kay's sideblah

18+. kay (30s). the other things i love. miscellany side blog outside of my main fandoms. main is @hojoslutoru

[cogentranting]

Observed today:

Two little girls playing gently with a daddy long legs.

Girl 1: can it die?

Girl 2, in a calm happy even tone: of course. Like all living things it can and must die.

[lowrespokemon]

day 96

[lowrespokemon]

[illufinch]

strawberry tiger. drawing something a lil different

[versacies]

[pianta]

bratz!! passion for fashion ✨

★ twitter | ko-fi | ig | prints ★

[amourtality]

Anna Pavlova’s Dying Swan costume

[vyvilha]

prehistoric people make me cry so easily it is not even funny. and i don't mean it as a some kind of hyperbole okay i mean like straight up red-faced weeping when i think about bad dürrenberg burial

[vyvilha]

"around 6400 BC, approximately 600 years after her death, a pair of antler headdresses with feather and plant fibre decoration were buried 3 ft (0.91 m) from her grave, suggesting she was remembered and revered centuries later."

[birdsareblooming]

sometimes i feel like im climing up this incline again alone but thankully sisypus and the itsy bitsy spider and here with me

[birdsareblooming]

holy shit is that kate bush

[timsforeverhome]

Threw an empty plastic Easter egg at Tim for him to play with but he just... solemnly held onto it, thinking deeply about his newfound responsibility

[drtanner]

[seekingskywhales]

OMG HE SAID YES

[disease-deactivated20210414]

Andreea Dumuta

[dogpuppy]

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

today I found out my mother doesn't know what dandelions are and now I'm wondering what other strange secrets she's been quietly harboring

[krystal-prisms]

Where do you live that you don't have dandelions?

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

we have dandelions EVERYWHERE, they are basically our State Weed, it is absolutely impossible that my mom has never interacted with a dandelion before, this requires further investigation

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

So after extensive interrogation I have an update:

my mom is in fact aware that dandelions exist. she temporarily forgot the name and there was some miscommunication.

the truth is actually weirder

she's aware dandelions look like this

she is familiar with this flower. she knows the name of this flower. she declines to believe, however, that these are also dandelions

she does not believe these are the same plant. I tried to explain, and she thought I was either misinformed or lying. so I asked her what exactly did she think the yellow ones were called?

she answered, with complete confidence: Daffodils.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

gosh I enjoy this website

[glutton-for-funishment]

then wtf is a daffodil......................

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

buddy

[pointnclick]

Someone is eating a fresh orange in this McDonald's. I smelled it and my head snapped up like a hunting dog. That smell doesn't belong in this wicked place

[svetzzi]

go away forever with me

[kopytki]

drew fanart of the thang

[junglejim4322]

Unironically I think the early to mid 20s age group in America has unbelievably bad consent boundaries on all levels and so much language to defend it but this makes me sound like elon musk if I say it however the commonality of someone who will be like “I had 47 panic attacks and it’s your fault” if you tell them no is insane

[junglejim4322]

I rejected someone and got called “the scariest person I’ve ever met” with so much therapy speak interspersed like alright okay alright okay alright okay

[junglejim4322]

“You just say whatever you’re thinking and I don’t know how to handle it” was verbatim part of this conversation. Also everyone hates to see an autistic bitch

[transhumanisticpanspermia]

When I was in this age bracket, there was a huge emphasis on improving consent culture via graceful rejection, and it's gone by the wayside. Which sucks.

Twice in my youth (once in high school and once in college) I was in situations where I was asking someone out and I could tell they were calculating in their heads the risks of rejecting me, and both times I said, out loud, "you can say no, I wouldn't have asked if I wasn't prepared for either answer." And then they said no. This wasn't some spark of special wisdom I had - I knew to do it because feminist conversations among my age group brought it up regularly. This isn't happening nearly enough anymore.

More recently, I was really glad when we got to "rejection sensitive dysphoria" in my IOP program and it was one of those symptoms where the therapists really emphasized how it affects others. Because it does.

Being someone who cannot handle rejection makes you much more likely to violate boundaries, and yes, that includes sexual ones. Yes, you, reader who has never hurt a fly. If you don't want to stumble backwards into sexually assaulting someone, fix your RSD meltdowns. If you keep them up it's only a matter of time. Because if you're nice enough to interact with, but are known to have RSD meltdowns, guess what happens when your friends and acquaintances need to reject you?