Before you DM me or send me an ask, let me save us both some time, okay?
If you came here just to call me a transphobe:
My standard answer is: “Sure, kid whatever helps you sleep at night.”
Now, my position on this topic is simple, and I’m willing to elaborate on it a little: we, as a society, need to stop believing that the treatment for suicidal thoughts is gender‑affirming care. It’s not, and I cannot stress this enough.
Suicidal thoughts are not a symptom of gender dysphoria. Whoever told you that lied to you. They are a symptom of depression.
Yes, many people with gender dysphoria also experience depression. And while I strongly disagree with the Dutch protocol, I’ll acknowledge this: gender‑affirming care (even such a low quality one like the one proposed by the Dutch protocol) eases symptoms of dysphoria, but it does little if anything at all to treat the depression that actually drives suicidal thoughts and actions. Depression requires therapy, and in some cases, medication.
When you’re diabetic, you don’t take Tylenol expecting it to replace insulin. The same logic applies here: treating gender dysphoria won’t automatically fix depression.
We live in a binary society where gender roles are rigidly enforced. A child raised as a girl who later transitions will likely feel lost navigating male‑dominated spaces not because of dysphoria, but because of social conditioning. That sense of alienation can worsen depression, not relieve it. And that’s where therapy comes in.
Therapy gives people the tools to understand themselves and to separate their sense of worth from others’ opinions. Surgery cannot do that. That’s internal work.
To be clear, I’m not advocating for conversion therapy or anything remotely like it like you guys love to claim. I’m saying we need to treat people as whole human beings not just send them to surgery and call it a day.
And no, I didn’t pull this out of my ass. Research shows that gender‑affirming surgery often leads to little to no measurable improvement in mental‑health outcomes and in some cases depression worsens after surgery. What does that tell us? That surgery can help alleviate gender dysphoria, but doesn’t necessarily improve overall mental health. People still need therapy and emotional support after surgery.
And before you ask: yes, I have sources. These are a few of the most well‑known and recent studies on the topic:
- Lewis et al., 2024 — “Examining Gender-Specific Mental Health Risks After Gender-Affirming Surgery: A National Database Study.”
- Straub et al., 2024 — “Risk of Suicide and Self-Harm Following Gender-Affirmation Surgery.”
- Dhejne et al., 2011 — “Long-term follow-up of transsexual persons undergoing sex reassignment surgery
If you’re here to call me out on J.K. Rowling’s beliefs:
I’m not J.K. Rowling. Telling me how wrong she is changes absolutely nothing. Her thoughts, words, and actions are hers alone, I am not responsible for any of them. Honestly, the fact I even have to say this is almost funny if I didn't get shit like that on a regular basis.
The fact that I write gay Harry Potter fanfic does not give me any influence over her. And honestly couldn’t care less about what J.K. Rowling says or does.
I believe in freedom of speech. I want to make bold claims on the Internet, and I think everyone should have the same right, yes everyone, even J.K. Rowling. I defend my right to be a jerk, and that means defending hers too. I do not believe we should censor anyone, so that includes her.
I also stand against violence. So no, I don’t want to kill her. I don’t want to hurt her in any way. Honestly, I think she gets far more attention than she deserves. The more you dwell on her and her actions the more power you give her over your life, she's tormenting your mind from all the way across the ocean think about it.
Now, about the boycott: I’ve been criticized for not discouraging people from profiting her I was even called “unethical” for it. Let me make this very clear: I don’t care where you spend your money. Buy a life-size Ariana Grande statue if you want I couldn’t care less. Your money, your choice. Want to buy Harry Potter merch? Sure, go ahead. I'm not your mother to tell you what to do or not to do.
Here’s the truth: J.K. Rowling is filthy rich. Even if she didn’t earn a single penny from Harry Potter royalties, she’d still make £45 million a year from her assets alone. Boycotting her does practically nothing to her bank account. It’s the economic equivalent of “talk to the hand” it might make you feel good, but it won’t actually affect her.
If you truly don’t want your money going toward causes you disagree with, the only way to guarantee that is to opt out of the market entirely (meaning don’t buy anything, ever, until the day you die) because the market is a complex web of transactions and the money you touch will, statically speaking, end up inevitable on the hands of people who supports causes you fight against.
Now do I buy Harry Potter merch? Kid, I’m a 25-year-old man. I have a real job, I'm engaged, I will soon have a husband and then a mortgage to pay for do you really think I’m spending my money on HP shit? Do you think I walk into my office job with a Slytherin scarf? Seriously? You do you, and I’ll do me. Okay?
Now, if you’re here to call me an Islamophobe or try to convince me that Allah is real
Please don’t flatter yourself. I don’t hate your religion specifically. I hate all religions equally. The one I hate the least is probably the Mormons. Why? Because when I attended my nephew’s whatever-that-thing-was (you know, when they dress the baby in white) everyone was polite and welcoming to me and my fiancé, a girl even spoke his native tongue with him. In the fucking two hours we were there no one told me I was going to burn in hell. That’s all. Notice I don’t like them, I just hate them the least.
I’ve read the Qur’an. I’ve read the Hadiths. That’s exactly why I would never revert. The Qur’an is full of contradictions and mistakes. The Hadiths portray Muhammad as a deeply flawed man, driven by sadistic tendencies and his own carnal desires. I could never abide by the rules he created because they go completely against my beliefs. Save yourself some time and headache and if you don't know how to refute simple claims without getting mad or claiming I don't understand because I'm not 'reading it in Arabic' then maybe Dawah isn't for you after all. Don't worry, if I were ever interested in joining a religion that tells me I’m in eternal condemnation and will face Jahannam in the afterlife, I’ll let you know.
Now if you came here just to be nasty, call me a “cracker,” or wish death on me or my fiancé
Let us first stablish a few things:
1. I’m half Latino, so if you’re trying to offend me, at least do it right, I’m not white.
2. Anything you say about my future husband? Doesn’t stick. He’s flawless. His only crime was waiting over a year to give me a chance.
3. And lastly, I reserve the right to either ignore you completely or throw that energy right back at you so don’t be surprised if you don’t get what you came for.











