a not-yet-twenty something

all the realizations, lessons, and plainly the things a not-yet-twenty something like me does to find meaning and growth in life.

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so how do you recover from a burnout?

i feel like i'm burntout and i don't how will I recover...

or just by being disciplined "showing up" regardless of how and what you're feeling....

I mean, not feeling like doing anything today because body is telling you so.... but still got up, dressed up like a fresh lemonade ready to face the day and finish what's needed to be done so you can rest at the end.

I think maybe I am into that.

because you cannot rest at the middle, you can rest at the end .

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Phone-Free and FB, Twitter and IG-Free

It’s been a long time since I posted a blog because I was experimenting on myself before I could actually write it in a blog. 

So, the title says it all. I’ve been experimenting on myself whether I could actually do it or not, being phone-free and FB, Twitter and IG free, and the lessons and development I gained on this experiment are to be told below. 

I decided to delete the three apps in my phone, but I didn’t entirely delete the accounts. I just kind of ghosted it and my followers and friends, and still left my online identity as it is so then they wouldn’t think I’m dead or whatever. I still had my messenger open but turned off the active status. I don’t know. I just really wanted to have more time for myself, to invest in learning, in my mental and emotional health, to have more time. 

This decision made a huge change in my life. It’s not even a month long that I did this but the change is like a long time ago. It’s made me even more happier and fulfilled. I feel like I have a lot of time now and I became more patient than I never was. 

It’s like going back to old times, where I was still little and just doing things like a normal kid would do without the phone and all that stuff. 

And by phone-free, I don’t entirely mean I’m phone-free the whole day. I still use my phone, of course, I need it for work, for learning, and for accountability and catching up with friends and family, I just have days where I am phone-free, and that’s on Sundays. 

You know I realized, without those three, I never really did miss something. Before, I would think that without Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, it’s like I am missing half of my life, but the very truth is, I am NOT. I actually am not missing anything. Or maybe I would miss the memes. HAHA. 

Nonetheless, I have been having the best quality of sleeps, I’m not moody anymore, because I now have time to get that 8-hour sleep that our body needs. I get frequent breaks, it’s already a non-negotiable for me. I get more time to reflect that I never did before because I was too focused on scrolling and judging people’s posts which I am not proud of. I sleep before 10PM and out of phone after 8PM as much as I can depending on when I get to finish my work. 

PEOPLE, I AM LIVING HEALTHY!!! This is the healthiest I have been in, in my not-yet-twenty years. 

There are actually a LOT of things that changed, but I don’t want to spoil everyone, you have to try it out for yourself and find out your best self. 

Let’s be phone-free and FB, Twitter, and IG-free. 

22nd of June 2021. Tuesday

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28th of May. Friday.

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[amargedom]

““Whatever you hold in your mind on a consistent basis is exactly what you will experience in your life.””

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[not-yet-twenty]

adulting is meeting responsibilities, paying bills, losing friends, losing yourself, solitude, sadness, hapiness, day and night jobs, hatreds, whatever it is that you can define. it's hard, really hard. but the satisfaction you feel of being such so is much more valuable than what you get in your fun and games.

wake up and face your reality. do what you HAVE to do until you CAN do what you WANT to do.

27th of May. Thursday.

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back in the day, i was lining up in the complaint counter. the other counter was called "starting counter". the people who lined up in the other side were already progressing. as i see myself on that counter, i haven't been progressing. in fact, i just was unhappy and felt like a fraud complaining on something I could have started in the first place.

26th of May. Wednesday.

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[not-yet-twenty]

it's not always true that there's a best time to do something. you sometimes just gonna start doing regardless of being unready. we can never be ready, but we can always start. and we can start by going slow, learn and gradually become better.

25th of May. Tuesday.

your not-yet-twenty something

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inspired from the book I read today

Be yourself - John Mason

24th of May. Monday

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SUNDAY Finance day

How does a not-yet-twenty something handle your finances? Or you don't? Do you just like spending your money in all sorts of stuff you like? or you allocate a percent of your money for other areas before you spend it on your wants?

As a former impulse buyer, spender on all things especially food, being "i don't care about saving I can always ask from my parents" kind of person, to now tracking my cash flow in a spreadsheet, achieving a personal goal first before buying anything to prevent from impulsiveness, dividing my cashflow into 5 different areas, only spending the money I have allocated in my spending wallet and putting my other money into high-interest digital banks. This topic is speaking value to me.

This is important and realistic. I am in complete mindset and life shift to be exact. Handling my finances, being cautious about it, and putting into serious life goal to save have broken my life in the most UNEXPECTED and EXTRAORDINARY way.

As young as we are, the more we save on our not-yet-twenty years will make our early 20s and 30s even extra better.

Today's tip slash lesson I can share is that, I am saving for my emergency fund. Every portion of my salary has to go to this fund, every month. Now I don't need to explain why I am saving for this. I mean, from the name itself, right? It doesn't matter how little or huge the amount is, what's important is that you allocate something for it. Be consistent on funding it and the result you see every month will shock and motivate you at the same time. Just like how shocked I was seeing the balance in my emergency fund. From putting 3.55Php on it (that was the only balance in my e-wallet) to being 80Php until now reaching 4-digits and hoping for more, gradually. It just shocked me how consistent I actually was. That the money I've worked hard for is not losing, in fact, I am seeing it and it's growing. I may not be using it now but it can be of the best help I can give in my future self.

That's called delayed gratification.

Just imagine how satisfying it is to be productive on your finances.

Make a mindset and life shift right now. Let's explore together.

23rd of May. Sunday

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[sunsetpaths]

The fact that you desire it proves it’s already yours so feel grateful for it now!

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TEA of my life: lessons a not-yet-twenty realized.

I haven't posted in a while due to certain reasons;

school stuff, personal things like being drowned in a journal, being a daughter, a sibling, a friend and a human being, and just essentially living doing productive stuff.

going on, as I go through this journey to adulting, though i am not really not that much of an adult having certain huge adult responsibilities, but I am kind of preparing myself so when it's right in front of me, I know how to respond, think fast and resolve smart. wouldn't we want to be ahead but not too ahead that we may miss certain areas of life we should have met.

having said that, I spent the week feeling demotivated, lazy, unproductive, starting the day late (as in after 8:00AM) and that made me frustrated, can't finish a thing in my to-do-list, distracted with all the noises in front, side, back, surrounding me (or maybe i could have just said "surrounding" instead of going through with the words, right, well, that's style). I was like a human but not a being (I don't actually get it, well, my choice of words sometimes confuse me), not sure if I was emotionally, mentally or physically tired. I was lost.

I am pretty sure we all go through that. we have days, weeks or even months like that. it's inevitable. and you know what, I LOVE MOMENTS LIKE THAT,

because:

First, it's a break. You get to take your time but not actually wasting your time. You get my point? You're just resting from all of it, taking a pause and preserving more energy to make yourself very useful when you get back. It's actually a beautiful thing. It's like an automatic rest before feeling BURNOUT. So when that happens, you're essentially saving yourself from feeling burnt out with all the things.

Second, the moment you're resting, your mind and body collects energy with the things you do, even in just sitting or sleeping or even playing your video games. They get alerted and when you get back, they tend to be more useful than ever before you took a break. They'll make you think more and go fast handed in finishing the things needed to be done. Makes you more productive.

Third and last, it makes you think if it is really the thing you love doing. If the tiredness you feel of that certain thing gives you satisfaction or just plain exhaustion and draining? Now, that's on you to assess.

This is a photo of my favorite tea. I made this blog while drinking my favorite tea. As I was drinking to take a rest and have some quality time for myself, my mind just shifted into a beautiful realization, and took the moment to share it with everyone because the goal is to take a part into inspiring someone.

again, it's not always a BAD thing. it may be a bad thing as you wanna push it, but it will only remain bad if you don't respond to it as how you're supposed to. He doesn't give us burdens we can't quiet carry, instead He gives us burdens because He wants us to realize that we have hidden potentials we haven't met yet.

22nd of May, 2021. Saturday.

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LESSONS I learned from the Book "The Friendship Factor" by Alan Loy McGinnis - P2

I talked on the part 1 about assigning top priority to our friendships. Just a quick recall, best way to deepen our friendships is to make it a priority. If you don't see the essence of it, try and go deeper, reflect how important it seems, how satisfying it feels after spending an hour outdoor with your friend sweating out and laughing about how you cannot get to shoot the ball in the free throw line, or wake up before sunrise with your friend to take a walk in the neighborhood because you both want to stay fit , healthy and you trip to badmouth the neighbor guy you both hate. Spend time with your friends. I promise you, when you get home, you'll be all smiles and just wanna spend more time with them.

Now by assigning top priority to your friends, your friendship, it would continue to go deeper and undeniably better than it already was and that's where lesson number 2 comes.

We should cultivate transparency.

The art of self disclosure, as the Alan Loy McGinnis stated.

Be open to your friends. In order for them to understand, read and hear you, you should also be able to be open to them, and them to you. As the lesson goes, letting them know you, in a naked face, not behind a mask or something, would give them the responsibility to build some more respect for you. You give them trust about you naked, they receive it. They give you trust about disclosing themselves to you, you receive it and keep it. It's a give and take.

Communicate with them. Be vulnerable and honest to them as so they'd be to you. That transparency will give you unbreakable friendship and even more intimate in a way that you make it a habit when one says something about how her day was, you say something about your one night stand with a guy in the bar and you both laugh together about it and you go exchanging ideas, opinions and reactions also maybe a little jealousy (in a non-toxic way) that your friend got a one night stand and you can't even get yourself a boyfriend.

Transparency -> Closeness -> Intimacy -> Sturdy Friendship

Don't be shy. Be open but not to everyone, only to the people you love to be with in your life. Start slow. Let's be closer to the people we care for.

3rd of May, 2021. Monday.

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LESSONS I learned from the Book "The Friendship Factor" by Alan Loy McGinnis - P1

Learning from books is what I value the most. Books are like my one thing in a life. I came to learn to read books every single day no matter how many pages I could go to, I just put in mind how things would turn out if I read a book and then learn from it, grow with the book, and develop extreme relationship to myself just by reading.

I also made it as a task today, April 27, 2021 to post a blog about my newly finished book for this year 2021, The Friendship Factor. So here it goes for the part 1.

We should assign top priority to our relationships.

Some of us never really get the idea that having relationships is one thing we should look for. Some just take it for granted because they would think friends are going to leave you no matter, or that friendship rarely lasts forever. Well, there is understandable phase to that but here it is.

Some people invest themselves in a whirlpool, turning into parties, getting drunk or just being drowned by their social life that there becomes no way they establish close relationships.

If you want to go have a deeper relationship to the people you care for, want for, and like for your life, then you have to harvest some of your time and plant it with the one you want to be closer to. Have long walks together, buy groceries together, go together somewhere and have a nice and comfortable talk after a comfortable silence. It's like logging out of facebook so you two can log in to each other and have the conversation you want, you wish to have, or you used to have.

Even the slightest of your time, the one person who receives your time would greatly appreciate it and treasure it as long as he knows how.

Being a page in the book of a person is what would make them remember you. That when you die, they will say "He's become a page of my favorite book that's made a great connection to my heart". How lovely will that be to hear from someone you have been close to.

Start your relationship today. It's OK to feel shy, uneasy, bothered, hard, but don't let yourself feel like it forever.

Let's all get close to the people we care for, starting today.

27th of April, 2021. Tuesday.

your not-yet-twenty something

Ps. All thanks to my cousins for letting me borrow this book.

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Covid-19 and Dentistry

What do you think are the challenges and opportunities in providing the best safe care?

We are in the middle of the pandemic, as we all know. We are experiencing things we didn't even see coming. From the to-and-from work situations that has now become a work from home. From multiple physical traditional businesses to converting into the digital world. The normal commute, buses getting full pack of passengers into losing 50% of them, and their income. And from our normal outfits into becoming masks as part of our wardrobe, we can't even go out without it, it's like "forget everything, just not the mask" kind of situation. Imagine.

With all the things happening, we can't forget about hygiene, oral hygiene to be precised. As having an oral hygiene is an essential part of the human healthy body. Having a healthy mouth is having a healthy body.

But since this outbreak is out of our control, and is just not leaving us sooner than anticipated, people who need immediate dental care are being hesitant to visit their dentists for the reason of getting afraid of the virus. I mean, who wouldn't be, right?

People are concerned of their oral health but can't be impulsive on getting out because of the virus. How challenging it is.

Dentists, on the other hand, are reluctant too but they are most concerned of giving the best safe care for the dental patients.

Moreover, dental professionals are familiar with occupational health issues and corresponding risk assessments in order to reduce risks, and with applying standard safety precautions in minimizing the risk of spreading. In this case, challenges are not just challenges but it also open opportunities to both patients and the dentist.

This, in fact, requires new management strategies. The dental care professionals are advised to limit their patients to only those essential and urgent dental support, follow standard contact and airborne precautions including the hand-washing practice, consider taking extraoral radiographs instead of intraoral, disinfect surfaces with EPA-approved chemicals and maintain a dry environment, and wearing proper protective equipments like the N95 mask, eye protection/goggles, face shields, and a reusable hair cap and gown.

Some also setup the telehealth services, meaning, providing virtual care for the patients. This is the best option for the pre-and-post dental procedures. This is a combination of telecommunications and dentistry, wherein exchanging clinical information for consultation and treatment planning in remote distances, providing safety to both patient and dentist.

To engage in tele-dentiatry, the patient must have a smartphone or a desktop and internet access. As for the dentist, a cloud-based tele-dentistry platform can support both real-time streaming of videos and “store and forward” of clinical data collected, including data from the electronic health record (EHR) and photos received from the patient.

This way, the dentist can still do their job and provide the best safe care for their patients. Patients, need not to worry because frontliners are doing the best that they can, finding the best way to provide health care and ensuring safety.

Let us all remember that this may be a challenging time for us, but let's always look in the brighter side of life and look for its silver-linings.

Crisis is an opportunity. There's a lot more to explore in life. Let's get up, face it, be safe, and create our own opportunity in this trying times.

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Published August 7, 2020

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Let me start my first blog by introducing myself.

I am Janine Shane L Abellana, a 19-yr old woman with a goal to learn adult things.

I have interests in a lot of things, about self-care, self-development, growth, self awareness, adulting, investments, business, personal finance, and all the things out of my comfort zone that I could come up.

Follow me and let's explore more of the world together.