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When I am crying, it is when I needed you to comfort me and hold me the most. Once you told me you didn’t know if you still had the right to hold me. But that is an excuse.

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What frustrates me is I’m not sure you’re able to see where we went wrong, and that you’ll be able to learn from these and not bring it into your future relationships.

Eg you say you felt like you were handholding me sometimes. Does that make you feel that I was lesser than you? That it’s not worth your time to do so? Every partner will have to teach the other partner things. You shouldn’t feel that this is a chore. This is teaching someone else how to meet your needs.

I’m not confident I can find someone who I can feel that way with again. It’s what I see when I look at you- it’s a gentle gaze, it’s tender, it’s loving.

I want to watch this film with you: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CuOEu-cgLd4/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

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I miss you bb, I miss you so much, please come back soon!!

😢😭

I miss sharing random things with you during the day, saying goodnight to you and good morning to you.

I’m trying to ‘move on’, in the sense of accepting it and living in this new reality. Hoping that you are happy, trying to stay sane. Focusing on other things, trying to google my way into understanding what is happening. What is this heartbreak I am experiencing. How did other people go through this.

I still miss you so much, I can imagine what you look like, when you tell me to come to you. It might be a delusion but it makes me feel so much better. That’s how I cope I guess

Bye, love

It’s my fault I didn’t inform you quickly enough when I felt like taking a bus back halfway through the walk, and I made a mistake of not checking on you after you spilled the soup as well. Sorry.

I think what you said was ‘If you have nothing to say to me, I’m going to walk home myself’. I felt so.. embarrassed, anxious, my instinct was to say I wanted to walk back with you although I was tired too. I really wish I was aware of all of these that night.

sosuperawesome

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All my friends, peopleare probably goiNg through things. Maybe they can't verbalise it, because sometimes I really wish they would just talk to me. but maybe they're all dealing with it in their own ways.

i also cleaned the beach with a family with an autistic person today. He did seem reasonably normal. I hope he understands that I am shy. And I respect his parents for their love and raising a special needs child. or any other child and coming to clean the beach with them.

soup spoon and Hard at Work at Novena after that.

I also wonder if Lisa is surrounded by bad people. if she's going through anything. if she thinks I'm weird. she frequently says people are weird. And she did share about how hurt she felt when a friend cut off contact from her.

Being by the sea made me feel great. It reminded me of the time I would grab to happyfish lessons after work. All that travelling. Just to be close to water.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=el7UZQ7gv-s

Exactly! If I want to be treated better by strangers without having to lift a finger, I will doll up more and yes people tend to be more friendly. But even when I'm a hot mess, the first impression may be different but I will just be friendly and generally over all I am not judged as more or less. I think it comes down more to how much power we let other people's perceptions hold over us. Being attractive physically is really just hygiene and grooming, so long as you have that under control anyone can be beautiful by glowing from the inside out though. It's a different form of beauty but if you allow yourself to feel beautiful by realizing that physical appearance is just one tiny piece of a much larger puzzle (and really NOT as important as we are told it is, I don't feel beautiful but I like my style and beyond that I don't care), you will find you have no trouble finding people who respect you and are interested in knowing you better. It all comes down to how we value and perceive ourselves in the long run! Who cares what strangers think?

10 things

Maybe you can list down 10 things you like / 10 things you dont like in a partner. Then when the person comes by you can tick off the list. That probably helps you navigate the one for you. I am attracted to:

- humour

- easy-going

I want in a partner:

I don’t want in a partner

What I can offer in a relationship:

We The Citizens 3: Black Swans and Sacred Cows

Tay Kheng Soon:

Green Economy

Viswa Sadasivan:

Changes need to be made. (Policies that go against tenets of pledge should not be made)

Economic Growth model. Correlation between wages and suppressed.

2009: identified the need to reduce reliance on foreign workers.

Wage component of GDP is 40% (low) Other developed countries is higher at 55%

Now is 1.5 million foreign workers. 72% is work permit workers = not transient

One sacred cow: Culture of high spending. No contentment.

Scandinavian countries have a tax rate of 40-50%

Walter Theseira:

How to measure success of economic and social policies

Is the pie distributed equally?

Prof. Chua Beng Huat:

Prof Tay Kheng Soon:

Citizens do not know of the wealth of our nation. Myth of vulnerability. Or is it used as a cover so that we do not know what we can demand of the state? (too much of speculative debate?) -> One of the fundamental changes that needs to be made is transparency of information to the public so that we can think more concretely.

Prof. Eugene Tay:

Viswa Sadasivan:

One of the takeaways from this COVID-19 is the government does not have a monopoly of infomation. Infomation is power. The kind of problems we are facing today, are not able to be sovled without active consultation with people on the ground.

If we had more consultations with people on the ground, more free-flow of infomation ideas, could we have pre-empted some of the problems we are facing today? DId we have to subject our migrant workers and healthcare workers to this sort of risk? (-> a more collaborative governing method)

Prof Eugene Tan:

two different outbreaks in Singapore

Viswa:

forming a committee everytime is not a fluid flow of infomation

Prof Tay Kheng Soon:

structural problem. Each ministry is a silo of itself.

Walter:

What is the role of a NMP? Parliament is theatre. Put an argument forward for the public to see, if they agree, and hope change and happen when the public picks up on arguments made.

What is the dependence of different industries on foreign workers. such infomation is not publicly available.

Prof Chua Beng Huat: WFH is for the privileged. Lower-income that lost their jobs and are not paid, are worser situation than migrant workers who are promised pay for 2 months.

HBL is not equal. Upper-middle class students vs working class students. Working Class students are falling behind.

Prof Tay Kheng Soon:

Formal vs Informal Infomation

Insiders vs Outsiders in our political space.

TWC2 Alex Ow is not listened to as he is classified as an 'outsider', although he has done a good job education. There is a filtering process. Collaboration is attitude is willingness to accept contradictory opinions. There has to be two-way trust in Singapore.

Eugene Tan:

Elections will skew how post-mortem of how government has dealt with COVID-19 issues.

Viswa:

Move from value to values.

Kheng Soon:

government has to explain the difficult choices they make or else there is a sense of apart-ism.

Chua Beng Huat:

Shut off home-based bakers: No sense of how people need their money.

All hawkers wear mask.

Kheng Soon:

All purpose-built dorms do not have cross ventilation.

Viswa:

People need to understand constraints and dilemmas government face. Government must understand aspirations and desperations people face. Starting point must be assuming that the other party is coming from a good place. The world is changing.

Prof. Chua Beng Huat:

Responsibitliy of taking care of welfare of FWs fall mainly on employers. Legislations that can guarantee FW rights need to be made. Start incoporating them as part of labour force, not have a separate set of regulations for them.

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@wnt_sum_snack hey man. When I had a similar problem, I would try and trick myself by saying "I'll do this (any productive activity) for only ten minutes" and then I end up doing it for an hour or more. The problem that you described is that you are too focused on the end result, and the sheer realization of how much work needs to be done and the possibility of failure keeps you from starting anything.

@wnt_sum_snack it can get overwhelming if you’re trying so many things at once...I wouldn’t call it laziness but rather a deep rooted fear of failure with laziness as a cover. Do smaller things one step at a time and give yourself encouragement every step. Sometimes moving forward with others gives that small push you need to keep at it. If it wasn’t for some work acquaintances inspiring me to apply for other jobs I prob would’ve moved back to my hometown and quit working in the tv industry, so it worked for me

INFP careers seekers often experience an inner struggle between their conscious versus less conscious functions. While their top two functions, Fi and Ne, are clearly more “right-brained” (i.e., concerned with empathy, the arts and humanities, etc.), their less conscious functions (Te and Si) beckon them to pursue left-brained enterprises involving facts, data, and rational systems or procedures.

So which route should INFPs take? Are they better off following their strengths (Fi-Ne), or should they pursue a path that allows them to explore and develop their weaker functions (Si-Te)? While selecting the former might seem the obvious choice, the mystique and allure of their inferior T function can be difficult to ignore. Te can be strong motivator for INFPs. Even if it isn’t their greatest strength, it may comprise their greatest interest.

INFPs who choose to pursue T careers often encounter a couple of difficulties. First, T careers can place heavy demands on their inferior function. While such demands may be welcomed in small amounts, too many demands can prove overly stressful and ultimately exhausting for INFPs. Second, INFPs may find that they miss the Fi or Ne element in certain T careers. They may, for instance, find themselves longing for work where they can help people more directly (Fi) or where they can enjoy more creative freedom (Fi-Ne).

John says

Hey everybody.

Much to the frustration of my friends and family I have always seen the world differently to the people around me which has always estranged and abnormal.

I’m nearing 30 and am still yet to find any line of work that has brought me any form of fulfilment so I decided to take some personality test to try and discover a career path I am suited to. This is how I discovered that my personality type is infp. Everything I found while researching this online made so much sense. A little creepy really.

Music is my passion. Especially punk music due to its outsider culture and values aligning with my own. I love to play music and sing but due to being extremely self conscious this has never gotten further that playing at home by myself or to very close friends. It’s the lyrics that really get me. Music theory bores the hell out of me and doesn’t seem anywhere near as important as the message.

Travelling has been another of my passions and have spent most of my 20s working until I have enough money to go on another trip. I love landing in a city I’ve never been to and having to find out how it works. No planning just learn as you go.

For work I have always just done the jobs that came to me. Earning enough to get by but never really choosing anything. I have always been good at my jobs but I think this is more due to me avoiding conflict at all cost rather that any sense of ambition. I have recently been studying small business as the notion of answering to nobody very appealing. But the more I study I’m finding that it all comes back to money and money has never interested me all that much. To the point where I haven’t looked at my account balance in months. I have enough money in there. That’s all I need to know ha.

Personal relationships are also a struggle for me. I have no problem talking to people but I don’t let people get to know me very well. Aside from a few close friends. Ha and this also means I’m still single. I’ve always wanted a family and I fear this will never happen due to my shyness.

I know things need to change but I have no clue which direction to go in.

Any suggestions on how to improve my situation would be gratefully appreciated. Sorry this is so long. Thanks for your time.

AC says

Hey John,

I would strongly recommend reading the “Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle. This book, and its underlying philosophy, helped me immensely. I no longer waste time wondering if there is a certain “path” for me – rather, I’ve learned to live in the present moment and let things “be”, which has allowed me to follow a path organically without constant judgement and second guessing. Mindfulness and meditation has also been invaluable. You’ll be surprised how well life starts to work for you once you break free from constant thinking and live within the present.

“I love landing in a city I’ve never been to and having to find out how it works. No planning just learn as you go.” — Use this approach to your career search. Part of the problem, I think, is that you spend a lot of time ruminating about a decision – and, ultimately, you will always find a reason not to pursue a career if you spend enough time thinking about it. Don’t always believe what your mind tells you. Approach it the same way you approach moving to a new city – learn as you go! You’ll make mistakes, but that’s OK – actually, it’s the only way to live.

Hope this helps!

AC https://personalityjunkie.com/infp-careers-jobs-majors/

mayb I am lying to myself. mayb it's more apparent frm other people that I am nt interested. They asked if my parents had a huge influence on me choosing archi. dp ask for people interested in archi.

i think i am v opportunistic!!

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