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“nobody understands me” but not in the “edgy suffering from teenager syndrome mad at mom” kind of way, but the “lonely isolating young adult realization that the specific combination of mental illnesses and past experiences i’ve had have resulted in a pattern of behaviors that are often misinterpreted and misconstrued by others” type of way
The fun part about ADHD is needing to do multiple tasks at the same time, not knowing what should be done first so you try to do it all at the same time, then get an "ERORR 404" message
Auditory Processing Disorder shite cuz people don’t talk about it enough rip
* Getting frustrating when people don’t warn me before they talk so I can “turn on” my hearing.
* Needing subtitles on movies and tv shows, not because I can’t hear it but because I can’t understand what they’re saying
* Hearing in perfect clarity what the teacher next door is saying and not a thing of what the kid I’m talking with is saying.
* Losing all concept of how to decipher language when more than one sound is playing
* Feeling like a dick for asking people with accents to repeat themselves so much (guys pls i swear im not racist i just have a hard time with speech guys pls-)
* Looking at people’s mouths when they talk, not because I can read lips or anything but because it just helps me figure out what someone is probably saying.
i hope this makes some modicum of sense kalsjdfakojwhepo
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Some aromantic and asexual ramblings for early 2022
Not sure where on the arospec I am. I have a pattern of depression/deeper depression and losing romantic feelings for long term and/or important partners in my life. The last time it happened we had a rough road figuring it out and agreeing to be queer platonic, with the other person still having romantic feelings. It's only been since then that I've thought about being aro and eventually identifying as arospec.
Nervous and unsure about future relationships. I can't promise anyone romantic feelings, and w where I'm at right now, I don't really want anyone to have them for me either, it always ends badly.
A little confused on the ace situation, bc I had fading sexual attraction to a partner, but have wanted to try casual sexual relationships since then. I think I've figured out that while I don't care about gender, I do have a genital preference. Trying to come to terms w that, it feels kinda icky. Still acespec somewhere in there, don't really quite relate with how other people talk about/experience sexual attraction.
Do I want a romantic relationship or do I just want someone to hold me and to be vulnerable with or do I just need to go to sleep
Is it an adhd thing to fall out of love with people?? I just heard of this. Like hyperfocusing on someone and then losing focus = looks like falling out of love
Can't tell if the lack of interest in activities is bc of depression or not feeling engaged enough bc of adhd
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Biggest failing of the internet is that in order to be vibing with my friends I have to actually be talking to them. I socialize like a cat I just show affection by sitting next to you. Ily but sometimes I have Nothing to say. Not a damn thing going on in my head
I don’t want to “have” a “conversation” I want to peel an orange and share it with you
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This is why people who stay in my life are neurodiverse like me!
i’ll probably expand on this later, but the best ADHD Hack ™ I’ve found/sussed out is:
bundle habits together, but don’t bundle tasks together.
Explain …
So okay. When you have ADHD, one thing your brain is very very good at doing is making connections between things- ideas, concepts, people, states of mind, etc. This can be a superpower- if most people wouldn’t think to make a connection between doing a) and b), and you make that connection, sometimes you can outthink people who aren’t as good at snapping things together.
The problem comes in when you start connecting things that you don’t need to connect, like “mild displeasure” with “OH GOD EVERYONE HATES ME” or “I feel a little crummy” with “I AM THE WORST PERSON IN THE WORLD”.
So when we’re talking about Life Skills/ADLs, you gotta use that power to make your life easier, not harder. You gotta connect things when it makes your life better and NOT do it when it makes your life harder.
Here’s an example of the habits:
I had a stretch of time where I was too sick to do much of anything. I could barely get out of bed to get to the bathroom. I was walking with a stick and generally just… le dead. And one of the problems I had was that I could almost never remember to take my morning meds.
I decided that the first time I got up to use the bathroom every day, I’d take my meds. That way I was taking them no matter how crap I felt- I had to get up to pee, like it or not- and it was getting done pretty early in the morning.
Getting up to pee meant taking my meds; they were the same thing. I didn’t have to remember to take my meds separately, or set an alarm to remind myself, or anything like that. I just did it as part of something I had to do anyway.
As time went on and I started getting better, I realized I could do the same thing with other parts of my routine. If you connect something you need to do with something you have to do, the thing you need to do gets done.
So like… say I’m already in the habit of getting up to take a shower. I’ve lived in crappy apartments my entire life, so the water takes a minute to warm up. Since my countertop dishwasher is right outside my bathroom door, I’ll take a second to empty and load the dishwasher while the water’s still heating up. It just becomes part of the routine of taking a shower.
You don’t have to think about Doing The Extra Thing. Connecting it to something you’re already doing means that, after a certain point, it just… happens, automatically.
The problem comes in when you start trying to do this with tasks- things that you only have to get done once, that already have a fair few steps to them. Especially if that task is has a lot of steps, has a time limit, or is otherwise Hard for you.
Figuring out tasks with dependencies (I have to do this before I can do this!) is already hard for us ADHDers. Sometimes what happens is that you bundle two tasks together- you decide you can’t do something until you’ve done the other thing, even though these tasks are in no way connected.
Here’s an example:
I have three packages I need to mail. One of them is a gift for a friend in Australia, which costs a lot of money; one of them is a package for my Etsy store which is Not Finished Yet, and one is a very late Christmas package.
I might decide, “hey, I need to mail all three of these packages together! I can’t mail any of these packages until I bundle all of them!” But it’s probably smarter to mail them separately! I don’t want to make my friend with the late Christmas package wait any more, so I can mail that first, and then mail the Australia package when I have the money and the Etsy package when it’s finished.
But if I insist that I have to bundle these tasks… I won’t get any of them done. I’ll be too stressed out about the Etsy package not being done to mail the other two packages, and then I will run out of money for the Australia package, and the Christmas package will not get sent til Labour Day.
If you’re stressed out about a task with a lot of steps, sometimes it’s worth it to check and make sure you’re not bundling multiple tasks together. Can you do the thing without doing the thing that comes before? Do you have to do the other thing immediately after?
Wait this is iconic. I keep bundling assignments together that I’ve had medical extension for, but I am having such trouble starting them because I have to get them all done. I need to just do one, and then decide if I’m able to do the others then or later.
reblogging for friends and mutuals with adhd
i hate how reward systems never work for me like i can’t just say “if i finish this assignment i can have a cookie” bc my brain is like “…..or u could just have one right now” and i can’t argue with that logic
Self-imposed deadlines don’t work either because I know the guy who set them and he’s full of shit
This is going around again, so I should say, I was wrong when I wrote this.
Actually, I know the girl who set them and she’s full of shit
Congrats on the gender. Get well soon with the executive dysfunction
