I think the part that upsets me most about RS discourse is the assumption that Vox’s anger and resentment of Alastor are only about his unrequited ROMANTIC (and implicitly sexual) feelings for him, with an undercurrent of those feelings being seen as inherently selfish and shallow.
When in reality what Vox seems most torn up about is losing what he thought was his first ever FRIENDSHIP, and that pain haunting him well into the present day even when he’s found new friends who love him unconditionally. Alastor’s favorite way to play into this is to refer to him with friendly terms like “old pal” or “my friend.” Season 2 centers heavily on recognizing the friends that are there for you and it’s because of their love for Vox that Velvette and Valentino are the ones to both defeat and save him.
So it’s frustrating to see Vox’s feelings for Al reduced to just “he’s just a bitter incel who’s mad he didn’t get to fuck him” out of people who allegedly recognize there are other kinds of love besides romantic or sexual. Even if Vox’s feelings were ALSO romantic, acting like “romantic=sex=shallow and selfish” is ALSO incredibly short-sighted.
And even if Alastor didn’t reciprocate Vox’s romantic feelings, he still had no respect for Vox’s platonic feelings, either. It wasn’t just the fact that Alastor rejected him, but that he did so in such a purposefully cruel way that included denying he ever liked Vox platonically. That is what seemed to hurt Vox the most. So, once again, framing it as though Alastor was “betrayed” by Vox isn’t accurate, because Alastor had no respect for Vox’s platonic feelings, either.
Is Vox wrong to keep holding a grudge? Of course he is! But he’s not a Nice Guy or an incel, and Alastor is not innocent in this either. That’s what makes their whole dynamic so fascinating! But reducing it to *just* an unrequited romance is pretty shallow and misses how much is built on their platonic feelings for each other!