āqueerā is such a useless term. if i tell someone im bisexual, they know i am attracted to men and women. if a man tells me he is gay, i know he is a man exclusively attracted to other men. if someone tells me they are queer, it tells me nothing about them. it doesnt tell me who they attracted to. it tells me nothing about that person.
It tells me theyāre trying to be a extra lil bitch and that I shouldnāt be friends with them
No, you probably shouldnāt, for their sake.
yall realise thats exactly the point, right
queer covers everyone who is noncis or nonstraight
it covers the identities you want to erase or disallow from the community
it doesnāt immediately tell you private information about someoneās sexuality or gender that you arenāt entitled to
and the person in question may not even know themselves, but queer is what they know they can always use if theyāre not sure except they know theyre definitely not cis/straight
you hate it because itās too inclusive and too broad. Itās supposed to be inclusive and broad. If someone tells you theyāre queer then all you need to know is that they are in some way not cis or straight and other than that it aint your business. If being told someoneās identity is none of your business pisses you off, thats a you problem
I use queer because all the common labels donāt quite fit me and Iām also unsure of specifics. But I know I am not cis and that I am not straight.Ā Like yes I could, and sometimes I do, identify as gay or bisexual, but it doesnāt fully fit me. Queer fully fits me. It allows me to be myself with all the messiness and questions and unknowns that are part of my gender and sexuality. I am queer.
Telling someone I am queer says more about me than some other identity that is a lie or only a partial truth. If someone actually wants to know more, and I feel I am safe, I will tell them more. Not everyone actually cares enough about listing to myĀ big complicated explanation with all the details that donāt fit into the popular labels. And thatās okay, saying queer is enough and is the truth. Plus I just donāt need to explain things even if someone does care and it is safe. You can call me an extra lilĀ bitch but Iām just being authentically me and allowing others that opportunityĀ and inclusivity that the identities lesbian, gay and bisexual cannot give everyone. At least I am not telling others what they can identify as.
āYou donāt know who theyāre attracted toā. Why the fuck is that pertinent to you. If it tells you nothing about that person, you could probably spend a bit of time talking to them so to know them better as a person. As if we arenāt multifaceted and complex.