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ROASTED GARLIC CHEESY BREAD

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How do you move on from something or someone who has already moved on from you?

Listen to me, please.

Your moving on cannot be predicated on their moving on.

I know, I know. It’s a punch to the gut to see their happiness while you are on the floor. Their happiness while you are still suffering. How could they let go so easily? Didn’t it mean anything? Didn’t you mean anything?

But these questions get you nowhere. They fill you with anger and resentment and hurt and worthlessness and shame and self-hatred. And they keep filling and filling and they do not stop. These questions have no answers - no satisfactory ones, at least.

My experience tells me that the best way to move on is to pretend that the hurt-perpetrator no longer exists. It is to decide that whatever they do with their life no longer matters to you. It is none of your business. It is not your place to care anymore.

Please spend all of that time caring about yourself instead. I do not mean that you should spend it ‘trying to move on’ which often means doing things to spite the hurt-perpetrator. I mean genuinely doing things that you want to do - that make you happy. The best way to move on is to realise how happy you can be, even without them in your life. And, sometimes, precisely because they are no longer in your life.