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please excuse the blatant disconnect between my hatred for amatonormativity and my unhealthy obssesion with romance dramas!

altschmerzes

people love to be like aro and ace people are uniquely responsible for homophobia actually

angryaromantics

I feel like I have a fundamental disagreement with how a lot of people view being inclusive.

To a lot of people, inclusive means using language that includes everyone, all the time. I'm thinking about the breadth of the aro community here, and how some positivity posts about certain parts of the spectrum could actually feel alienating to other people.

Loveless aros aren't going to have the same needs as queerplatonic partnering people, or aplatonic people, or lovecore people, etc etc.

It's near impossible to be consistently including the entirety of the aro community when discussing aromantic issues, and if that's the basis by which you're judging inclusiveness, you're going to be spending more time policing language than you are finding your place in the community.

To me, inclusiveness should be about more of us feeling comfortable sharing our experiences--finding the overlap and the differences and celebrating them both. We're never going to get very far if we spend all our time feeling excluded and never move past it to put our own voices out there.

tourfilm

living under a rock is so fun i love watching a movie that’s been famous for decades and being like wow this is so good.. did you guys know about this

mifinar

Errol Le Cain

biornicles

fun fact "a-spec people can still feel love even if it's different from what amatonormative society considers love" and "some people don't experience love at all and that's fine and doesn't make them any less human or worthy of respect" are two statements that can and do coexist