Living MY Life

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face…Do the thing you think you cannot do.”

[prettylilthangxx]

To the person who hasn't been themselves lately.. your spark will return. And you will shine like you are meant to. 💖

[thelatestkate]

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[mothprincess]

huh. i just thought 'it's ok to not know what the hell is going on when you start learning something new' and it soothed my anxiety significantly

[asteroidtroglodyte]

[headspace-hotel]

people get specific as they age

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[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

[akindplace]

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[thepeacefulgarden]

[luulapants]

My dad and I once had a disagreement over him using the adage "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

I said, "That's just not true. Sometimes what doesn't kill you leaves you brittle and injured or traumatized."

He stopped and thought about that for a while. He came back later, and said, "It's like wood glue."

He pointed to my bookshelf, which he helped me salvage a while ago. He said, "Do you remember how I explained that, once we used the wood glue on them, the shelves would actually be stronger than they were before they broke?"

I did.

"But before we used the wood glue, those shelves were broken. They couldn't hold up shit. If you had put books on them, they would have collapsed. And that wood glue had to set awhile. If we put anything on them too early, they would have collapsed just the same as if we'd never fixed them at all. You've got to give these things time to set."

It sounded like a pretty good metaphor to me, but one thing I did pick up on was that whatever broke those shelves, that's not the thing that made them stronger. That just broke them. It was being fixed that made them stronger. It was the glue.

So my dad and I agreed, what doesn't kill you doesn't actually make you stronger, but healing does. And if you feel like healing hasn't made you stronger than you were before, you're probably not done healing. You've got to give these things time to set.

[anxietyproblem]

[traumasurvivors]

Someone responding to trauma differently than you doesn’t make either of you more or less valid. Your trauma is always valid.

[borderlinereminders]

I totally get the whole “New year, new me” thing and a chance for a positive start. I just want you to know if your year starts off bad or you mess up a resolution that it’s okay. You don’t need a new year to make a change. You can do it anytime. And if you screw up, it’s okay. You can still try again tomorrow.

[borderlinereminders]

I know going into the New Year, a lot of people are talking about their accomplishments (and that's super awesome by the way) but I just want to take a moment to say that if you feel like you didn't accomplish anything, that even getting here is an accomplishment.

I also want to say that I guarantee there has been a lot of small victories that maybe you don't notice looking back, but maybe there were times you pushed yourself to do errands or pushed through anxiety and those are also accomplishments. It doesn't have to be a big, life changing accomplishment to count.

You deserve to be proud of yourself, too!

[chibird]

You got this friend! A bad day can’t take you down! 🙌💕

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[moosekleenex]

Give yourself a big hug for making it through this year.

[fear-is-nameless]

To everyone who needs it.

I’m glad you’re here reading this.

[meet-my-soul]