I’ve tried to gently address this situation multiple times now, so I can’t keep beating around the bush.
Vaguing people and situations that you do not have the full context for is irresponsible and damaging to both the community and the people in it. So many times situations that I’ve been in have been taken out of context and skewed beyond reasonable belief and it’s completely ruined any and all motivation I’ve had to participate in the RPC.
I KNOW that it’s situations I’m involved in because these posts always come up right after these situations, and it’s unacceptable. If you want to talk about holding people accountable for their actions, then talk to them or be direct.
If I’ve done something wrong, then tell me! Me wanting to try and support someone through an issue their having isn’t victim blaming or making someone else feel guilty- It’s trying to offer a support system to someone who doesn’t have it otherwise and clearly doesn’t know how to handle the situation they’re currently in. Does this mean that I agree with their actions? No! It means I want to help them and stop them from continuing those things. This shouldn’t be a line that is blurred as often as it has been in the last few months.
The amount of tension, vaguing, and actual shittalking behind peoples backs that I’ve been shown or even seen firsthand is absolutely insane and honestly worse than when I first joined this fandom and RPC. Please, for the love of god, learn how to talk to people and get both sides of the story before jumping to conclusions about things. I’ve been called everything from ableist to transphobic behind my back over my response to situations that I stepped in on- either for my own reasons or for reasons as a server mod- and nearly every time it’s been something that I put my two cents in on because it directly affects me. I’m autistic, I’m mentally ill, I suffer from chronic pain, I’m trans, I’m bi, etc, etc, etc. If I’m putting my opinion in on something, it’s not from a place of “Well I Don’t Like This Because X”, it’s because I typically have direct experience with whatever the situation is.
Stop taking what I say out of context and stop taking others words for it without knowing the intention behind what I’m saying. This is the exact reason I’ve abandoned this blog and moved on to other communities- Because I’ve dealt with people vaguing me more than I have interacted with others in a positive manner, and that is honestly fucking insane, isn’t it?
For several months we had a community that was repairing itself and making amends and coming to terms with it’s difference, and in the last three months I’ve seen that all torn down by people doing things without thinking, like vaguing, and talking behind backs, stealing character concepts, sending anon hate, and god only knows what else.
Please, for the sake of literally everyone in this community, learn how to communicate with people. Learn how to express your concerns without turning it into a big fiasco of throwing shade and insulting people. I promise you that it will make your time online in general so much better. I literally don’t know how many times I have to say this, but it’s been way too fucking many at this point.
