So, I just moved. Yeah, it has been a time. I would call it a good time because I am an extrovert and I love new things, places and people. I am ecstatic to explore the city and meet people and do things that I have never done before. Yes, you may say that you love people and new things but are still not excited for your move. That is fair. Not everyone is the same and people can differ. I do believe that a community is important for everyone though. I can only encourage you to explore for a good month to make the best of your experience, yes, even you you dear introvert. You may make friends that could be the best people you have ever met. I am a little wary to make friends when I am not sure how long I will be able to keep them. I move on to places and new spaces so much that I am never completely sure who will stay who will go from my life. That small voice in my ear telling me it might not be worth it would be silenced quickly when I agree to things like being invited to a bloc party and go to an adorable amusement park, which was terrifying by the way.
New things are scary and I am never sure what will be helpful or hurtful. That thrifting trip with that new friend was fun but I spent a lot of gas money that I should have been saving. Meh. Live and learn. I guess I won't be able to get that footlong and I will stick with the 6-inch sub. My bad. So there are ups and downs but risk is important when exploring new places. "Oh ok, the risk speech again, huh?" you might be saying. Yes, that is something I am working on and I encourage you to do too. There; and we are done with that fatherly life lesson with Tim.
Transition can be so strange for people. Yes, it is weird. Yes, it is new. Yes, it can be terrifying to be applying and not hearing back for weeks. Be excited. There are so many opportunities that could find you. Please, Please, Please, do not focus on where you came from and what you are missing out on. If you feel too down, text your friends and keep contact with those you would be so pained to loose. Keep investing in those friends. Do not loose contact with them. It is hard to talk about stuff happing where you were just spending so much of your time and energy. Keep messaging, snapping, creeping and calling your friends that have the time and ability to stay connected.
There is another side to moving that is so hard but happens and I know you can live after such happenstance. Moving on from some friendships. This happens. I can not tell you it is a bad or good thing. Some friendships hold you back from doing or being the person you have always wanted to be and you can now blossoming. That can be a great reason for losing connection with someone. There is always the flip side that says you may have been better equipped to adventure, socialize or even just be as a person. Do not let that hold you back. Move forward. Move towards what you want to do with your life. Be who you were made to be. Explore yourself. Maybe you will be the person someone has been looking for in a friend.
Moving forward does not mean forgetting the past. Cherish it. Relish it. I would urge you not to get lost in it. When you start thinking of old memories that you had with friends and it starts to consume your heart with sadness. Blink. Blink again. Take a deep breath, and look around at the place you are now. Does it look good to you. No? Then make it what you want it to be. Chase the happiness you want and maybe you will find it, or maybe you will find something better you could not even imagine. Imagine all the things you cannot even imagine. LOL. Good luck. ;) That will keep you busy.
So here it is. The reasons for this mumbo-jumo-- Move on and enjoy your new place. You can. I believe in you. If you REALLY feel like you cant enjoy the place around you, then focus on your self. Are you as fit as you want to me? Are you as skilled as you want to be? Are you as read as you want to be? Do you like food and can you make your favorite food? Those are things you can do to grow yourself. So get out there and explore places, spaces and yourself. You will experience all the things your could have never even thought of! Thanks for letting my pep-talk myself and I hope you got something from it! :)
-T