I'm sorry, I need to get this out. I need to get this out or I'm going to stew over it and all I want to do is go to sleep. My head won't be quiet until I get this out.
If a friend asks you a favor, be honest in your answer and actions. Don't either, say you will even though you know you have no intent of following through, or, say you will and then pretend you did the favor, then act like you tried but just couldn't for X reason.
Or, if you do plan on helping and forget to? Admit that. Don't pretend or lie here, either.
If you don't want to do it, don't agree. Just say no. Don't lie. That's not what good friends do. Even good friends aren’t able to do all favors and that's fine.
Someone did the latter of the 'Don't's with me today and he really could have said no. I gave him an out multiple times and he said he wanted to help me. Then when I checked in on him, "I swear I really tried, I don't know what happened 🥺"
I went to see why his tries hadn't worked?
It was all *exactly* where I left it...
He either never planned on helping, or he agreed to help and forget. Regardless, he lied to my face. I could confront him but why bother? It'll either turn into a fight or a gaslighting attempt and I just don't have it in me anymore
That song about sums up our friendship anymore and it breaks my damn heart because of how close we used to be.
I genuinely would not have been mad or felt any kind of way if he said no to helping me get something done because I couldn't be in two places at once. It would have just been a 'well damn' and I would've moved on. But then he had to lie. Over something so simple.
Like... It was *so* flimsy a lie that the only way I can feel right now is, he thinks I'm stupid. How else am I supposed to feel?
I know this may seem like a small thing, but this is one small thing in a vast accumulation of a bunch of little and big things.
I don't lie to him, we're not supposed to lie to each other, but here we are. He's sound asleep and I'm struggling to shut my head up because I can't figure out what happened to make this how we are now.
If you're still here, thanks for hearing me out.