maybe im missing something but why do you want to be financially dependent on a man? how is that a goal? this blog feels like genuinely one of the most anti-feminist blogs I’ve ever ever seen and it makes me really sad that so many girls are falling for this weird dated idea… i do not understand why you want to advise women to believe that just because we are women we deserve money from a man? why don’t we just make money for ourselves?
How to Depend on a Man for Money
I’m absolutely an anti-feminist blog because the feminism movement seems to ignore forget black and trans women specifically and centers their focus around mistreated cis white women. Read “Hood Feminism” by Mikki Kendall for further insight.
You’re missing a few crumbs of common sense, clearly. Nowhere on my blog do I encourage anyone to depend on a man for money however now I will:
Ask for Emergencies, Not Responsibilities
DON’T - “I need my phone bill/rent/car note paid”
DO- “My laptop broke/My phone screen broke at the gym/My dog won’t poop and the vet quoted me 5K”
Be Discreet About Your Income
DON’T- Be honest about your annual income, your pay rate, raises or outside income (from your parents, Financial Aid, etc.)
DO- “I make a comfortable amount/ Why?/ Not enough for this spoiled brat”
Your Main Complaint: “I Need a Getaway”
DON’T- hesitate with planning trips and making excuses for even a weekend vacay/ spend your own money traveling
DO- ask for him to cover “girls trip” expenses (even if you don’t have one…you need to cover your part of the Airbnb & activities)/ sign up for reward points (I will never encourage anyone to open a credit card however if you want to open a travel one and have him cover the monthly bill or become an authorized user on his)
Insist on Investments
DON’T- solely ask for shopping, gifts and overall frivolous shit.
DO- act like/insist that everything is an investment. Yourself. Your career. Your electronics. Everything is for the long term (and his benefit. For example, you want a boob job to feel more confident and take your confidence to a new level- including intimately).
When you do ask for gifts such as clothes, jewelry, shoes etc…make sure it’s for a reason such as getting good grades, completing a personal challenge (no smoking for example) or a miscellaneous treat yo’ self.
Refuse to be Reimbursed
DON’T- take any action without money upfront. Whether it’s traveling to see them or going to the store for them and they’ll pay you back.
DO- not move an inch until you can feel, hear and confirm the cash in hand (or bank account)
Make Your Self Care His Priority (Too)
DON’T- insist or directly ask for it. Stick to subtle hints. Activate your damsel in distress. Masculine figures naturally want to cater to you to rejuvenate yourself.
DO- become distant for a day or two and when they check on you “what’s wrong?/are you ok?/talk to me” communicate your need for self care time but struggling with detaching from your work/school responsibilities.
Pro Tip: Use keywords such as “overwhelmed” “stressed out” “burnt out”.
This is a perfect opportunity to throw in that you need a getaway…see above!
Men do not, will never hesitate asking you for anything. Pussè, a meal, bail money. If you’re interested in entertaining a man, you better make that man pay in many ways.
The only ones complaining are the ones who will give a limb for a man to spoil them or the broke boys who are out of my eyesight and tax bracket.
Dropping this gem before I dip:
