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William Hays aka William H. Hays (American. b. 1956, Alexandria, VA, USA, based VT, USA) - Stickney Brook, Reduction Linocut Print on Stonehenge Paper

stupot

Yesterday a kid said to me "excuse me? Your hair looks like beautiful anime hair" which is already amazing and then she said "watch me on your camera when I go down the slide I'm going to do the Peter Griffin death pose when I come out" and she sure did.

stupot

Illustration of events

theriverbeyond

Ideal work schedule:

I show up and am given a list of cognitively engaging but achievable tasks

I complete the list

I leave immedietly

tevruden

Yeah this can't be left in the notes

demonprincex

I used to not see the misogyny and transmisogyny in some transmasculine spaces until I detransitioned and am now FTMTF but regularly get perceived as transfem. Some of the most hateful shaming and harassment I’ve received, including innocuous things such as showing traits of my conditions (bpd and npd), which were considered acceptable when I was presenting as a trans man / transmasc, are suddenly seen as a threat and a moral failure when I’m read as transfem, has come from trans men and transmascs and it has been really fucking scary and i definitely can understand now why transfems are wary of certain transmasculine spaces. I KNOW it’s not just me who has experienced this either but it has been startling and some of the outright misogyny (bordering on transmisogyny) that I’ve been hit with by former friends (ie saying that i have to shave, that I should avoid women’s bathrooms bc I ‘don’t look like I belong there and might feel threatening’ (not that it matters but I’m literally 5’2) and also that, because I’m intersex on top of it all, that I ‘wouldn’t understand the “”afab experience”” (what does that MEAN)…

It’s just. Idk I had no idea that these guys were like that but looking back it makes sense. I have found more allyship with transfems now because I’ve kind of been pushed out of my former friend groups because they don’t like me anymore. Not if I’m a girl, especially not if I do not have “the afab experience” they apparently did. It makes sense now why a lot of transfems I have known have also felt excluded from said spaces. It is not all or even a majority of trans men / transmascs who do this but there is *enough* of them out there who do that it’s just been really shocking. Idk

My bad if this is ramble-y I’m bad with words right now and I am trying to say things the most comprehensive way

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm glad that you can see from your position that trans women are your sisters and that you have been able to find community and commonality in them, rather than be radicalized and used by TERFs as so many trans mascs and detransitioners are. I resonate with a lot of what you are saying and have gone thru! and it is so important that people like you and me speak out about transmisogyny loudly and often and recognize the hateful bullshit in far too many trans mascs. So sorry you were treated that way during an incredibly vulnerable period!

polkadotmotmot

Rebecca Chaperon - Drinking Spirit, 2014 - Acrylic on canvas

pisshandkerchief

pretentious moment incoming but why is everyone's idea of fashion so fucking boring these days. why the fuck did my manager just ask me "what's with the scarf". "what's with the scarf" fuck man do I need a reason to wear a faggy little scarf now? you could just say "nice scarf man". what's with your attitude

meolog

Reflections (film photography, Kodak Ektar 100)

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junglejim4322

You should be able to say “don’t touch me” to anyone ever in any context and not have it be considered in the realm of surprising or insulting imho if we ever needed to normalize something it’s this

mcgovern-wallawalla

Catnip ~ Lavender ~ St. John's Wort ~ Cypress

weepingwidar

Natalia Rybka (Polish, 1988) - Untitled (2015)

demonprincex

Lestat's melodramatic little Powerpoint.

demonprincex

it was cool to see Louis being manipulative and aggressive in the Lestat-version flashbacks. very gratifying and it honestly makes sense that someone with such a passive self-conception would be blind to the agency and power he does wield and its consequences. we've all had that ex whose passivity was downright aggressive and contemptuous right fellas

mothmiso

Utrecht (2) (3) (4) by Nik Morris (van Leiden)

Via Flickr:

(1) Kromme Nieuwgracht (2) Nieuwgracht (3) Achter de Dom, Deuren naar de kloosters (4) Sint Martin Cathedral X

williambroadhurst

Walhalla Cemetery, VIC

starlightnecromancer

I can't stand Child free people, as a child free person.

Like I have a legit trigger based in children screaming. That is a PTSD thing from years of abuse when I was a child. So I can't hardly deal with children in public but guess what!!! That's a personal problem! I deal with that by not going at times when kids are there! Or by putting in headphones!

But demanding the world become more hostile to children than it already is is just the peak of fucking entitlement.

"Oh but my wonderful anniversary dinner shouldn't be ruined by the sound of a baby screaming"

Go to a restaurant that doesn't allow children. They do exist! They tend to be more expensive but they exist! Or! Or! Better yet! Don't eat out! Rent out somewhere for the night and cook your own damn food!

"I shouldn't have to listen to a baby screaming on a plane"

That baby is far more uncomfortable than you are. It's literally in pain because of pressure changes in the cabin. Parents hate it too! There is no good answer for this so suck it up! Get noise canceling headphones and listen to a podcast or a book or music.

Children are human beings. They're not annoying pets that people happen to create. They have a right to be in public, to exist just like anyone else.

If you want eternal calm and quiet move out to the country and become a fucking hermit.

thefunkyfolklorist-deactivated2

I didn’t realize how hostile some people were—until we had kids. Don’t get me wrong, some people have been phenomenal. One woman rocked our daughter while we wolfed down an anniversary dinner. But I’ve had twice as many folks complain to me about my kids’ behavior in public, which is actually pretty good compared to both other kids in public and my kids at home. Or sometimes their sheer existence, in the case of a museum that banned strollers, banned people carrying their kids (I think my daughters were 3 and 1 for that one), and had a linear gallery that was too far for the kids to walk through.

The way to get a society that behaves well as adults is to let them into public as children so they can see how everyone else behaves.