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things some people, especially people who are new to ao3 or fandom/fanfic space as a whole, seem to not understand:

archive of our own is an archive. not a social media.

archive of our own was built with the stance that there would be no censorship, because other platforms already had censorship where some things that were taboo were reported/removed. ao3 was built with the purpose that all of these works, that were not allowed on other platforms, would be allowed on ao3.

the archive will house anything that’s considered fanworks. so no, you cannot report this fic because it portrays in explicit details taboo topics about xyz, you cannot report that fic because it romanticizes and glorifies xyz. ao3 will not remove any of those fics, because whether or not you like it, those fics do not go against ao3’s terms of service.

“but these things are not allowed on other platforms” that’s precisely why ao3 was created, to house and give a platform to these things that were censored/banned/removed from other platforms.

if you have a problem with this, you can use other platforms to post and read fanfics

but you should also know that ao3 by far has the best tagging system, meaning you won’t get anything like what ao3 provides on other platforms, meaning it may be a pain in the ass for you to find a fic with the prompts and pairing you’re looking for, meaning you may still get jump scared by things that are triggering to you half way through your reading of what you thought was an innocent fic. because other platforms don’t have tagging systems, where you can find and avoid any character/pairing/tag as you please, like ao3.

pandoraborn

Has anyone else noticed that as a society, we’re shamed for wanting to sleep? Sleeping in is bad, naps are only okay if they’re 20 minutes, you cant be tired unless you’re a <insert career/lifestyle choice here>, so on and so forth.

I mean, I think we all need to spread our blankets out, cuddle a pillow, and go to sleep. Everyone needs more of it, fuck this “it’s not productive” nonsense. It’s okay to sleep, it’s okay to want to sleep. You’re not lazy because of it.

slow-burn-sally

Can we also stop with the one-upping about sleep. If someone tells you they’re tired because they only got six hours of sleep, please don’t immediately say “Oh that’s nothing! I only sleep three hours a night!”. Or “you don’t even know what tiredness is until you’ve done xyz thing!”

Just stop. We should all feel totally comfortable getting the amount of sleep we need. Be it four hours or 11.

chasingtheskyline

Also, people who need 10 or 11 hours of sleep, or 12 or 14, do not need to do “extra” work in order to “earn” their sleep. Some people have less time and energy in their day to utilize. That is okay. Not a failure.

cazort

Hint, people who “need” more than 9 hours of sleep are rarely actually getting that much sleep. When I had long COVID at its worst, my sleep was so fragmented that I would block out maybe 12 hours and during that time I was lucky if I could get 5-6 hours of badly fragmented sleep. Chronic illness, especially that that affects breathing (sleep apnea is a common one), can often cause such sleep disruption. Any condition that causes frequent urination, or makes it uncomfortable to stay in the same position for a long time, can have a similar effect, as can nearly countless other conditions, too many to list here.

Also some people’s life circumstances or responsibilities force sleep disruptions. When caring for a newborn, for instance, on a good night you might go to bed at 7pm and wake up at 7am and only get 6-7 hours of sleep between all the feeding, burping, and diaper changes. Older children, pets, or other people someone might be caring for can still need care in the middle of the night. People can have responsibilities you may not have even imagined.

People don’t necessarily want to open up to you about all of the stuff they are dealing with just to “prove” to you that they really need a certain block of time to sleep. Don’t create this pressure.