eternal gold

((ON INDEFINITE HIATUS)) I'm Nupur: 28, they/them. Korra is LIFE. Cancer Sun/Gem Moon in Tropical, Gem Sun/Gem Moon in Sidereal. I'm on that spiritual path BABEY

[nupuroo]

i am SO SICK of being emotionally mature and wise and holding space for people!! for the rest of the night i am a dumb, toxic, weak ass bitch, and it is what it is *shrug emoji*

[nupuroo]

also it’s yearning hours, but also I know from experience that the person I’m yearning for CANNOT give me what I need from them. I’m having a hard time remembering that it is, in fact, cruel to THEM to reach out expecting them to have magically changed despite all evidence to the contrary. 

they may not be who i need them to be, but that doesn’t give me the right to shit all over them and make them feel inadequate because we’re not on the same journey or, at least, at the same place in our journey.

although i guess now that i’ve said that, that would a weak ass bitch thing to do? an incredibly toxic way to willfully ignore my better judgement? ooooh letting yourself be toxic is dangerous to your willpower, i think i get the appeal now lol

but i was being facetious really, i could never deal with the shame and guilt of having hurt someone by my own choice once i sobered up. it’s not worth it!!!!!!!

[nupuroo]

if the person i was vagueposting about sees this.... sorry! i have moved on for the most part, i really have! i just have these intense moments of missing you cause the love never went away, and society has conditioned me to feel like loving someone means you’re meant to be together. which we, obviously, know from experience isn’t necessarily true! but that shit is hard to unlearn, and it’s just rearing its ugly head in this moment! ignore me, i’ll go away again shortly and you can go back to living your own life without me in it.

i wish you well, as always. joy and love and growth and fulfillment, all of that shit :)

[nupuroo]

omg i cannot beLIEVe i used to care about notes on this site. or like, engagement on any social media site in general. lol okay i rescind what i said earlier about wanting be a toxic piece of shit, that was exhausting for the 10 minutes it lasted, im so so happy to not care about what people in general and strangers on the internet in PARTICULAR think of me and my life!!! ill take the (temporary but intense) misery of dealing with interpersonal friction while growing and healing, over a lifetime of being a football kicked around by others!

[nupuroo]

i am SO SICK of being emotionally mature and wise and holding space for people!! for the rest of the night i am a dumb, toxic, weak ass bitch, and it is what it is *shrug emoji*

[nupuroo]

also it’s yearning hours, but also I know from experience that the person I’m yearning for CANNOT give me what I need from them. I’m having a hard time remembering that it is, in fact, cruel to THEM to reach out expecting them to have magically changed despite all evidence to the contrary. 

they may not be who i need them to be, but that doesn’t give me the right to shit all over them and make them feel inadequate because we’re not on the same journey or, at least, at the same place in our journey.

although i guess now that i’ve said that, that would a weak ass bitch thing to do? an incredibly toxic way to willfully ignore my better judgement? ooooh letting yourself be toxic is dangerous to your willpower, i think i get the appeal now lol

but i was being facetious really, i could never deal with the shame and guilt of having hurt someone by my own choice once i sobered up. it’s not worth it!!!!!!!

[nupuroo]

i am SO SICK of being emotionally mature and wise and holding space for people!! for the rest of the night i am a dumb, toxic, weak ass bitch, and it is what it is *shrug emoji*

[xkatebishop]

Tired of seeing negative shit about her. This is an Avatar Korra appreciation post. Reblog this if you love and appreciate Korra. 

[benepla-deactivated20200506]

just delete your amazon account tbh. even past the boycott. Fuck it. Go to stores. don’t go on IMDB go on Wikipedia or watch a movie’s extra features (which are usually much more in depth and are probably on YouTube/putlocker). Fuck audible, go to a bookstore. I really think Amazon and it’s subsidiaries have thrived because Americans live for convenience and quickness. Would you rather live conveniently or ethically?

[beachdeath]

p.s. libby does everything audible does and more 100% free of charge with a library card

[axelfloyd]

I agree w the Amazon boycott, but ppl should be aware that a chuck of the physical infastructure is owned by Amazon. Their servers host millions of websites -- this is actually how they make the majority of profits. I recommend reading Kashmir Hill's piece on how blocking Amazon is nearly immpossible to get a full idea of their scope.

[beachdeath]

yes, kashmir’s article “I Tried to Block Amazon From My Life. It Was Impossible” is excellent journalism and required reading, as is her whole series on trying to live without the “big five” of apple, microsoft, facebook, google, and amazon.

[paintedpolarbear]

So this is exactly the reason that "personally boycotting" anything has no effect. Amazon has enough fingers in enough diverse pies to not take a financial hit from some consumers avoiding its storefront for two days. The reason for the boycott is in solidarity with the striking workers in Shakopee, MN and in at least seven warehouses in Germany. It's not about affecting the profits of the richest man in the world, it's about not crossing the picket line.

[nupuroo]

I BRIEFLY PAUSE MY HIATUS TO ANNOUNCE THAT DEEPIKA AND RANVEER’S WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENT HAS ME LOSING MY MIND

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

Congratulations bhaiya and bhabhi!

I wish you everlasting bliss, love, growth, and light!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[beccatoria]

The Legend of Korra: Deliberately Deconstructed

When The Legend of Korra finished, late last year, I was left with the strange sense that I had watched a show completely, and deliberately, dismantle itself. Much was made of that final iconic shot of Korra and Asami leaving for the Spirit World, in what was, honestly, the queerest “platonic” moment I’ve seen on television since Xena managed to stage a PG-rated dance-orgy. It was (to its credit) both obvious and unavoidable, but it was also the capstone to a much wider-ranging set of choices designed to destabilise accepted narratives. This would be worthy of exploration under any circumstance, but I feel it is particularly fascinating given how much of it appears to be in direct reaction to the events of Book One: Air. While I’ve seen countless shows begin with promise, only to fall foul of hegemonic expectations, I’m not sure I’ve ever seen one begin carelessly and then spend three seasons systematically and critically dismantling its initial premise.

Here are ten thousand words explaining why I think that.  Also, sometimes pictures.

Keep reading

[welcomedhappiness]

Farewell online privacy

[tikalgirl]

What happened?

[welcomedhappiness]

Trump happened.

[pizzaalle]

just get a VPN?

[earth-ruins]

You can’t just tell people to ‘get a VPN (Virtual Private Network)’. Buying a VPN is like buying a house. It’s very very important. Having no VPN or having a ‘wrong’ one can seriously damage your life. Especially for Americans because their privacy laws are garbage. I am going to try explain why you should get a VPN but bare with me, I am from Germany and my English is far from perfect. 

Let’s start with a simple test. Click this link here: https://whatismyipaddress.com/ It will tell your IP adres, your ISP (internet service provider), and your location. The location might not be very accurate, but then again, it’s just a simple website. Imagine what the government can do!

So basically, everyone can find out where you live. But there is more danger. Your ISP. Your ISP logs your every move online and they are required to keep it in case the government wants access to it (or if a 3rd party wants to buy your data (yikes). They have everything. What websites you visit. How long you stay on a website. What you download. Your search terms. European laws are more subtle on this but if you are from the US you are #@*#&, especially because Trump doesn’t support the open internet. It’s scary but maybe in the future you can’t get a job because the recruiter knows your searched on ‘how to deal with depression’ or anythings else that’s supposed to be private because it’s your f*cking right. Or you get a $100k fine because you pirated a movie 15 years ago. You need a VPN. You’re dumb for not using one. but what does a VPN do?

A VPN encrypts all your data so if it were be intercepted no one can ‘crack the code’ and damage your privacy. 

Usually being online goes like this (simplified): Your computer —-> ISP (—–> keeps data —–> sells it)

But with a VPN it goes like: Your computer —–> VPN (encrypts data)—–> ISP (ISP can’t see shit)

Furthermore, a VPN hides your IP address and location by giving you another IP address located in Spain for example (you can often choose from a list and change as many times as you want).  

Now that you know why you should get a VPN and what is does it is important to educate yourself because people often choose the wrong VPN. VPN providers are also businesses and have to obey the law. If you choose a VPN provider located in the US then you are throwing your money away because the laws in the US shits on your privacy. If the US gov wants the provider to give all their logs they have to obey.  The ISP  still can’t see what you are doing online and sell your data but the US gov can interfere with your VPN provider so NEVER CHOOSE A PROVIDER LOCATED IN THE US. 

I just wanted to make that very clear so my followers don’t buy false security.

There is still more danger!  Who says your VPN provider isn’t selling your data? You need to check their logging policy. Do they keep logs? If yes, what for? For how long do they keep them? Tip: Choose a provider who doesn’t keep logs

More about law  The US is part of the Five Eyes program (the worst):  

The Five Eyes, often abbreviated as FVEY, is an intelligence alliance comprising Australia, Canada, New Zealand, the United Kingdom and the United States. These countries are bound by the multilateral UKUSA Agreement, a treaty for joint cooperation in signals intelligence (source)

There is also a Nine Eyes (bit better) and Fourteen Eyes Program (better).  You don’t want a VPN provider who is located in one the Five Eyes countries.  If you had to choose go for a provider located in a country that’s part of the Fourteen Eyes Program or even better, go for a country that isn’t part of any program! 

I know this is a shitty explanation and please pardon my english but now it’s time to do your own research. Take your privacy seriously. Maybe WWIII breaks out and you get killed for liking the ‘wrong’ FB-page.  

Go to this website: https://thatoneprivacysite.net/simple-vpn-comparison-chart/

Make sure that your future VPN provider both has green boxes for Privacy Jurisdiction and Privacy Logging. 

I recommend ovpn.se and trust.zone. ovpn is located in Sweden so they are part of the 14 Eyes Program and they keep minimal logs. Their business ethics, however, are alright. 

Trustzone is located in the Seychelles. No country can interfere and their privacy jurisdiction is the best you can get. The US want your data but needs to get it from Trustzone? The Seychelles will simply give them the finger and wave them goodbye. However, this makes this provider very appealing for people who torrent and criminals because they keep no logs (and that is how it shoud be) Also,  there are almost no marketing efforts so this provider is one the cheapest)

Also, often providers such as ExpressVPN are being called ‘The Best’ on websites about VPNs but know that this is just marketing which also makes those provider more expensive (and they too shit on your privacy)

This must be the worst article you have ever read but please, please take your privacy very seriously.

EDIT: I got many people asking me which provider I use. For those who want to know, I use Trust Zone. They offer a free 3-day trial with no strings attached. But still do your own research! 

[writing-prompt-s]

I am also with Trustzone but I think you forgot to explain one of it’s most important features. It protects you when you are using someone else’s Wi-Fi. If you are at Starbucks and you use their Wi-Fi your privacy is at risk. Anyone with ill intentions could steal your information. Especially if you are using an unsecured Wi-Fi hotspot. With a VPN your data gets encrypted so no one can steal it. 

[rabbittiddy]

Wait, what’s going, on? Did trump destroy internet privacy with a bill or something? Where’s the news? Oh wait, why am I getting visions of Alex Jones and selling water purifiers?

[thecrystalfems]

He hasn’t yet but he says he wants to. And if he is serious about it it would be really easy to do. Since all our data is already recorded, as the person above explained.

[coltrer]

Trump wants more surveillance of Muslim Americans. This in a country where internet privacy is already close to non-existent. 

Trust.Zone has a free trial. Use it. 

btw this post only has 11k notes? That’s quite disappointing for something this important. 

Don’t reblog this post to save a life. Reblog this to protect an entire family!

[imthedoctor12]

@earth-ruins @writing-prompt-s Should I get trustzone for my mobile device?

[writing-prompt-s]

If you use public Wi-Fi, then yes. Which VPN you use is up to you, amigo. Take @earth-ruins advice. Do your own research first. 

[writing-prompt-s]

@elvesfromthedeep​ just brought the current situation in the US to my attention (March 30, 2017). 

Sources

Anger as US internet privacy law scrapped 

Congress just voted to let internet providers sell your browsing history 

To all my friends in the US, please read this entire post. Making everyone aware of VPNs is going to be my mission. Your privacy matters. Please reblog this post.

[greeneyespurpleheart]

Don’t tell me you just wanted to scroll past this. Stop looking at pictures of cats for a moment, okay? Don’t you realize how important this is? This is dangerous! ‘America, the best FREE country in the world’ my ass.

With this new law your ISP can sell your Internet history which could include passwords, usernames, religion, credit card numbers, race and much more to the highest bidder. So here is what I want you to do. You are going to read the whole thing and before you think ’this is so important. Let me reblog this real quick and go back to admiring cats again-’ NO! Don’t reblog this. Take action first. Then reblog. Sign up for a free trial! Trust.Zone offers one (here). Yes. It might be difficult to set up a VPN for some people. But is that going to stop you from protecting yourself and your family? 30 minutes. 30 minutes is all that it takes. 5 if you know how to install software. The problem with some of you is that you see ‘difficult’ as something negative. I want you to see difficult differently. I need you to push through this stuff. You are going to protect yourself. There is nothing negative about that. VPNs are fun and costsaving too! A VPN bypasses geographical restrictions so you can access websites you normally can’t or you could start Netflix’s one month free trial over and over again- forever. And it’s legal! (unless you use it to buy weapons etc.,) Don’t tell yourself that you are too tired and that you will do this tomorrow. Because that isn’t going to happen and you know it. You have to do this right now. You only have to click on it. Don’t let this/shit/life just happen to you. Take yourself seriously. Get a VPN.

Privacy is not a privilege, it’s a fundamental human right

[charliehotchkiss]

Think I’ve found a better one to look into thanks to this….

[starshardfragments]

How to deal with street cats

Be nice to them. They’re doing an important job. Do not chase them, grab them or harass them. 

Always bring some food with you, it’s just polite. 

Approach them slowly, and let them come to you. Sometimes you might have to sit on the ground and tap it a few times. This is what you brought food for. 

At some point after you have managed to touch the cat it will turn and sprint away. This is when you start following it.

Cats do not want you to get lost, but they can be fast. Never lose sight of them, you should stay with it until your return. This might still look like your usual street but you are in a liminal space already. Try not to get lost. 

(NOTE: do not follow cats with mismatched eyes. You can pet them, but the moment they run away you should immediately turn your back to them and walk in the opposite direction.)

Black cats:

Follow black cats into the floor-level vents. Don’t worry, there are many spider webs but there aren’t any spiders.

Do not lose sight of them in the dark.

When you emerge, you will be in the same street you were before, but there will be no people to be found.

Do not stray, follow your cat. Sometimes it might want to just catch a bird and go back. Do not stay longer just to explore.

 If you hear the sound of a crowd in the distance do not try to follow it. Your cat will never lead you there.

You can take anything with you but you cannot take pictures or record video or sound.

Orange cats:

Orange cats hang around train stations for a reason. Follow them into the next train. You will not need a ticket.

If the cat wants you to scratch its ears during the trip, do it.

The landscape will not look like the area around your town.  Do not panic - this is normal.

The people in the train will not speak a language you understand or recognize, but they will have clothes and devices similar to yours. They are usually nice.

Get down at the same stop as your cat. You will not understand the name of the station, and no one will get off in the same station as yours. You should follow your cat, but it will never leave the station. Follow it into the next train to get back home.

Never stay in the train. Never wait for the last stop.

White cats:

White cats live on the edges. They will take you to many places but at the same time they will never take you anywhere.

If you meet them during the night-time, the sun will start rising, regardless of the time. If you meet them during the daytime, the sun will start setting. It will stay like this for the duration of the trip.

Follow them to the edge of a forest that smells like honeysuckle. You will hear the song of birds and the flow of water. You should never stray and enter the forest on your own. Your cat will not follow.

Follow them to a building where a fancy party is being held at. Through the windows you can see the food and the champagne. The guests will ask you to join them, but your cat will keep walking. Do not accept the invitation, and never eat the food or drink the champagne.

Follow them along the edge of a swimming pool. People will be bathing, playing and laughing. It will be hot, regardless of the season. Do not step too close to the edge, because they will try to grab your ankles and pull you into the water. Keep walking.

Once the sun finally sets or rises you will be back home. Never enter your house until you are completely sure the sky is changing.

Calico cats:

Calico cats are the safest. They will follow you instead.

Walk around your town and you will see everything is the same, but you will not be able to make the connections between the streets.

If you want to go to a certain place you will find it is no longer where it used to be.

You will not recognize anyone. Every single person in the street will be a stranger. They are not dangerous but do not look them directly in the eyes.

Never try to find your house. Because you will find it.

When you want to come back take the cat back where you found it. This might be more difficult than you expect.

Remember to always take some food with you, something make of iron, and comfortable shoes.

And remember to always be nice to the cats!

[if you like my writing consider buying me a coffee? your girl works night shifts ;u;]  @senshi76 gave me the suggestion for this one!

[elodieunderglass]

Oh I love this!

[animatedamerican]

WELL THIS TOOK AN UNEXPECTED TURN EARLY IN

[nupuroo]

I hate the idea that ignorance is bliss. 

You don’t realize how cold you were until you come inside into the warmth… but that doesn’t mean you WEREN’T COLD IN THE FIRST PLACE. You may not realize how hungry you were until you start eating, but that doesn’t mean that you weren’t hungry!!

Lack of awareness of unhappiness does not equal happiness! Ignorance isn’t bliss, unless you define bliss as ignoring suffering until it’s impossible to ignore! 

Not to make it personal (oops too late) but when I was in high school, I wasn’t aware that I was sad and angry all the time, and even further, I didn’t know it wasn’t normal to feel sad and angry all time. I didn’t realize I had depression until I got to college. But I still had depression in high school. The feelings of pain and suffering didn’t just not exist because I didn’t know what they were.

Yes, I felt worse for a while after realizing what was going on. But that didn’t last forever, and ultimately, it was only once I knew there was a problem that I could do anything to fix it.

We should all endeavor to be our most self-aware and enlightened selves. That way lies true bliss.

[kakerukurosawa-deactivated20150]

long distance relationships

me: come over my parents aren’t home

bae: how

me:

[unofficialjonasbrothers]

i’m sorry, but this tweet is the best

[lavendersucculents]

When you guys have visited potential apartments, what kind of questions did you ask besides the basics like what rent and utilities include?

[dynastylnoire]

Here are questions I didn’t ask but should have: what does the basement look like?

What measures are taken to secure the building ?

Are the walls thin? Brief info of who lives in the building. Are they college kids? People that work through the day? Elderly? Is it a mix? Where does the garbage go?

Can I pay rent bi-weekly? What kind of fuses does the apartment use? (My fuse box is in the basement. If I blow a fuse I have to replace it myself. They screw until the box. All of which I didn’t know until it happend and I was sitting in the dark suddenly)

[audreynical2]

Who do I call for repairs? (If it’s a private rental) Am I allowed to paint the walls? Is there any additional storage? Do you do regular pest control?

[shovelandchampagne-deactivated2]

LAUNDRY FACILITIES Definitely ask about security Whether subletting is allowed (esp if you’re in college and might want to sublet for the summer) If you have a car, whether there’s parking/how much it costs What kind of heating/AC there is Procedure/response time for any maintenance How mail/packages are received/protected from theft (seriously people stealing your packages can be a huge problem) What kind of verification of your salary will they want, and in what circumstances will they accept a guarantor instead? Whether the apartment is furnished

Assuming you are in the middle of looking at/choosing between places: When does the lease start? Are you going to give preference to people based on when they can move in? Whether groups of a certain number of people get preference Really anything about who they prioritize for applications, it can save you a lot of trouble in trying to apply to places you’ll never get into

[werewolfau-deactivated20180321]

count the outlets, ask about recycling policies, ask if there’s a noise restriction (nothing loud after midnight, everything goes on the weekend, etc)

[bye9000-deactivated20170123]

What are the upfront fees for moving in? (1 month, brokers, 1 month security fee?)

Is there a credit check fee? (shouldn’t be over $25. shouldn’t even exist really but credit check fees at $125, 150? robbery)

Ask about the intercom system, ask about security cameras, ask about the locks on the front door. One place I looked at, the building was locked, and the broker jimmied the front door open with his business card. If the broker could do it, so could a rapist

Is there a live-in super? (godsends, heroes) If so ask to meet them. A lazy, ignorant, or uncaring super is a nightmare waiting to happen. An active, interested, proud one is excellent, even better if they’re union

How do I pay my rent? (Check, money order?) Can I pay online? (If check/money order mailed in is the only way, make sure to get receipts for sending the rent out every month!! Critical!! Keep your proof of payments made on time every time in case they get on some foul shit. Landlords are out  here to screw you and make money)

When does the lease renew? Can I negotiate a two-year option at a reduced monthly rate? Can I get $50, $100, $200 off the rent? (it doesn’t hurt to ask!!) Does the rent go up significantly after a year, two years? (Places with “introductory rents” or rent deals may do this to you… you may not be able to afford that apt once it goes up to its regular price!)

Is this apt rent-controlled or rent-stabilized? (NYC thing, godsend)

Have there ever been bed bugs in this apartment/in this building? (at least in nyc they are legally obligated to disclose this to you i believe)

What documents do they REALLY NEED for the application? (lots of places will want a former landlord recommendation letter… lots of places will also just let that shit slide if you have most of your packet together)

When is the apt available for moving in? Can I start the move-in process earlier than my lease start date? If so, will prorated rent be added onto my bill or no? (some places will nickel and dime you with that shit)

[biscuitsarenice]

[katrinatheartist]

Those eyes .

[setheverman]

i’m on to you drake

[intothecostumeroom]

If you need Plan B, here’s a printable $10 off coupon. 

[thephotogfeminist-deactivated20]

It doesn’t expire either! It’s a continual offer

[oxytocindolorosa]

Always reblog the plan-b coupon. If you don’t want a baby, stop it before it happens.