[valacirca]

ALICIA VIKANDER by David Roemer for Madame Figaro France, 2022

[humanveil]

Love? You come for me, with love?

[succubusboyfriend]

me at any given time: can we just buckle down and focus on the task at hand please???

my brain:

my brain: ……….ranibow sprimkle……………

[succubusboyfriend]

ranibow sprimkle……..

[cr0wswithknives]

kepchup.

[cosmicyeehaw]

SPINCH

[oli-nerd]

B A N C H

[scoobertdoobertlove]

chichen nuggest

[yondus-wife]

b R o G L e

[borzboy]

strawbebbies..

[siriuslymeg]

mAeShMoLoWa

[ottermatopoeia]

🌠sprimps🌠

[tedllasso]

Annie Murphy for Emmy Magazine, 2021.

[blondiepoison]

Sophie Turner 
John Russo | Marie Claire Australia (June 2019)

[omghotmemes]

Do you see the minnow fin?

[kendallroy-deactivated20210425]

37 jokes reductress would reject if i submitted them but instead i’m just posting them on tumblr

I’m Not Just The Hot, Young, Conniving Ice Queen Who’s Going To Marry Your Dad And Ship You Brats Off To Boarding School — I Also Have Hemorrhoids

I’m Sick Of The Patriarchy Telling Me To Downplay My Accomplishments, Such As Getting Away With The Murder Of Natalee Holloway

Feminist Icon? Terrible Mom Ensures Daughter’s Future Therapy Sessions Will All Pass the Bechdel Test

Aww! Woman’s Parents Fled Hardships Of Communism Just So She Could Experience Hardships Of Capitalism

Couple’s Venmo Transaction History Paints Pretty Vivid Picture of Whose Idea It Was To Open Their Relationship

Bitch Who Had TWO American Girl Dolls Wants To Lecture You About Class Consciousness Now

Report: Gaslighting And Lying Just Kind Of The Same Thing, According To Lauren

5 Guys To Date In Your 20s Even Though They’re Not Gerri From Succession

Quiz: Is This Emotional Labor Or Just Listening To Your Friend Talk About Her Problems For Once?

Wow! Friend’s Entire Poly Relationship Drama Could Be Solved With Chore Chart

I Hope This Email Finds You Before The Owner Of This Remote Island Does, Because He’s Hunting You For Sport

5 Fights To Have With Your Boyfriend That Are Just The ‘Whitecaps’ Episode Of The Sopranos 

I Online Stalked My Ex’s New Girlfriend And Get This: She Used To Be Mormon???

Weird Quirks You Didn’t Know Were ADHD Symptoms That Are Just Having Enormous Bazonkers And A Dump Truck Ass

Goals! Woman’s Entire Understanding Of Stock Market Comes From Neopets

Haley Posting A Whole Lot About God’s Grace For Someone Who Gave You A ‘Backup Invitation’ To Her Pool Party In Sixth Grade

6 Movies To Watch Even Though Kathryn Hahn Isn’t Even In Any Of Them, So What The Fuck

Quiz: Is This A Serious Feminist Issue Or A Personal Problem You’ve Projected On Your Parasocial Relationship With An A-List Celebrity?

How To Settle Down With Jeff Even Though You Lack The Sizzling Chemistry Of Robert De Niro And Al Pacino In ‘Heat’

4 Theories About Kim On ‘Better Call Saul’ That Will Make Your Coworkers Say “Yeah, I’ve Been Meaning To Check That Show Out”

Report: Emily Identifying As Empath Now, Which, Not To Be Rude, But Emily?!

Quiz: Is That Movie A Feminist Masterpiece, Or Does It Just Have A Woman In It?

Inspiring! Jenna’s Handshake So Fucking Firm, No One Can Tell She Grew Up Without A Father

How To Pretend You Never Hated Anne Hathaway Now That Everyone Likes Her Again

Activism Win! Kevin’s Intersectional Feminism Definitely Not Just An Excuse To Call This One White Women A Cunt

All 5 Women On Bumble BFF Still Looking For The Abbi To Their Ilana, So Good Luck

4 Things Your History Teacher Definitely Told You That You Didn’t Retain Because You Were Writing Horny Draco/Harry Fanfic In Your Notebook 

‘There’s No Ethical Consumption Under Capitalism’ Says Woman About To Blow $77 On Polyester Tops From Fashion Nova

Fuck! Tamogatchi Definitely Dead By Now

Quotes From Gone Girl’s ‘Cool Girl’ Monologue To Take Out Of Context When Some Bitch Rubs You The Wrong Way

4 Inspiring Female Politicians To Call ‘Neoliberal Shills’ As Soon As You’re Totally Clear On What That Means

Huh! 100% of Lindsey’s Sexual Fantasies Attributable To The Alan Cumming Character In ‘Spy Kids’

Aww! Teacher Lonely Enough To Consider Confiding In Neurotic Third Grader Whose Parents Are Also Going Through Tough Divorce

Woman Who Just Mainlined 500-Comment Meltdown In Facebook Group Thinks ‘Gifted Kid Burnout’ Is The Reason She Hasn’t Read A Book In Years

Does She Believe In An Antisemitic Conspiracy About A Sex Trafficking Ring Of Satan-Worshiping Elites, Or Is She Just Kinda Quirky?!

31-Year-Old Woman Who Claims You ‘Can Pry Her Skinny Jeans From Her Cold, Dead Hands’ Claps Back At Gen Z By Becoming Lobbyist For Fossil Fuel Industry

Group Text Puts Aside Feminism To Really Just Go The Fuck In On Crystal

[kendallroy-deactivated20210425]

wait, fuck, forgot this one, so let’s call it an even 38:

Quiz: Is He Afraid Of Intimacy Or Is He Burt Lancaster In ‘Sweet Smell Of Success’?

[ohdanniboi95]

All great, but the therapy passing the Bechtel test one too fucking real

[omghotmemes]

Sheep in Human Clothing

[julia1x5-deactivated20250903]

[delphinidin4]

[ianvs-deactivated20241214]

[dabiqwq-moved-deactivated202109]

please this is gold💀

[cowboyg1rl]

[graduallywatermellon]

Hey so “all men are trash” posts help terfs

I’ll explain if one of you want

[graduallywatermellon]

Know what fuck it explaining as soon as I get off mobile this is important and I’m pissed and I need you people to hear it

[graduallywatermellon]

so i’m trans and i have been spoon feed this shit for years

There are more, but you get the idea. If you’ve been on this website, or any website really, you’ll know just how much of everywhere this is. You can not escape it. Men are Trash and Pigs and all that good stuff.  Recently, I found “Where’d you go?” a comic by Jason Porath, the man behind the Rejected Princesses book about a nightmare he’s been having since 2016 that seems, at least a little, connected to the “All men are trash” thing. Reading this kind of made me realize something about myself; all these All men are trash posts have given me internalized transphobia. I Actively hate myself for not being cis. For giving up womanhood to join the side of evil. And it’s not like i hate any other trans people, yall are great, it’s just me, and it’s my first time really realizing what internalized transphobia feels like or means. What makes it worse is this is something TERFs what. For those (lucky) few who have avoided TERFs, they are Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists.   They hate Trans Men for betraying woman by becoming part of the problem and they hate Trans Woman for being Men “pretending” to be woman to hurt them. They’re the kind of people making all the “If we let trans woman use the right bathroom they’ll assault cis woman!!!” stuff. Trashy people who think trashy things that only hurt people. But they made me have their ideology.  So, how many people in the above screenshots are TERFs or Radfem? 3. And those are only the ones who say it on their blogs. 3 out of 5 of the screenshots are from TREFs or Redfem and these are just the first few post i saw when I searched up “All Men are Trash.” This shit is everywhere I feel awful I hate myself They won I hope you all are happy

[graduallywatermellon]

a bonus:

note is in response to this 

[graduallywatermellon]

Listen. Please share this. There are already trans guys in the notes saying this is important. Listen to us.

[graduallywatermellon]

Hate to make a long post longer but here are some important takes from the notes

[ms-demeanor]

I have a friend who is constantly racked with guilt about being attracted to women since he started transitioning because posts like this have taught him that men’s attention to women is always predatory. I have friends who are cis dudes who feel the same way. I have a transfemme friend who constantly questions whether they are actually just fetishizing women because being “socialized male” means they can never unlearn the predatory nature of their AGAB.

This sort of thinking also trains straight and bi women to expect to get treated like shit by their partners instead of believing that men are compassionate, kind, generous people who should be expected to treat their partners well.

And, not to get all “what about cis people” on this but there are young teen boys on this blogging platform who are learning that they are “trash” simply for looking at or being attracted to women and there are adult men on this platform who are  trying to turn themselves inside out to try to “make up” for their maleness and framing men as terrible, unsafe, selfish, bad people is the exact kind of gender essentialist bullshit that says all women are compassionate and good communicators and naturally maternal caregivers.

It’s crap! It’s garbage!

You can write off all cops as bad because they all looked at an abusive, corrupt system and went “I want to be a part of that.”

If you write off “men,” the type category, fifty fucking percentish of the goddamned species, as trash you’re looking at a little boy or a black father or an autistic teen or a gay pensioner or even just a totally run of the mill cis straight white dude and saying “you were born wrong.”

And you know what, for fucking YEARS I’ve been saying “feminism benefits men too” and “feminism helps everyone” and there has been this loud minority of utter fucking assholes saying that men are trash and there’s no such thing as misandry and I’ve been trying to say “yeah, okay, those people are assholes but they’re not really a huge part of the movement” and but now it seems like their shitty ideas about purity culture have crossed over to the mainstream and their shitty sex negativity has crossed over to the mainstream, and radical feminism in general and TERFs in particular are brimming with misandry that is an exact fucking mirror to the misogyny of blackpilled incels and we are very calmly letting it infect our discourse and discredit our philosophy.

ALSO all of this bullshit broadcasts and spreads the idea that women must always be protected from men (which is exactly how JK Rowling justifies her transmisogyny) which does NOTHING to accomplish the equality that feminism is nominally about.

“Men are trash” and “kill all men lol” is a memeified, gender-swapped version of Mike Fucking Pence refusing to meet with women unsupervised because they might contaminate or tempt him. 

And it *also* paves over the shitty, rapey, abusive, power imbalanced, oppressive things that women do. “If men are trash and women aren’t then clearly the abuse or sexual assault I’m suffering from my female partner must be *different* in some way because she’s not harming me through patriarchy or oppression.”

[generalchelseamayhem]

While I appreciate the general message of this thread, I feel like it could benefit substantially from what I’ve come to think of as “Aegontoast’s disclaimer”.

That is to say, per the relevant @aegontoast commentary, it falls into exactly the same trap that a lot of male positivity posts have fallen into over the past 5 or so years since the wider Tumblr community started making concerted efforts to reject radical feminism, and particularly TERF rhetoric:

The fact that some of the people who will be hurt by man-hating rhetoric are trans (or otherwise marginalized, but in this case we’re dealing with trans people) should not be your only incentive for rejecting it. It is a perfectly valid reason, for certain, but if it is your only reason, you might want to examine why that is.

I get the sense that this exact phenomenon is one of those mental disconnects that Jason Porath was trying to tap into, without really having the lexicon necessary to describe it. Intersectionality is poison because it severely limits the ways in which you can decry certain behaviours as bad -  people lose that sense of “The thing you’re saying is bad because it hurts the feelings of innocent people.” It just no longer resonates with them. You have to say “This thing you’re saying is bad because it hurts the feelings of innocent trans people whom you didn’t qualify were exempt from your original statement.” The fact that cis straight white guys are also hurt by it is, implicitly, of no consequence.

The optimistic side of me hopes that people don’t mean it that way, and that they’ve been trained to respond to this kind of rhetoric without thinking it through, but there’s a deeply cynical side of me that knows that hurting the feelings of cis straight white men, whether they were innocent or otherwise, was explicitly what most original statements of this type were trying to do, and any hand-wringing about the inclusion of trans people is designed, in many cases, to assure trans people that they are exempt, while also reaffirming the okayness of hating cis straight white people.

I don’t want to pick any fights here, and I can quite understand, per your own words OP, how such TERF rhetoric can drive you to transphobia specifically.

But sometimes I look at the garbage that radfems spew about men, of which you have posted many apt examples above, and then I see naysayers in the comments saying

“Don’t say things like that! Things like this hurt trans men and make them feel awful!”

when trans men are but a tiny fraction of the total number of people that statement could possibly hurt. It’s not an untrue statement, but the fact that the hurt of trans people was your only takeaway from it says something. And the thing it says is not especially good.

Porath’s comic was in large part about how his sense of self-worth is harmed by the rhetoric that demonizes men with a special emphasis on his particular cross-section of demographics - the least we can do is acknowledge those demographics if we’re going to bring up his comic in a discussion about who this kind of rhetoric hurts.

If the targets of man-hating rhetoric are cis straight white men, you should still be able to dismiss it on that basis, without having to qualify that such rhetoric also harms trans people. Because cis straight white men are not okay to demean as a demographic.

It’s not wrong because of which demographics are affected by it, it’s wrong because generalizing people down to classes and collections of attributes is intrinsically the wrong thing to do. It doesn’t matter who, and almost never matters why, either.

Saying “all men are trash” is mean and hateful. It doesn’t start a conversation. It doesn’t help anyone. It doesn’t punish an acceptable target. All it does is make good people feel worse about themselves. There is nothing righteous or excusable in that.

[ddrvbiblgigb]

[garfield-baybee]

Reblog to have something good happen at 1:42 tomorrow

[crimethincingofawhitechristmas]

I Am A Transwoman. I Am In The Closet. I Am Not Coming Out.

this made me cry, so i have to share it. i can’t tell you how much of this feels like it was about my childhood.

“Some nights, always alone, I go out in stolen makeup and women’s clothes with an ID I found in a lost wallet. I never feel more male than on these nights”

[webinarfantastic]

this has been fucking me up for a minute

[limerentlink]

there is too much that i want to quote here and not enough to convince you that this will be one of, if not the, most important pieces you will read this year.

“I hate that the only effective response I can give to “boys are shit” is “well I’m not a boy.” I feel like I am selling out the boy in baseball pajamas that sat with me on the bed while I tried to figure out which one I was supposed to be, and the boys who I have met and loved from inside my boy suit—who believed they were talking to a boy. I feel like I am burning the history of the naked body that sits on the floor of my shower. The body that went to prom in a boxy tuxedo and coveted the gowns.”

[fuinixe]

This article is an incredibly good and important read.

[ohdanniboi95]

I identified as trans in some way for the past four years, but recently (within the last year or so) I've been coming to terms with trauma and getting out of an abusive parenting situation. It's been really tough and I had so much to deal with and I've had great difficulty with my sense of self and deciphering everything that happened to me and how it's affected me. I questioned if a lot of the things I saw as trans related were actually due to decades of abuse. I didnt feel the same trans feeling this past year and I thought that it meant i wasn't trans. But now that my brain has calmed down just a little bit and I am beginning to recover, some of the trans feelings are coming back. I think it might be that there were bigger and more important pains and anxieties I had to deal with that my brain just couldn't make room for trans stuff without collapsing. I thought if I was truly trans those feelings could never really go away, and when they did I assumed it was because I wasn't. I didn't think anything could be more important or take precedence over my transness. But like I said, they are starting to come back now that there's a little bit of room for them. Has this happened to anyone else? I'm still not sure how I feel about my gender identity and how that relates to my trauma. One thing I'm pretty sure about is that I saw transitioning as a way to finally be at peace with myself and as a fixer of all my problems when that clearly was misguided and there was A LOT more to it than that. Anyone who had gone through something similar, advice is greatly appreciated. (Advice from trans, cis, detransitioned, abuse survivors, non-binary people, all welcomed, just be respectful of me and each other please).

[margearys]

i feel like we, as a society, do not appreciate troy bolton’s solos when he was having an existential crisis enough and that has to change

[ohdanniboi95]

"Bet on It" slaps you cannot change my mind

[ohdanniboi95]

I have this idea for a Brooklyn 99 episode where Bruce Willis plays a character, not himself, and Jake is freaking out because he looks JUST LIKE Bruce Willis but no one else sees the resemblance, including Willis's character. And at the end of the episode we have Charles (who this whole time doesn't get what Jake is seeing) meet a character played by Diane Weist and Jake is all "I don't see it" when Charles freaks out.

[acecroft]

We’re not just an uncle and a niece. It’s something else. I know you. I know you don’t tell people a lot of things. I don’t either. I have a feeling that inside you there’s something nobody knows about… something secret and wonderful. I’ll find it out. SHADOW OF A DOUBT (1943) dir. Alfred Hitchcock

[cheaphalloweencostume]

ive probably said this before but i LOVE the twilight zone episodes with no quantifiable moral at the end, they just wrap up like “wouldnt it be fucked up if that happened?”

[cheaphalloweencostume]

everyone saying black mirror NO the whole point of black mirror is that it’s rife with unwanted morals! no! i don’t want to be told how technology is making us distant and how helicopter parenting makes kids hate you i want “what if astronauts found their own dead bodies on a random planet and had a breakdown for a full episode then realized they’re dead for real and then forget and do it all again forever, wouldn’t that be fucked? i’m rod serling”

[dragonkyng]

[mentallyrecovering]

I love love love twilight zone! Grew up on it! Had a dad that Sat us down every New Year’s Eve for the twilight zone episodes!

[ohdanniboi95]

I could talk all god damn day about the twilight zone