PD Central

Hi! This is a blog for people with personality disorders, run by people with personality disorders. Together, we can have discussions about our pd's, complain about our PDs, and hopefully work together as a community to solve the issues and problems...

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a big part of being happy is being excited. be excited for everything - making a cup of tea, decorating your future apartment, seeing a friend again, falling in love unexpectedly, the next episode of a show you like, finishing something stressful, buying something you’ve been saving up for, a new album, sunsets, traveling, road trips, and the feeling of going to bed after a long day. think of something to be excited about and daydream about it often when you’re sad.

[adhdpie]

‘am i Having A Brain Problem or Being a Shithead’: a short procrastination checklist

aka why tf am i procrastinating on The Thing (more like a flowchart, actually)

lots of people who have executive function difficulties worry about whether they’re procrastinating on a task out of laziness/simply wanting to be a jerk or mental struggles. this checklist might help you figure out which it is at any given time! (hint: it’s almost never laziness or being a jerk.) (obligatory disclaimer: this is just what works for me! something different might work better for you.)

1) do I honestly intend to start the task despite my lack of success?

yes: it’s a Brain Problem. next question

no: it’s shitty to say one thing & do another. better be honest with myself & anyone expecting me to do the task.

2) am I fed, watered, well-rested, medicated properly, etc?

yes: next question

no: guess what? this is the real next task

3) does the idea of starting the task make me feel scared or anxious?

yes: Anxiety Brain. identify what’s scaring me first.

no: next question

4) do I know how to start the task?

yes: next question

no: ADHD Brain. time to make an order of operations list.

5) do I have everything I need to start the task?

yes: next question

no: ADHD Brain lying to me about the steps again, dangit. first task is ‘gather the materials’.

6) why am i having a hard time switching from my current task to this new task?

i’m having fun doing what i’m doing: it’s okay to have fun doing a thing! if task is time-sensitive, go to next question.

i have to finish doing what i’m doing: might be ADHD brain. can I actually finish the current task or will I get trapped in a cycle? does this task really need to be finished?

the next task will be boring/boring-er than the current task: ADHD brain. re-think the next task. what would make it exciting? what am I looking forward to?

I might not have enough time to complete the task: ADHD brain wants to finish everything it starts. (if task is time-sensitive, go to next question)

i just want to make the person who asked me to do it angry: sounds like anxiety brain trying to punish itself, because I know I’ll be miserable if someone is angry at me. why do i think I deserve punishment?

no, I seriously want to piss them off: okay, i’m being a shithead

7) have I already procrastinated so badly that I now cannot finish the task in time?

yes: ADHD brain is probably caught in a guilt-perfection cycle. since I can’t have the task done on time, i don’t even want to start.

reality check: having part of a thing done is almost always better than none of a thing done. if I can get an extension, having part of it done will help me keep from stalling out until the extension deadline. i’ll feel better if I at least try to finish it.

no, there’s still a chance to finish on time: ADHD brain thinks that I have all the time in the world, but the truth is I don’t. 

reality check: if i’m having fun doing what I’m doing, I can keep doing it, but I should probably set a timer & ask someone to check on me to make sure I start doing the task later today.

8) I’ve completed the checklist and still don’t know what’s wrong!

probably wasn’t honest enough with myself. take one more look.

if I’m still mystified, ask a friend to help me talk it out.

hope this helps some of you! YOU’RE DOING GREAT SWEETIE DON’T GIVE UP ON YOU

[sweetschizo-deactivated20190808]

Hey if you’re schizophrenic/psychotic I just want you to know that you’re a wonderful person and that you deserve so much better than the demonization, marginalization and stigmatization you face in this society.

[sweetschizo-deactivated20190808]

Please consider reblogging this/other positivity posts for schizophrenic/psychotic people every once in a while. If you have more than 100 followers, odds are that a couple of them experiences psychosis and that they rarely see positivity posts for people with their symptoms.

[horizonthetransient]

if youre stealing my personality traits, and im stealing your personality traits… then whos flying the plane???

[buddhaprayerbeads]

A simple mental health pain scale.

[southernbitchface]

I’m so thankful this exists. I think that many people with mental health issues (myself included) downplay what they’re going through.

I’m an 8 right now. If I hadn’t seen this chart tonight I’d keep denying my struggle. Now I have to face it.

[autisticarchive-deactivated2019]

I see too many recovery/positivity blogs pushing that “you can do everything you put your mind to” and that “you’re limitless” so this is your daily reminder that you don’t have to push yourself past your limits to be strong, that pushing yourself past your limits can have negative consequences for your mental and physical health and that there’s strength and recovery in acknowledging and accepting your limits.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

7 Tips for Improving your Social Life

1. Ignore your feelings when they say to put walls … and actively decide to build a bridge instead.

2. Don’t compare yourself to others, or attack yourself. Appreciate your talents and the things that make you “you.”

3. Pay attention to your thoughts when you feel anxious or afraid. Imagine being successful, and relaxed, and popular.

4. Focus on what’s best in others; validate their gifts and strengths.

5. Avoid touchy topics; don’t be boring or offensive; and notice when it’s time to let another take the stage.

6. Try to focus more on others and the things that interest them. Avoid the trap of talking about me, me, me!

7. Be genuine and real – as that puts others at their ease … and others are more likely to be natural as well.

[pdcentral]

i'm p sure i have hpd, but i feel weird bc i've been in a long term committed relationship? i dated my bf for almost 2 years and then broke up with him for selfish reasons. and after i spent three months being miserable w/o him, i apologized and we got back together? i don't feel like i can date anyone else despite how much i want ppl to like me bc he gives me constant praise that i don't think i could get from anyone else (& bc i love him). idk does this sound like i could still have hpd?

Hey there! Sorry for the late response here. I’m not a professional of any kind, but it sounds like you could have hpd with some bpd symptoms. I know the two disorders have similar and overlapping symptoms. Is it possible that your boyfriend could be a favourite person? FP is a bpd exclusive term, so maybe you could have some traits of that? I myself do not have bpd so I may not be the best person to say. Anyone with bpd or hpd able to weigh in here?

-Mod Dani

[hakuteeth]

me: I can take criticism!!!

somebody: hmm well….

me, already crying: yeah ????? What is it???????

[rattlasneke-deactivated20180415]

Mental illness is weird BC you don’t cry at death but your local shop not having organic yellow bell peppers throws you into a panicked state where nothing will ever be okay again and the world is burning.

[this-is-psychosis]

I often talk about reality checking and going along with it when helping someone deal with delusions, but I felt as if I didn’t really make it clear to what I meant when I said it.

Recently I saw a post similar to “how to sneakily give your delusional friend a reality check when they told you not to” and honestly, that’ll just make us lose trust for you. Because we can tell when you do that.

[natureh]

[chronically-kyle]

Choose recovery. <3

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[portdetective]

how to get people to stop saying “well you don’t SEEM [mental illness]”. yes karen, I know, I’ve been trying to hide my symptoms.

[implosioni]

!!!

[andywarhoel-moved]

Tbpd/hpdfw “I’m going to be super outgoing and loud in public to make people like me but then later feel like I was super annoying and regret it with the entirety of my being”

[userboxer]