finally happy

it/they

[chronicallylav3nd3r]

• there is nothing wrong with educated self diagnosis •

[vnusplanetoflove]

just so u know everything in the entire universe is always about love and when it isn't about love it is abt the absence of love. hope this makes sense

[corvidcall]

there’s a post (possibly a genre of posts?) that i see frequently where OP is mad about self care posts that are like “it’s okay if you didn’t brush your teeth today uwu” and op is mad because they didn’t brush their teeth for a long time and now they have huge dental bills and i take umbrage with their idea that it was tumblrs fault that they didnt brush their teeth and if only people had been less nice to them, they would have known to brush more

listen, i didn’t brush my teeth for many years. feeling bad about it didnt make me brush more. knowing that people thought it was gross didn’t make me brush more. being shamed and guilted about it didn’t make me brush more.

what DID help was figuring out what was actually the barrier between me and doing it, and then removing those barriers, even if they felt silly and like they shouldn’t be barriers at all

for example:

PROBLEM: my toothbrush is too big to fit in the cabinet and I can’t leave it on the counter, so I have to keep it in my bedroom and remember to bring it with me to brush

SOLUTION: buy a new, smaller toothbrush. i know i already have a perfectly good one that’s nicer than the new one i bought, but a cheap toothbrush i actually use is a million times more valuable than an expensive brush i dont

PROBLEM: i dont want to brush immediately after i wake up, it feels gross and makes me gag

SOLUTION: i set an alarm for a few hours after i wake up and do it then. the teeth dont know the difference!

PROBLEM: i hate mint and i hate cinnamon. most toothpastes are mint and the ones that aren’t mint are cinnamon

SOLUTION: start buying kids toothpaste. this has the added bonus of i think it’s fun and whimsical

Being mad at yourself for not brushing isn’t going to help. You KNOW you should be brushing your teeth. People who don’t brush their teeth aren’t UNAWARE that their dental hygiene is important!!! Posts that say “if you didn’t brush your teeth, you don’t need to feel ashamed about it” aren’t hurting people, because shame and blame don’t help people form healthier habits, and frankly, it’s weird to pin the consequences of your unhealthy habits on people for not shaming you more!!!

[sophie5318]

its soo embarrassing when ppl know im upset about something. its ruining my image

[aestheticsicrushon]

She's like his daughter.

[arcanedaily]

❝ I never would have given you to them. Not for anything.❞ SILCO & JINX in ARCANE (2021-)

[catsuspenders]

transparent lesbian cat for ur transparent lesbian cat needs

[lichfucker]

[image description: a thick-lined drawing of a cat standing beneath a rainbow. the cat is mostly white, with black patches on its ears, feet, and tail, and a heart-shaped black patch on its stomach. it stands beneath an arching rainbow coming out of two clouds. the rainbow itself is in the colors of the orange and pink lesbian flag, and says “lesbians” in all caps across it. one of the clouds has the trans flag and the other has the nonbinary flag. end id]

[gvq]

[scarlett-the-seachild]

think this has to be one of my favourite headlines of anything ever

[dingusmcdougall-deactivated2023]

The best thing about that article is that there gets to be a point where you’re like surely. Surely we can’t get sexier and less-martyr-y than this. And that point is about a 3rd of the way through the piece.

[english-history-trip]

For my own amusement, I have included some even sluttier Sebastians found in the most cursory of Google searches:

[thlayli-rah]

I would like for people to know that Saint Sebastian is the patron saint of— of all things —archery and athletics. He is also recognized as the unofficial patron saint of queer people, because although the Catholic Church would never acknowledge it, his story of persecution in particular identified with many queer folks, and the way he was painted throughout history had a number of queer people saying, “oh shit, he’s hot, he’s ours now”

And I love seeing that happen all over again on this stupid website

[missbcm]

https://twitter.com/profannieoakley/status/1357768408671027202

 This thread is gold… make your own here: https://htck.github.io/bayeux/#!/

[dancing-crow]

perfection

[meuarmarinho]

2015 spoooktacular

[wohsystemhost-deactivated202203]

I can now say with honor that my label is so complicated that I have to make my own pride icons lmao

But I can at least say I'm happy, I'm finally happy.

[anxietyproblem]

[caroldanversenthusiast]

MARGOT ROBBIE AS A SEXY GAY PIRATE!???

[ashstfu]

“this is so romantic” and it’s two characters trying to kill each other

[sweatermuppet]

help a trans masc pay for HRT + save up for top surgery by checking out my shop!!

[saltycharacters]

Transcript:

Heyo! With pride month starting, here's a quick comic on pride Etiquette, a short guide / general tips on treating lgbt+ people, for the new, curious, and those who forgot!

1) Treat people's identities as the indisputable truth. Even if you don't think they fit the definition, even if you don't understand (the identity), even if you think they're lying, even if they're a bad person. It's not your job nor your business to tell people what to call themselves. Unless they ask for your opinion, only the individual can make that decision.

*There's very few times when an identity can actually be harmful. This includes predatory labels, labels that are bigoted by definition, or people identifying with culture-specific labels when they're not part of that culture. Otherwise, leave them be!

2) Respect and use people's pronouns, regardless of how you feel about them! If you don't know how they work, ask! If you accidentally misgender someone, correct yourself and move on! No need for lengthy or dramatic apologies. However, also make sure to ask when it's appropriate to use them! Someone may not be out to parents, certain friends, etc, and will ask you to purposefully misgender them for safety.

3) LGBT+ people are not responsible for someone else's anti-lgbt+ views! Strange, unbelievable or confusing identities do not cause bigots to be bigots- the lgbt+ community was made because we don't fit society's box, don't fall into the trap of forcing people into another one! If they're not actually hurting anyone, then leave them be!

4) You're not expected to learn every single lgbt+ term / identity. Nobody knows all of them, not even lgbt+ people, so don't worry about it! Simply learn and ask questions as you go!

5) If you're curious about someone's identity, ask if they're comfortable with questions first! There's no harm in educating yourself, but sometimes we get tired of being walking encyclopedias!

Thanks for reading, and happy Pride!!!

[wild-yonder]

ah yes, the 3 genders. Female, Male and The Entire LGBTQ+ Community.