Remote Diaper Care

I'm a DL in Maryland. The first post in this blog describes the Remote Diaper Care Protocol in greater detail. I am supplied with ample amounts of wipes, baby powder, lotion and 3 premium plastic backed, taped, disposable diapers and 1 premium “extra absorbent” plastic backed, taped, disposable diaper (for bed-time) daily. I have stacks of these 4 diapers (with the bed-time diaper on the bottom) for each day. Each diaper is numbered. The first number is the day, the second number is the change. I only have access to these diapers and no others. I am to use these diapers, not the toilet. There is special dye in the toilets so if I used them it will be obvious. To ensure that toilets are not being used, I have to provide timestamped pictures on demand. Diaper changes are done on a strict schedule. My first change is at 7AM - Before breakfast. My second change is at noon - Before lunch. My third change is at 5PM - Before dinner. My last change is at 10PM - Before bed. On the even numbered days, I must take a bath, starting at 10PM and lasting no longer than 30 minutes. I must then be changed into the night time diaper by no later than 10:30PM. To ensure that my diaper changes are happening properly and in accordance to schedule, a timestamped picture of the crotch of the diaper, as it is being worn, immediately before and immediately after my change are taken. The day and change numbers should match the changing schedule. Just before the diaper change, the I have to write a content code on the diaper I'm wearing before I take the picture.

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Remote Diaper Care Protocol

Remote Diaper Care Protocol

To ensure that your charge continues to be under your strict diaper care, the following protocol will be followed.

Your charge will be supplied with ample amounts of wipes, baby powder, lotion and 3 premium plastic backed, taped, disposable diapers and 1 premium “extra absorbent” plastic backed, taped, disposable diaper (for bed-time) daily. Make stacks of these 4 diapers (with the bed-time diaper on the bottom) for each day that you will be away. So if you will be away for 9 days, you will have 9 stacks of 4 diapers. Starting with the first stack, write the number 1 on the crotch of each diaper using a permanent marker (like a sharpie), then for the second stack, write the number 2 on each one and so forth. This number represents the diapers that will be used on that day. Once that’s done, starting again with the first stack, number them from top to bottom from 1 to 4. Write a dash, then this number next to the stack number. This number represents the change number. So for the first 3 stacks, the numbers will be as follows:

Day 1 Day 2 Day 3 1-1 2-1 3-1 1-2 2-2 3-2 1-3 2-3 3-3 1-4 2-4 3-4

Once all the stacks have their day and change numbers written on them, lock away the sharpie and all other remaining diapers. It is important that your charge only have access to the diapers in the stacks and no others.

Your charge is to always use the diapers, never the toilet. To ensure that the toilet is not being used, dye the water in each toilet, then lock away the dye. If a toilet has been used, it should be obvious due to a dirty toilet or lack of dye in the water. To ensure that toilets are not being used, timestamped pictures can be demanded at any time.

Diaper changes will be done according to a strict schedule as follows:

Change 1 - 7AM - Before breakfast, change into the first diaper in stack for that day Change 2 - Noon - Before lunch, change into the second diaper in the stack for that day Change 3 - 5PM - Before dinner, change into the third diaper in the stack for that day Change 4 - 10PM - Before bed, change into the fourth (last) diaper in the stack for that day

On the even numbered days, the charge must take a bath, starting at 10PM and lasting no longer than 30 minutes. During this time, the charge must be thoroughly cleaned. The charge must be changed into the night time diaper by no later than 10:30PM on bath nights. 

Diaper changes should be done on a changing mat the floor (even if there is a changing table available) to ensure safety and proper fit (why a bed should not be used).  Outside of obligatory diaper changes, diapers are to be left alone to do their job; they are not to be touched, tampered with, pulled down, or reached inside of.  Hands off!

To ensure that the diaper changes are happening properly and in accordance to schedule, a timestamped picture of the crotch of the diaper, as it is being worn, immediately before and immediately after the change must be taken. The day and change numbers should match the changing schedule. Just before the diaper change, the charge must write a diaper content code using a different colored permanent marker in the crotch of the diaper near the day and change number, which is the sum of the substances in the following legend:

0 - clean and dry 1 - wet (pee) 2 - messy (poo) 4 - sexual fluids (cum)

For example, a pee (wet) and poo (messy) diaper will have the content code 3 and a pee and cummy diaper, 5. The numbers in the crotch of the diaper must be clearly visible in the 2 pictures taken at each diaper change. On bath night, the first picture is taken of the used diaper with it’s content code plainly visible right before the bath (10PM), then the second picture is taken of the fresh night time diaper right after it has been changed into (no later than 10:30PM).

To ensure the health of the charge, every diaper should be wet and at least one diaper should be messy each day. Appropriate “encouragements” should be offered to incentivize the good health of the charge when it becomes a concern.

Sexual fluids in a diaper rarely show up by accident and if excessive masterbation is a concern, arrange with the charge what diapers (if any) are permitted to contain sexual fluids. For example, cum is banned from being in all diapers other than in change 3 on odd days.

If the charge has work or other “out of home” obligations, the protocol should still be enforced. The noon diaper change, wipes and an opaque plastic bag can be placed into the lunch box of the charge for example. Before lunch time, the charge can take the lunch box in the bathroom, and in the (handicap) stall, snap the first picture, change, used diaper goes into the bag, snap the last picture, throw the bag into the trash on the way out, then proceed to the office kitchen to eat. The charge can be at work at 8AM to be home safe and sound for the 5PM change.

Remote Diaper Care is also an effective means of dissuading tardiness and encouraging good time management.

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PSA: Pampers size 8 now available in the USA!

Supplement your stash with size 8 Pampers!

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I’m going to spare you the visual of Pamper 1-3, but it scored a 7.

I really tried hard, but I exploded in my Pamper uncontrollably shortly after being changed, even though I wasn’t supposed to mess in it while I was being punished for wasting a “good diaper” earlier in the day with just a few tinkles in it when it was changed.   Several waves of cramps and explosions followed, and I was in tears when I finally told her.  She was surprised that I defied my punishment because I’m really not a brat most of the time and I do what I’m told. She asked “how messy is your Pamper right now” and I said “super messy because of the castor oil I took this morning made me explode in it a lot”.

Turns out that she didn’t know about the castor oil (I thought she read my diary and knew about it) and forgave me for making a poopy Pamper! She chuckled and said “okay stinky butt, you get a fresh change after you also make white pee-pees for me in your Pamper”.  She’s been calling it “making white pee pees” for a while instead of something like, cummies, or stickies, etc. I guess because I’m still too little.  Making “white pee-pees” can easily take me well over 30+ minutes of focused diaper humping before any white pee-pee decides to squirt out, and when it finally does, I’m exhausted, lazy, ready for a fresh diaper and a nap.  Sometimes to earn a benefit, she’ll put me on a timer to make white pee-pee within some number of minutes that she’ll count down.  The benefit is usually a change out of the stinky diaper I’m in, but also things like a special meal, or to get out of a pending punishment. 

She said I can take off the brat skirt and to be sure to put on a onesie when I change into my nite-nite diaper which you can see here is 1-4.

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First day, second diaper was properly wet, lots of tinkles in this one (I tend to dribble, not flood). The third diaper is fresh and clean now, but it's going to be a big challenge to keep it from getting messy. My tummy is gurgling and churning as the castor oil winds it way through me. I hope I can last 5 more hours so I don't get into any more trouble. I'm not looking forward to starting out in a messy nite-nite diaper though. There is no chance I'll make it to tomorrow morning.

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This diaper was supposed to be changed at noon, but since we started RDC late, my care giver said it would okay if it was changed at 1:30, but since it wasn't on as long as it was supposed to be, that it needed to be more than just wet. Around 1:15, I squatted down to see if I had any more poop, but nothing came out, so then I tried to hump my pillow, but no cum came out before the 1:30 deadline, so this first diaper only had a few tinkles in it before I had to change it.

As punishment for wasting a good diaper, I have to wear the "brat" skirt the rest of the day as a reminder that I'm a brat. I'm also not allowed to mess in my Pampers (1-2, and 1-3) the rest of the day. I have to wait until I'm in my nite-nite diaper before I'm allowed to go poop. I hope I can last that long with the castor oil going through me! I hate going to bed messy, but afraid of the alternatives.

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This week in Remote Diaper Care (RDC)

My love is away for a week, so we needed to set up remote diaper care for the time that she is away.

I had to run to the grocery store to pick up some things including some more baby powder, bubble bath, sleep gummies, and castor oil.

The grocery had a good supply of Pampers Baby Dry size 7, so I figured I'd stock up with a few boxes of those to use when we need stuffers (not this week unless she says so). I was in cheap Wellness Diaper (what my doctor prescribes) for the quick morning trip to the store.

When I got home, I took 4 tablespoons of castor oil to move things along. While squatting to setup the diaper stacks for the week, my diaper got messy, so I figured I'd mark it (3 = wet and messy) and add it to the daily RDC diary even though it wasn't an "official" RDC diaper. This was not due to the castor oil because I had only just taken it minutes before setting up the stacks. The castor oil will move things along again later in the day. I've been taking high doses of chlorophyll for a long time so I don't get too stinky.

To distinguish between day-time diapers and nite-time diapers, we've been calling day-time diapers Pampers (usually plain white MegaMax, or the prescription Wellness Briefs for short-time (2-3 hours use) between MegaMax changes) and night-time diapers we've been calling nite-nite diapers.

The diapers here are NorthShore MegaMax for the 3 day-time Pampers and Trest Elite in baby blue for the nite-nite diaper.

Ordinarily, we go through 4-6 diapers per day, but for RDC, I'm limited strictly to 4 and changing on a schedule rather than as needed. For RDC though, I'm in a top quality diaper 24/7.

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Caregivers: Don’t make messy diapers a hard limit!

Even if you think this isn’t your cup of tea, at least hear me out...

While most littles have no problem wetting their diapers, some will need additional encouragement to mess their diapers.  Their hangups are usually centered around the smell, clean up, and embarrassment, but with some help from their caregivers, most of them will comply, and then be grateful that they did.  Littles in messy diapers feel very shy and vulnerable and grants the perfect opportunity for caregivers to closely bond with their littles and become their heroes.  Approach diaper changes matter of factly, with efficiency, kindness, praise and humor.  Get them to lay down on a changing mat or changing table.  Pop a binkie in their mouth and give them a toy to focus on while you get to work.  Make sure you have a fresh diaper, wipes, powder, ointment, and gloves (if you think you need them) within reach before you start.  During the change, don’t make a fuss about the smell, amount, or appearance, but instead use kind, encouraging language like “you did a great job going poopy in your diapee”, “there is nothing you can do in your diapee that we can’t easily handle”, “we’ll have you all clean and in a fresh diapee in a jiffy.”  Use rewards, like a sticker chart; “yay, you’ve earned your first poopy diapee sticker for the day”, “great job, you’ve earned your second poopy diapee sticker today”, “wow, three poopy diapee stickers in one day, we’re so proud of you!”  This gentle praise will make your little feel loved, accepted, and free to be themselves without judgement or stigma.  Encourage them to make at least one poopy diaper for you each day.  The changes will become smoother and easier with repetition and the intimate bonds that will be formed are priceless and 100% worth the effort!

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Caregivers: Pampers or Pull-Ups?

As a caregiver of littles, the choice of putting them in Pampers or Pull-Ups , even though they may have a preference, is ultimately up to you.  Littles rely on their caregivers to make the best choices for them, so don’t force this decision on them.

If you want to grant your little some independence, keep them in Pull-Ups so they can voluntarily use the potty.  If they don’t have physical access to you, they can change their own Pull-Ups themselves when they have accidents.  If they do have physical access to you, they should come to you whenever they’ve had an accident in their Pull-Ups.  If the little is being changed from Pampers to Pull-Ups, let them know that Pull-Ups are not diapers and are there “just in case” an accident happens.  Littles should not go in their Pull-Ups voluntarily unless a caregiver has expressly permitted it and doing so is considered “an accident”.  Littles in Pull-Ups should also know that they need to properly clean themselves and wash their hands after going in the potty.  Caregivers should inspect their little’s Pull-Ups from time to time to check for accidents and proper bathroom hygiene.  Dribbles, streaks, and stinky hands are some signs of poor hygiene and should be remediated by the caregiver.  Littles in Pull-Ups should have easy access to them for going to the potty with minimal fuss.  Keep their pants off in private settings, and in public, dress them in loose fitting skirts, dresses, or loose fitting pants with elastic waistbands for example.  Don’t use onesies or put regular underwear over top of Pull-Ups since these impede access.  Be sure Pull-Ups are clean and dry before naps and sleeping to reduce the chance of leaks.  Caregivers with littles in Pull-Ups also need to keep a supply of Pampers and diapering paraphernalia (wipes, powders, and ointments) ready for when you’ll need them.  Many caregivers put their littles back in Pampers at night, for remediation, holidays, vacations, long trips, weddings, tummy troubles, when littles are sick, stressed, need to regress, or other reasons.  Some caregivers have even been known to change their Pull-Up wearing little into Pampers right before or after dinner so they can enjoy some carefree diaper time before being changed into their bedtime diaper.

Littles in Pampers will create much more dependence on, and require much more attention from caregivers.  Caregivers with littles in Pampers have removed the option for them to use the potty, and to change themselves.  Many littles will appreciate that these are choices they no longer need to make and will help them to regress.  Caregivers will be taking on more responsibilities and must assume complete control over their little’s diapers and most of their other needs.  It’s never an accident when littles in Pampers use their diapers!  It is the responsibility of the caregiver to regularly check and change their little’s diapers.  Caregivers are responsible for their little’s hygiene and keeping their skin as healthy as possible (don’t be stingy with the wipes, powders, and ointments).  When accidents like leaks or blowouts happen, they should not be blamed on littles (use kindness and humor while getting them cleaned up).  If you’re changing a little from Pull-Ups back to Pampers, remind them not to remove or tamper with their diapers in any way, and that now should just let it all out in their diapers whenever they get the urge to go, not to worry about the potty, trying to hold it in, or changes, and that you’ll be checking and changing their diapers for them.  Many caregivers use different diapers for day and night.  Day time diapers might have fun, colorful designs or have wetness indicators on them so at a glance you can see if the diaper needs to be checked and changed as needed.  Night time diapers should be the most absorbent in your supply and don’t need wetness indicators since littles will be put into their night time diapers before bed, then changed after breakfast as a matter of routine.  Use diaper boosters whenever additional absorbency might be needed.  It is strongly recommended that caregivers use a dedicated diaper pail or adult-sized diaper genie for soiled diapers.  Since the littles don’t need access to their diapers, dress them in supportive clothing like diaper covers, onesies, rompers, over-alls, short-alls, tights, footie jammies, and sleepers.   Some clothing items are specifically designed to restrict the wear’s access to their diapers and are highly recommended for regular use, but especially if your littles need some remediation or encouragement to use their diapers and not to tamper with them (e.g, https://www.bettymills.com/?brand=4Care, or https://littlekeepersleeper.com).

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Supply closet.

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Changing table without topper. Cloth and misc. side open.

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Changing table without topper. Disposable diaper side open.

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Rules For Littles In Diapers Or Pull-Ups

You are in diapers or pull-ups for a reason, but they are not interchangeable!  What are the expectations for littles?

Use your diapers (very) often, that’s what it’s they’re for and that’s why you’re in them!

Using your diapers (often) is totally okay, and is 100% expected that you do.  Your diapers are for both voluntary and involuntary use.  You are not expected to ask if you need to use it, just use it.

It’s never an “accident” to use your diapers, but it’s an accident if your diaper leaks (your caregiver can decide if the accident is your fault and what (if any) corrective actions need to be taken).

If you hold it and then go all at once in your diapers, you greatly increase chances for an accident, and having it be your fault so use your diapers whenever you feel the slightest urge to go.

You should be doing little tinkles in your diaper about every few minutes or so (you need to keep that bladder empty, and also make sure you hydrate). Proper hydration also makes your pee less stinky.

If you have a caregiver, it is typical that you won’t even be allowed to touch, or change your diapers, or even to ask for a diaper change (hopefully your caregiver is attentive and will be taking care of your diapers (and any other needs) for you before an accident happens).

If you have a caregiver, you should cooperate fully with having your diaper checked, and having your diaper changed (if you don’t and your diaper leaks (which it will eventually), then it’s your fault and you will be in trouble).

Even if you're in diapers only a night, these rules don’t change.  Once the diaper is on, it stays on and you’re expected to use it whenever you have the urge to go, and not just for involuntary use (like bedwetting).  Attentive caregivers will check and change your diaper right before going to sleep and even while you sleep if your diaper gets full.  Being in a fresh diaper before going to sleep is the best way to reduce night-time accidents.

If you’re in pull-ups, the rules are very different than when you’re in diapers, and you’ll need to be more disciplined or face discipline!

Your pull-up is like protective underwear (trainers) and is there “just in case”, mostly for involuntary use.  Being in pull-ups and being allowed to use the potty for voluntary use gives you more independence and responsibilities.

You are expected to try to keep your pull-ups clean and dry, unless you ask your caregiver and they say its okay for you to use it (like if you’re stuck in traffic, or at a concert or movie, or having tummy troubles and can't make it to a potty in time)

Unlike diapers, going potty in your pull-ups is an accident and might get you in trouble (like getting spanked and put back in diapers until further notice).

You won’t be allowed to take your pull-up off, unless your caregiver says its okay, but you will probably be allowed to pull them down to go potty in the toilet and pull them back up when you’re done.

Pull-ups are way more likely to leak than diapers.  Having an accident in your pull-up and having it leak could mean double-trouble for you (and your rear-end).

Having to change your used pull-up will not be popular with your caregiver because some of your clothes might need to be taken off completely before you can be cleaned up and get put into a fresh pull-up.  Keep in mind, that it might be easier for the caregiver to rip the pull-up off, give you a (deserved) spanking, then change you into a fresh diaper, then to take your clothes off and slip a fresh pull-up on you.

If the additional expectations are causing stress, it might be a really good idea to very sweetly ask your caregiver to put you back in diapers instead of using your pull-ups and getting in trouble. Long car rides, air travel, movies, concerts, vacations (Disney!), afternoon naps, sleeping, sicknesses (tummy troubles!), and getting over stressful times, are some very common (and good) reasons for being put back in diapers.

Even though you went in the potty and not in your pull-ups isn’t enough.  Not washing your hands properly, or dribbles and streaks in your pull-ups (or other indicators of improper hygiene) can result in punishments and/or getting put back in diapers.

I expect better behavior now that it’s clear what the rules are!

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I really need a fresh diaper, but my nite-nites Pamper still has 4 hours left!! After that, the safe holding the key to my locked diaper cover will open and I can finally be changed!

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Got a request to see the front of the diaper strap. This is a different tie from the one below, but close enough (every tie turns out different). The rope is just cotton clothesline. The key objectives are to tie the diaper on very snugly, tight wedgie in the rear to discourage pushies (a privilege to grant later) and sinching down the chastity cage in the front. There is extra rope to be used to tie to beds, chairs or to be used as a lead. 6mm parachord is on the way for more interesting things to come!

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“Stop your fussing! I know your having troubles making a pushie, but the answer is still no! You were caught tampering with your diaper so need to wear your strap today. I’ll take it off for your nite-nite diaper change.”

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A few months have passed so my caregiver restocked my diapers. Here’s the uncased stock of my daycare diapers. On the bottom right you can see a few bags of my nite-nite diapers (ABU Space). My nite-nite diapers are kept in our bedroom where I am changed before bed, but there’s not enough space (no pun intended) for them right now so a few bags had to go into my daycare closet.

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Day time, uncased diapers, supplies and pail.