilbit0911sc]

This. All of this.

[imyourgoodgrl-deactivated201902]

[melanin-enhanced-deactivated202]

Ladies I have another question for you....

What’s one thing you wish guy did while he was going down ?

[thelifeofbunches-deactivated201]

Actually suck on the clitoris instead of flicking it with his tongue like how a cat drinks water.

[melanin-enhanced-deactivated202]

I have so much to learn thelifeofbunches

[goddessevrth-deactivated2023072]

Go slow. Not everything has to be fast paced and crazy all the time

[packtheammo-deactivated20170223]

Hold my thighs. Like grip them, just firm enough…

[thetennesseehoneyy]

Yasss that clit flicking shit is not the wave.

[melanin-enhanced-deactivated202]

What about sucking on the clit ? thetennesseehoneyy

[tiffanyaliyah]

Fingering at the same time is always nice, but not in and out, find that gspot and massage it why you lick and suck the clit. I will die.

[alexundefined]

Touch/grab my thighs, my ass, slowly touch down my spine, everywhere, somewhere. Tease me good before you go down & while you’re down there.

[torreyashanti]

Deadass with the thigh thing Kiss those inner thighs too Pretend you’re passionately kissing the kitty Not a cat drinking water Also don’t even do it if you a)don’t like doing it b)you’re going to do it for 2 seconds

[uninhibitedsoul]

I couldn’t hit reblog fast enough.

[the-haitian-queen-deactivated20]

Don’t be to shy to open it up and really get the clit. Like if dudes really spread the lips and focused on the clit I would lose my mind

[jeniphyer]

slow down on the flickering thing, that rapid shit isnt pleasurable, slowly running your tongue back n forth tho? Yes. 

thigh kissing is nice, ass grabbing, thigh gripping, a little passionate teasing takes you far and honestly gets her wetter by the minute 

slow down, take your time at first, dont just dive in, enjoy your meal

that rapid flicking thing doesnt do much for me (i cant speak for every girl) but slow runs across the clit are lovely, just focus on the clit, let your fingers do some work if you get tired or something 

I dont know about every girl but that mimic-my-dick-with-my-tongue technique doesnt do shit 

[sosodebb-deactivated20190324]

Notice how they’ve all basically said the same thing? I hope you men pay attention. Every woman is different but here are the basics to pleasing us.

1. Stop the fucking flicking shit.

2. Focus on the CLIT. Suck it, circle it. Engulf it. If she moans, keep doing that.

3. But pls, do visit thighland. Inner thigh licking and kissing will set us on fire.

4. What is this fingering shit? Massage the gspot or get out. We feel nothing with that little stabbing motion. Also, stop sticking your 2 inches of tongue in there. Come back up to the clit.

5. LONG stokes with the tongue.

6. Stop humming. Most of us use vibrators so that little humming trick you learned from GQ will pale in comparison.

7. Speaking of vibes, the reason you’re in our bed is because you can do 1 thing our wands and rabbits can’t do. And that’s grab us. Grab us, squeeze us, we want to feel your hands on our body.

8. If you can reach, grab a titty.

9. Some women are self conscious about how they look/taste/smell down there. Or worry about taking too long to orgasm, so let her know you’re enjoying it. Moan, groan, sound like you’re eating a plate of ribs

10. Do it til we cum or GTFO!

[neverxxenough]

Oh damn 😳😳💕💕

[dubblah]

Why aren’t things compiled and published like this more often??

And more importantly, why aren’t we being told this stuff while down there? Esp those of us who love doing it and doing it right….. feedback, ladies, when we’re there. Please?

[xxxsexxx]

[moritzstiefeldoesntdosadness]

I don’t often post shit like this but all of this is important. Guys, you want the goods? Learn to earn it. And please enjoy yourself. If you do it right you’ll enjoy the sheer fact that SHE’S enjoying it.

[bcpk-deactivated20210131]

Taking notes for when I feel like putting some natural facial hair growth serum on my face.

[whenyougetrightdowntoit-deactiv]

Reblogging for awareness…

[anothercleverjedimindtrick]

[lookatthisnerdybroad]

Don’t be rubbin on the clit like you trying to shine a shoe, it’s very sensitive. To that end, no dry cat-tounges. Slob it down.

[slobbaby-deactivated20170425]

If you think blowing on it or in it or anywhere near the pussy does anything for anyone, punch yourself in the face right now

[milfncookiiez]

Great facts and mad humorous. Shoot I love what I do and always have a drenched beard. And little to drink but always good to learn new tricks if there where some.

[xxxsexxx]

BEST!!!

[mvcsvi-deactivated20170807]

ladies make this post the study guide for any nigga tryna eat. quiz him lol. if a nigga can’t eat it right after these gems he don’t deserve to lol.

[eatpussylivehappy]

its also good to see that not all of these are the same

[hiphopsoul-jalen]

🤔📓✏️

[sexypussybitch]

Yasssssss can’t say enough, eat pussy.

[jay-r78]

I live in Maryland I’m still trying to get someone to handle all the stuff everybody asking for i aim to please

[ebthequeen]

THIS. WHOLE. POST. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[wettreign]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[addictivekisses]

Informative information for y’all 🙌🏽😌

[mitzie-hoping2stay2]

Reposting for those who have missed a thing or two😜

[babygirladrift]

Be gentle! Men are obsessed with how delicate their balls are, but some of y'all go at that tightly packed little bundle of nerves called the clit like it’s a chew toy and you’re teething, then assume we don’t like oral when you have to peel us off the ceiling. Start GENTLE! You can get progressively rougher if she’s into that.

[dethdancer]

Required reading for Gentlemen

[beautflstranger]

[the-edge-of-desire]

💋

[dinodaddy-deactivated20221014]

Is My Relationship Healthy?

I get a lot of asks in the form of messages, and my policy is that I generally don’t discuss messages between me and my followers, while I will publicly answer asks unless people ask me not to.  Many of the messages that I get follow a similar template:

“Hello, I’m in a (statement of type of relationship/dynamic), and (statement of problem that they’re experiencing).  Is this normal/How do I fix it?

This is a very efficient method for getting answers to some of the more simple problems that people encounter in their relationships, but it runs into some problems for some of the more complicated issues that might exist.  To that end, I decided to put together a sort of self-test for people so that they can examine their relationship and identify things that either they need to work on with their partner, or that constitute dealbreakers and validate their feeling that they should walk away.

The three categories that I have chosen are as follows:  Sense of well-being/Respect, Communication/Transparency, and Fulfillment.

Sense of Well-Being/Respect:

1. Do I feel safe with my partner? (Both physically and emotionally)

2. Does my partner respect my limits? (Applies to hard limits and soft limits)

3. Does my partner respect my safeword?

4. Have we talked about using my safeword and what happens afterward? 

5. Does my partner take an interest in and/or demonstrate my preferred form of aftercare?

6. When things don’t go according to plan, does my partner make me feel valued and accepted anyways?

7. Is my partner accepting of my physical appearance without forcing or coercing me to change things about myself? (Other than those which have been discussed and agreed upon willingly by both parties)

8. Is my partner accepting of any physical limitations that I might have? (Especially with disabilities, general health concerns, joint problems, etc.)

9. Does my partner take an interest in my mental health and are they supportive and courteous towards any issues I may have?

10. Does my partner let me know, on a regular basis, that I am valued and appreciated and that my place in their life is secure?

Communication/Transparency

1. Has my partner been forthcoming about their past relationships and honest about things that went well and things that went wrong?

2. Do I know my partner’s current relationship status outside of our relationship? (Married, single, separated, dating other people/talking to other people, etc.)

3. Do I feel like I can openly express my needs and wants to my partner without retaliation, guilt, or hostility?

4. Does my partner check in with me about my wants and needs and express an interest in ensuring that they are met?

5. After playtime/scenes, is my partner open to discussing what went well and what could be done differently?

6. Is my partner open to my thoughts and opinions, both generally and in regards to our relationship?

7. Does my partner communicate to me when they will be unreachable and when they will be back in touch?

8. Does my partner set adequate expectations regarding demands on their time and give an acceptable explanation (preferably in advance) for any broken dates?

9. Do my partner and I regularly converse about things not relating to sex/playtime/scenes?

10. Generally speaking, do I feel heard or that I have a voice in the relationship?

Fulfillment

1. Does my relationship make me happy?

2. Do I feel comfortable with where my relationship is currently?

3. Do I feel comfortable/confident with the direction my relationship is heading? (More applicable for committed relationships)

4. Do I feel like my partner is holding up their end of the relationship?

5. Do I feel like I am holding up my end of the relationship?

6. Do I feel a sense of purpose from my role in the relationship?

7. Do I feel wanted and needed by my partner?

8. Am I satisfied with the rules/protocols in place within our dynamic?

9. Do I feel safe from any threat of competition from other people for the attention/affection of my partner?

10. Am I satisfied with my performance and the performance of my partner within the defined roles of our dynamic? 

This is a generalized list, meant more to create questions for you to think about than an end-all, be-all list of questions to determine your relationship’s health.  This list is meant to help identify specific areas to consider for discussion with your partner or for self-reflection.  There are a great many other questions that could’ve been included, and I welcome their addition in the comments section!

All answers above should be a ‘Yes’, and if they are not, it should serve as an indicator that something may be amiss.  Not every question will be applicable to every relationship and/or situation, and a ‘No’ doesn’t necessarily mean that the relationship is unhealthy, just that you have something to consider.

[our-ever-thine-deactivated20190]

[blueeyedkitten70]

❤️❤️

[daisies-in-thedark]

You don't get it.

You don’t. It isn’t a game she’s playing. She isn’t manipulating, fishing for compliments, or trying to trap you. Despite what the world has taught you, she has a rare, direct honesty in the way she interacts and a pure heart that most can’t recognize, let alone believe. Her insecurity only surfaces when she is trying to let someone in, don’t you understand? She feels so deeply… it has cost her greatly in her lifetime. It is easier, safer, and much more rational to default to doubt… it hurts less than trust. She won’t allow herself to believe most anything unless it is explicitly said as well as shown… and often repeated. Years of emotional neglect does that to a person. It doesn’t make her broken, but it does make her different. Her doubt isn’t about you. When you pull away, it will almost always be interpreted as rejection. It’s ok if you don’t want the responsibility, believe me, the woman understands completely, and while she doesn’t blame you, she also knows she’s worth it. The little girl though? It simply makes her sad, because she peeks out of hiding so seldom, and shows glimpses of her soul to so few. Like most treasures worth owning, she is obscured from casual sight; she requires being earnestly sought. ~dd

[itsshinycollectordestinyworld]

She understands completely. Yes. She really does.

[dombruce2016]