i'd like to talk about your discussion with that other anon on page 2 for a little bit - they said that it hurts to be called homophobic, when they might be queer -- they can still be homophobic and queer, just like females can be mysoginistic. it's called internal homophobia and it happens and enjonine is a really big example of that - queer erasure is homophobic no matter who you are or if you ship another ship (e/r, for example)
I actually don't think I even addressed that part of their ask, actually. In fact, I'm not sure if I just skimmed through that part or what, but yes, you totally right about that!
No matter where you stand in society - no matter what you identify as, you can take part in oppressing the group that you belong to. I'm glad you did send this to me, because yes, that's an important thing to recognize. Homosexual people can be homophobic, in fact I know someone who is gay, and has tons, and tons of internalized homophobia, and makes plenty of homophobic comments. Anyone can be homophobic, and that's what is, and should be called out in the instance of Enjonine.
Of course, being a part of a certain group, whether oppressed or not, and having your offensive behavior called out is strange, and it can make you very defensive, especially if you're a member of an oppressed group, and people are telling you that something you said or did is oppressing the group you belong to further.
Just because you don't think it's offensive doesn't mean that you aren't being offensive. No one gets a free pass because they belong to a certain group.
