it’s just a matter of perspective, @nonbinarbee.
To make an example, if you’ve never been poor and struggling with getting paid at all, and the worst thing that has happened to you is that your boss paid you 100 euro less than usual, someone who is poor and barely paid will think “big fucking deal I barely get paid while that’s a twelfth of your monthly income!”. But someone who never struggled financially will not have that experience so from their perspective that’s the worst economic injustice that they can possibly imagine.
To make a less extreme example, there are a lot of things that seem trivial to me, but I try to keep perspective in mind. I live in a country that’s fairly conservative, until recent years I never even saw a LGBT group anywhere close, so when I heard people in more liberal places complain that their LGBT groups have issues I thought “ok but you *have* LGBT groups! I barely know anyone like me and they all live super far! Why do you complain?”.
Now that things are getting a bit more open here and I’ve been to LGBT groups within walking distance, I can understand more having complains, even if I still am instinctively irked when someone’s worst complaint is that their LGBT group is not ideal. But I try to keep in mind that they have a different perspective, and in fact it’s a good thing that they can complain about that instead of “I was assaulted for being GNC and everyone around me is openly homophobic and transphobic so now am terrified of not conforming to gender roles”.
I understand it’s alienating/weird when compared to your experiences, someone else’s seem very underwhelming and trivial. There’s a lot of times when I hear people complain about a minor gripe that I wish was even a thing I could worry about, but from their perspective they can’t really conceive the idea of going through, for example, suicidal ideation, or extreme dysphoria, or being assaulted for not being cis and straight, so they won’t even consider that their situation is not all that bad because that’s as bad as it gets for them.
(As others have mentioned, also, being privileged in some ways does not necessarily equate to having trivial problems. But I wanted to address the reason why people who do have trivial problems make such a big deal out of them.)
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