"He called Lily, his best friend, a slur-" When my parents and my then best friend/now girl friend found me, after I was violated and was in the most humiliating position, I called and wished them worser things. Things I didn't actually mean. You'll don't understand, that when you are in such position the last thing you'll want is, people you love witnessing you in one of the most horrifying and embarrassing situation all powerless and violated. Lashing out is NOT uncommon. Because you were powerless in that situation, you take your anger, bitterness and pain out on people you love while trying to hold on to the scraps of dignity and self respect left in you. I don't why you'll act like you'll haven't hurt your loved ones with your words before. If you'll haven't, good for you. Some of us aren't that perfect and we get angry, lash out and say shit we don't mean. What matters is you ask them for forgiveness (if they deserve it) later after you calm down. Which Severus did. You'll shitting on characters for showing realistic, human reactions is wild to me.
