Hi! I'm Onyx. I'm Queer, Genderfluid (Maybe NB), Neurodivergent and new to Tumblr.
My Asks & Submissions are OPEN permanently for anyone and everyone, though please include your age and preferred pronouns if you're sending explicit content. DMs only for people I follow. Please read the below post in full before reaching out.
I'm taken and monogamous. Not looking nor interested.
Please don't ask me for money, I don't have any, and I'm not buying any content either. If you insult me, threaten me, or ignore any part of what I just said, as well as everything else in the post below, I will report and block you.
I experienced a lot of trauma and abuse in my youth, so besides general posting, I will be using this blog to explore my sexuality and continue my healing journey. But I won't be here everyday, just posting sporadically.
There will be explicit thoughts and themes, so if you're under 18, please leave now. If you don't, or if you're a blank / ageless blog and/or chose to engage in my posts with rude comments, contact me with threats, harass me in any way - you will be immediately blocked. 🚫
If you're rude or disrespectful, or attempt to engage me in any of the hard limits under the cut - you will be blocked. If you are disrespectful to anyone else in my posts, or come with misogyny, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, terfism, racism or any other form of discrimination and hate - you will be blocked. 🛑
If you're a decent human being, with an open mind and heart, then welcome and thanks for dropping by! 🖤
Topics / Issues I have experience with and am alright to talk about:
Recovering from sexual abuse and trauma
Recovering from physical and psychological abuse and trauma
Recovering from EDs, self harm and suicidal ideation
Recovering from substance abuse
Experimenting with and being new to different sex scenes and LGBT communities
Safe sex and reproductive education
Toys and techniques for trans and gender queer partners
Toys and techniques for partners with neurodevelopmental disorders, other physical disabilities or reduced physical mobility
Non sexual intimacy and showing care for partners with differing needs
Kinks / Play I have experience with and am alright to talk about as well as engage in:
Sex with women, transgender, intersex, gender queer and non binary partners. (oral, rimming, hand jobs, mutual or guided masturbation, fingering, fisting, intercrural, penetration, anal, felching, muffing, etc)
Topping / Bottoming / Switching (can be a stone top and a pillow princess, among others)
Rope play, Bondage & Shibari
Suspension
Sensory play, Overstimulation, Deprivation, Gags
Edging, Orgasm Control and Orgasm Denial
Kabeshiri, Forced Orgasms and CNC
Squirting, Watersports and Omorashi
Temperature, Wax play and Figging
Impact and Pain play (clamping, weighting, spanking, slapping, caning, flogging, whipping, paddling)
Electro play (internal and external)
Breath play and erotic asphyxiation
Vore and Cannibalism roleplay
Medical, Historic and Micro/Macro roleplay
Fantasy and Sci-Fi roleplay
Other types of "everyday" roleplay (open to discussion)
Toys and Object insertion
Urethral Sounding and Prostate Play
Feet, Nipple and Tickle Torture
Clit, Cock and Ball Torture
Domming and Subbing (for specific scenes)
Erogenous stimulation
Food play
Body Worship and Massages
Omegaverse and Primal Play
Monster fucking
Puppy / Bunny / Kitten / Pet play
Breeding, Cum inflation and Pregnancy play
Outdoor sex, Exhibitionism and Voyeuristic play
Somnophilia and Free Use
Dacryphilia
Possessive Dirty Talk, Degradation and Humiliation
Thribbing, Frottage and Dry Humping
Strength play and Manhandling
Cross dressing and Drag
Double penetration and Fisting
Throat, Thigh, Chest and Face fucking
Group sex and Orgies
Mirrors and Videotaping
Virginity play
Lingerie and Costumes
Hard Limits / Absolute NOs:
Anything pro-ana / pro - ED
Anything pro self-harm
Emetophilia and anything vomit or bile related
Ageplay / infantilism/ little play
Diaper play
Incest
Raceplay
Cheating and infidelity
Drug use and/or Alcoholism related fantasies
Real non-consensual anything (do NOT come to me with any abuse and/or rape fantasies!)
Ganbangs
Scat
Blood play
Knife / blade / needle play
Sadism
Bestiality / Zoophilia / Anything with animals
Grave bodily harm / Impact play that causes bleeding and serious injury / Bone breaking
Unsolicited explicit images or videos
And don't ask me for any either, I only share those in a commited relationship with a trusted loving long term partner. Not with strangers on the internet.
Being approached with baby talk or very gender specific endearments (this triggers my dysphoria and will get you nowhere)
Being addressed with a title I have not agreed to - don't just call me Mommy / Daddy / Master etc without asking first.
24/7 DS control exchanges
Sissy / Degrading feminisation kinks
Any kind of homo / gender phobic degradation
Any kind of fat phobic or ableist kinks and humiliation
Disability fetishism
Necrophilia
Enemas
Beating, fighting or wrestling
Burning, fire or branding
Forced feeding
Mummification
Mutilation and nullo
No clowns, no sex dolls and no pony stuff!!!
Robots, machines and ai
Sweat, feet and dirty underwear or things that involve poor personal hygiene
Illnesses and diseases roleplay or shaming
Religious self flagellation and punishment
Hunting and gun play
My Tags - You can use these to search my blog, as well as filter and/or block the type of posts you don't wish to see:
#Onyx Fox - For my own posts, smutty or yearning.
#Onyx Talks - For posts where I share personal stories, commentary, experiences or advice about kink, sex education and play etiquette.
#Onyx Answers - For all answered and published asks.
#Onyx Audio - For all my audio posts.
#Onyx Queue - For all my queued posts.
Please note, all the NSFT / NSFW posts on my blog will either be tagged mostly as "onyx fox" or "onyx queue" or both together, so if you don't want to see that, please feel free to block those tags, or any of the above specifically. The queue contains strictly 18+ content and will be running at night from 10pm to 6am. During the day time this blog is mostly SFW / SFT.
Audios: This is what I sound like, be nice! And remember, I do this for myself, so unless we're dating, I'm not taking requests.
Pics and Videos: Don't have any and will NOT be posting any either. My body is my own, and will only be shared in that way with a loving trusting partner in a commited long term relationship. You're not entitled to any part of it, or me. Now or ever.
On Gender and Attraction: Have posted about it here so please make note of this before you message me.
Otherwise I am pretty open, but if anything in Asks / DMs / Notes makes me uncomfortable, I will let you know and block you too if necessary. Just don't be a disrespectful asshole 🌹
hello friendly reminder that you do not need a special occasion to use nice things! if you wait long enough your nice bath bomb won't be as fizzy! your favourite fruits will go out of season! candles are meant to be burned, not looked at! you're not enjoying your special tea if it's just sitting in your cupboard! you're allowed to have nice and special things on completely ordinary days! heck, it might just make that day special!!
This kind of movement. And like, buster Keaton.. if what's that shit called uh parkour! had chill branding or like a chill culture or was just generally more ill with it languorous like ice skating, tango, certain skateboarders..
Brought a bouquet of wildflowers back home with me from the orchard.
I'm going to regret the mess they make on the kitchen table (pretty sure with them I brought in some critters as well) , but they're pretty and smell like summer.
Trans activist Jamison Green's passport photos before and after HRT. Left he's age 32 (1980) Right age 41 (1989) after being on testosterone for one year (x)
updated the link to his autobiography because it was broken! here's some more pictures of him (first is mid 90s, second 2013 and last 2024)
there's an interview with him from 2017 along with some information about his life and activism. and he was interviewed on a podcast here. he's not super well known but has been a really important trans activist for decades
a reminder to transfems that you aren’t a walking fetish toy you are a full and beautiful and wonderful human being and anyone who only wants you for your girldick and doesn’t give a shit about your actual personality isn’t someone you want around you
i cannot emphasize enough how important it is that you should ideally give birth in a fully equipped and staffed medical facility or if you insist on giving birth through an alternative method you should be within minutes of a hospital and i mean under 5 minutes if you’d like me to be really fucking frank
like i can get on board with so much feminist theory and stuff, truly, and i do acknowledge that obstetrics and gynaecology as a field holds blind spots that are egregious (e.g. infant and maternal mortality in the black community) but there is no empowerment in risky birthing practices that our foremothers, and i’m not mincing words, often suffered through. birthing is natural, but it is not “easy” or even “innate”, it is best practiced guided and witnessed by those that know what to do in an emergency. you are not reconnecting to any innate feminine nature by practicing dangerous birthing practices—you are recreating a time when the bodies and lives of women barely mattered and it was expected that death would/could occur at insane and tragic rates.
this is a hill i will spend the rest of my days fighting on because while i am not interested in birthing children myself, i have an incredible passion and interest in the field of labour and delivery. it’s been one of my greatest joys to play even a small part in delivering neonates. i do not want anyone to risk their babies over a deeply, deeply misguided idea of free birth being “the natural way” when natural is not always synonymous with the safest way.
So many people think it's either midwife or doctor. It's not. Have your midwife or doula in the hospital room with you, I promise the doctors don't give a shit. Hell, you can have her do the delivery itself and just have the doctors there as emergency backup! But for the love of your baby, go to the fucking hospital.
yup. a lot of hospitals are willing to work with you to realize your birthing plan as much as they can within safe limits and parameters. my hospital is closely and highly allied with midwives all up and down the coast, with the explicit instruction to call the midwife when we know a labouring patient is about to deliver so we can respect their plan. genuinely, you can have almost any kind of birth you want—just make sure that there are qualified professionals in attendance, and it’s not just midwives or OBGYNS you need. you have no idea when you’ll need a respiratory therapist on call, you have no idea when you will need a blood transfusion within minutes or risk certain death, L&D nurses do not have the same training as NICU nurses if a baby declines rapidly. it’s a literal thousand things that can go wrong and you should be in the best place for them to go wrong.
Actually yeah, while I'm still thinking about this.
@creatingblackcharacters is hosting another CBC Book Club, starting on 06/14/2026.
We'll be reading "Medical Apartheid - The Dark History of Medical Experimentation on Black Americans from Colonial Times to the Present."
I would recommend it.
I'm putting my previous thoughts on this thread below:
#I can't go fully into this rn
#but I think there should be much more than a footnote about misogynoir and Black maternal death rates
#even IF you have someone to advocate for you. a doula a midwife or a family member
#that doesn't negate the racist practices that go on in hospitals
#Especially pertaining to Black and Native pregnant peoples
#up to and Including straight up just taking your child away.
#advocacy is one thing but you have to discuss the actual options presented
#because as is hospitals are staffed by people. who may be racist
#and if so will leave you to death or worse
text: [ “Some of you have forgotten that only three years ago you were perfectly capable of writing an essay, writing a eulogy, telling a bedtime story to a child, and it should worry you that powerful companies have convinced us we can’t do things we’ve been doing for 5000 years.” ]
