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If I have a son: His first word will be “no.” I will make sure he knows that word like he knows his mother’s love. Strong, unyielding. I will take him to the store for a birthday gift and let him pick which ever toy he wants. The red fire truck. The beautifully diverse Barbie doll. A make up kit. A hulk smash glove set. I will sign him up for football, little league, and dance. I will finger paint with him, and read to him every night until my little man is all grown up. When he first calls a girl a “bitch” or a “skank” I will ask him where he learned how to treat women like that. I will ask him what qualifies for a title like that. And I will reiterate the word “no.” He will know “no” like the back of his hand. He will understand that “no” does not mean “try harder,” or “maybe later.” No is a complete answer and statement. And he will know that he is free to express the same sentiment. “No” is not a luxury some people can afford. And if I have a son I will teach him to respect and treat women right. He will learn from the love his father gives his mother. The way his father treats his daughter, and the way my son will treat me. If I have a son I hope he’s everything like my grandfather. Hardworking, brave, caring. I pray he finds his way in life with few missteps, and a lot of lessons learned. I hope he respects his parents, his siblings, his peers, his inferiors. If I have a son I hope he’s nothing like the men from my past.

If I have a son (via raewritestheworld)

computersaresadtoo

XP/98 remix

sridevi

havemanymonkeys

Good to know for planning reasons, continued and updated.

Neilsen has handily revamped their lists.

dumbledorathexplora

かめろう

surprisebitch

you should get the orange soda, it’s amazing

may

okay

moist-baguette

what would you ladies like to drink?

surprisebitch

orange soda please

may

i’ll have the strawberry soda

surprisebitch

fag

me too, strawberry soda

surprisebitch

exploregif-blog

gifsboom

little boy try to kiss girl

nansheonearth

This is a learning moment for the both of them.

He’s learning that if he forcibly invades a woman’s space, no one will intervene. And therefore nothing is wrong with his actions. If anything people will videotape and giggle about how he’s such a flirt. He’ll be raised believing this is normal behavior.

She’s learning that no one will intervene when someone invades her physical space. The adults who are supposed to take care of her don’t care that she feels uncomfortable. The people who she’s supposed to trust to keep her safe are encouraging this invasion of her body. She’s learning that her feelings aren’t valid. This’ll be followed with “that just means he likes you”. She’ll be taught that invasion of her physical self is what’s expected of her and that this is genuine affection.

lesfem-phasma

this isn’t even where socialization starts

this boy already feels entitled to her body and affection. so much so that literally being shoved to the floor multiple times and running away from him isn’t even a moment’s deterrent and clearly sets off no warning bells that maybe this is something he shouldn’t be doing

and she is learning in this moment that this is normal. that this is acceptable, because no one is stopping it and taking her away and protecting her. her telling him no and pushing him away from her mean nothing. telling men no is pointless and fighting against it is pointless, because they will not stop until they get what they want. even running away will not help.

they have had so much socialization already that their actions are literally mirroring that of society, of rapists and their victims.

notice how he also keeps thrusting his hips at her. you can see he has the ability to lean forward without doing that, and the fact that he does (and with intent, as you can clearly see in the 6th gif)

how much you wanna bet he learned that from watching an older family member? from someone out in public? from something on TV?

and the fact that not a single person is stepping in and telling him no is only reinforcing that when girls tell him no and shove him away, all he has to do is keep trying, and he’ll get what he wants.

this is how quickly socialization and misogyny ingrains irreparably in our minds.

hardestofmodes

Less critically thinking individuals might think that nothing is happening here, but child psychology has told us time and time again that this is the age when humans are learning a massive amount about human interaction.

So many are blind to it because it starts this early. It’s literally from day 1, you’re whole perspective. Men are particularly blind to it because they are benefited rather than subjugated.

sataniclabia-deactivated2017022

^ great point, child development 101 taught me that children are really sponges while they’re in early childhood/toddler stage. They learn from what they see.

vivifiedstardust

Rebloging for ALL the comments.

ashermajestywishes

I find the hip thrust and arm positioning particularly disturbing. He’s pinning and keeping her in place with his body. This child sees someone in his life, someone important, do this on a regular basis.

Let that sink in. Somewhere there’s a man who uses his hips and arms to pin a woman to wall often enough that the toddler above has learned how to do it. In fact, he’s learned how to persist despite resistance.

blarggsboiler

queen-angelina

aloezehra

my girl angie knows privilege and can acknowledge that its not “ooo i worked harder to get here and if some women work this hard they could be standing here too”

but more like “my opportunities are better because i was born into a position thats easier to get them and i acknowledge that that is unfair”

This is v important

a goddess

this is so important

I love her so much

My Black Friday 2015 BookOutlet Haul!

#bookoutlet #books #book haul #black friday

buttermybooks

Nimona is a babe.

Bae: Tell me something sexy in Spanish

Me: Agua. Tierra. Fuego. Aire. Hace mucho tiempo, las cuatro naciones vivían juntas en armonía. Entonces, todo cambió cuando la Nación del Fuego atacó. Solo el Avatar, maestro de los cuatro elementos, podría detenerlos, pero cuando el mundo mas lo necesitaba, se desvaneció. Cien años pasaron y mi hermano y yo descubrimos el nuevo Avatar, un maestro aire llamado Aang. Y aunque sus habilidades para controlar el aire eran grandiosas, tenia mucho que aprender antes de estar listo para salvar al mundo pero yo creo que Aang podra salvarlo.

sasakxhaise

humortrain

mckardashian-deactivated2013121

they need to get married

stressingandobsessing

i ship it

arrowdite

this is adorable

rapokemon

they’re right next to each other in a yearbook pretty sure they might be related

avatarstateyipyip

eggplannts

Wtf is that photo even supposed to mean though

starglitteredsky-deactivated201

Not everybody is American wtf does this mean

lizzinbizzin

I’m not American and even I now what it means

vigaishere

HAHAH! I know what that means. >:)

out-there-on-the-maroon

There was a series of Folgers coffee commercials dubbed the “Folgers incest commercials” a few years back that looked uncomfortably like they were implying brother/sister incest. To the point that there were memes, it got nominated for Yuletide, etc.

hugealienpie

There’s fic!

kayleesprettypinkdress

This commercial has been on since 2009. It means that the holidays have arrived. It also means that these actors had the exact wrong kind of chemistry.