What does a female led relationship look like outside the bedroom? There are various ways it can look, it all depends on the couple. One major aspect that each way has in common however, is that a male values the opinions and judgments of the female. As a result of this, there is generally much more affection and closeness, a deeper connection. When they are apart from each other, they will miss each other greatly. When they are together, there is much more romance and chemistry. There are more dinners out, or in, perhaps by candle light. A male may bring her flowers or surprise her with compliments or show his appreciation for her in some way or another. A male can come up with creative ways to do this. Just the act of spending some time together giving each other undivided attention, is something that can be rare in many relationships. Males that do this, will find that females open up much more to them, as long as it’s genuine without ulterior motives…
As I have mentioned in lessons 1 - 7 about developing connections, and her controlling the sex life, a male will take joy in romance and intimacy and will strive for it. With a male strong enough to surrender his sex drive, he will become much more productive in every other aspect of his life. He will have the extra energy to accomplish anything. Work will no longer make him as fatigued, no matter how physical, or mental, he will always have this extra boost. Many women are familiar with asking their man to do something and it takes him the better part of 6 months to actually do it. This attitude completely disappears, no matter how long you’ve been together, in female led relationship. This extra energy goes into improving both of their lives, making both happier as a result…
He will have so much energy that he may not know what to do with himself, so it is encouraged that he explores creative endeavors, he can take up a yoga or meditation practice to help manage the energy. He will also want to focus attention on his partner, and she should welcome that attention. It is that attention that brings you closer together, and creating deeper connection and more intimacy. He will want to be involved and curious about all aspects of her femininity. He will have a desire to understand her, how her body works, why she likes certain fashion items, and she should encourage him to learn. If she lets him participate in things like, painting her nails, or shaving her legs, or washing her hair, and yes, getting to know her monthly cycle, it will develop massive amounts of trust, and relaxedness between them…
Most men don’t know a thing about femininity. All they know, is that it’s attractive, what they don’t know the internal workings behind why it is attractive. So it’s attractive without understanding, which means, he can never truly connect with her until that understanding is achieved. A male that wants to understand, and be in tune with her body, and her preferences, will know his partner on levels the vast majority of other relationships never reach. So it’s important that a woman uses her partners desire, to get to really know her outside of sex. He will be more than willing, and curious to learn with her in control of the sex life, that is key. It’s why I’ve stressed this from lesson 1.
As the relationship progresses, and as the trust and connection is formed, and they get to know each other on these levels, and he loses his fear of femininity, he will come to respect her decisions more. Once he has lost that fear of femininity, he will be much more willing to participate in things she likes, he will no longer fear chick flicks, dancing, massaging, cooking or whatever other activity he may not have done before. Women love to be pampered, let him learn how. This will increase chemistry. They will develop more things in common. So they will get the best of both worlds. What woman doesn’t want a man that is interested in doing things she likes? I’ve known many women that have wished their man was into something, but couldn’t get him to be, as a result, creating a bit of a void between them. A willing male doesn’t have to be included in these activities, she can have her own space if she wants it, but the feeling of knowing that he will happily be by her side, is a very nice sense of security within the relationship. Which also gives him space to do what he wants. Balance is key. But the best of both worlds is also key for a healthy relationship…
In higher level female led relationships, a woman can take full control of all decision making, including finances, with a male that trusts her completely. It is not a requirement that the relationship go to this extreme, but many find that it’s what they want as they evolve their relationship more and more in that direction. Others find a healthy balance between the two, and D/s doesn’t enter into the relationship outside the bedroom to any major degree, and it doesn’t have to. Some female led relationships practice 24/7 D/s and both partners are happier than they have ever been. Others like to have a more empowered and productive male creating a balance of D/s, still giving her the majority of decisions. The point of a female led relationship is that the male respects her judgement before making decisions on his own. Everything should at least be run by her first, and that does not diminish his masculinity in the slightest, in fact, it can enhance it. Masculinity can be harnessed by a woman, and her femininity can compliment and bring out his masculinity in ways he never imagined possible. A true masculine man, is a man that does not fear femininity, but rather seeks to understand it. He lets her guide him and lead him. Inside and outside of the bedroom…
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