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@phoenix-positivity
Asking someone you barely know what their disability is equatable to just coming up to someone and saying “hey what’s the most traumatic thing that’s ever happened to you?”
Able-bodied people assume most people with mobility aids ESPECIALLY wheelchairs, have been in some sort of traumatic accident, and yet y’all still come up to us asking.
Switching Blogs
I will be using this blog (disabled-phoenix) @disabled-phoenix from now on because I do not like the fact that my current blog has a lot of triggering trauma vent content on it (in my blog archive) which can show up for people not expecting that when they browse my blog. I also do not want to delete those posts because it's my journey from healing through trauma and expressing my feelings.
I hope to see you on my other blog! (:
Last time I tried this I couldn't get used to the change, but I'm going to try it again. It's called disabled-phoenix because that is the main chapter of my life right now. (as you probably have noticed)
Affirmations bc i'm disabled & struggle with internalized ableism:
I am doing good. My goals are mine, and I don't need to compare myself to other people.
I am inherently worthy as a human being, regardless of my productivity (or lack thereof).
I am allowed to rest, and it is okay that I need to rest almost 24/7 because of my disabilities. Rest is not a break to be earned; it's a need, and everyone's needs are different.
I am allowed to enjoy things simply because they make me happy. My joy is a human need, not something to be commodified.
I have so many strengths: thoughtfulness, compassion, gentleness, creativity, etc. These are the core of who I am.
I am loved and cared for. There are so many people like me across the world, and any time I feel lonely, there is another disabled person somewhere feeling the same. In the same vein, there are disabled activists who are fighting for us; being a voice for people who can't make their voice heard, or don't even know it's an option.
I am not alone <3 And neither is the person reading this. We are worthy, valued, and important. No ifs, ands, or buts.
If your needs require extra effort from those around you, know that you are completely worth it!
You are so deserving of a world that you can more comfortably live in!
[id: a happy cockatiel on a orange yellow background next to the text "You are worth accommodating!" /End id]
Trans visibility has gotten scarier for years now, and the trans people celebrating today are extraordinary. I love every single one of my trans siblings, including the ones who don't want to be visible today or can't be. Stay safe, and don't let them take your pride away from you.
your reminder that someone who is self-absorbed is not a narcissist unless they happen to have NPD.
it’s ok to use words like:
- arrogant
- selfish
- egotistical
or any word along those lines instead, there’s no need to armchair diagnose people (often incorrectly) with a disorder that they do not actually display symptoms of.
Not your performance at work or school, not any physical or mental health condition, not your sexual orientation, not your skills or talents, not anything.
it’s okay to need to put your health first. you don’t have to push it so much that you break down.
asking for help is morally neutral. needing assistance (even a lot of it!!!) is morally neutral. you’re not a bad person for not being able to do things on your own🫂
It’s okay to ask for help.
I made strawberry fabric covers for my rollator today. (the first attempt, more designs will follow) Admire my amazing skills to edit out the background in Paint. Featuring Henrietta.
Shout out to people who are frustrated with their mobility aids:
People who need more supportive aids than they have.
People who need less supportive aids than they have.
People who need a custom mobility aid but can't access it.
People whose family/caretaker(s)/doctor(s) are preventing them from getting best aid for them.
People whose mobility aids are broken and can't be easily fixed or replaced.
People who have the right mobility aid for them but face a lot of inaccessibility.
People with big, noisy, or otherwise attention-grabbing aids that draw unwanted attention.
People whose mobility aids cause pain, fatigue, or other symptom increases that can't be remedied.
It's ok to have mixed or negative feelings about your specific mobility aid or about needing an aid in general. Expressing frustration about your aid isn't being ungrateful or setting back progress in disability acceptance. It's normal to be frustrated when you're being prevented from living the life you want to live.
[Image ID: a banner that says "this post is about physical disability, don't derail" on the first line and "physically abled people don't speak including talking in tags" on the second].
i think a lot of people in general would do so much better if we followed the new principle i put in my own life and it's called "you know what? hell yeah"
anytime i would normally judge someone on something harmless or on a matter of taste, i say "you know what dude? hell yeah" and it actually has improved my mood drastically. i spend a lot less time being angry.
some examples:
• customer orders a weird drink at work? you know what dude, hell yeah
• someone makes a character that would be considered overpowered or "cringe"? you know what dude, hell yeah
• someone has an outfit that seems like it doesn't match or feels out of place? you know what dude, hell yeah
• someone's pluralkit or octocon has a bunch of aesthetic banners and stuff? you know what dude, hell yeah
• someone uses a shitton of microlabels and custom roles for their system? you know what dude, hell yeah
• someone has a hobby i don't understand? you know what dude, hell yeah
i think we should do that more towards each other and also towards ourselves. i think it could be applied to a lot of things we frequently judge each other for and things we frequently feel insecure about in ourselves. i don't have to understand the hows or whys or even the whats to be affirming and kind to others. same goes for things i used to judge myself about. i want to use a mobility aid? you know what dude, hell yeah. i want to wear gloves for no reason? you know what dude, hell yeah.
it's just been really nice. i dare you to try it for a day or two.
A drawing of my wheelchair for disability pride month!
(ID: on a medium grey background is a line art drawing of an ultra-lightweight wheelchair, specifically a Tilite Aero Z chair. The line art is colored in a gradient in stripes to mimic the disability pride flag. The colors from the lower left to the upper right are: a muted red, yellow, white, sky blue and a hunter green. End ID)
And this is my flame chariot in all it’s glory!
(ID: two photos of a red tilite aero z wheelchair from the front and back. The chair has flame stickers and orange and yellow accents, the spokes of the wheels are alternating red, orange and yellow in a pattern. The seat has a orange fabric handmade cushion cover. The backrest has a flame pattern cover, and a hand embroidered patch on the back is of a wheelchair user with a mohawk with flames coming out of the back. End ID)
