stay alive today, okay?

this blog is here to attempt to make the sysblr tags more positive. read pinned for more info! any reason to live is a good reason to live.

[pluralskeepliving]

hello!

welcome to @pluralskeepliving . we initially made this blog in 2024 because we noticed the need for more uplifting and encouraging spaces for plurals, systems, multiples, collectives, and people with CDDs.

now, we've redone things because we've noticed how much the above folks often struggle with mental illness & suicidal ideation. we've also noticed how much suicide baiting is prevalent on sysblr in general, so this is (in part) a way to help combat it.

we'll post/accept reasons to live (big and small), helpful resources, scrolling checkpoints, non-toxic positivity, things that make people smile, whatever you need some hype about, and anything you put in our askbox that isn't harmful. we do take specific requests for positivity.

our queue posts twice per day at 9:00 and 17:00 (5:00 PM) eastern time. also, we do have themed days of the weekend! we have feel-good friday, small wins saturday, and self-care sunday.

we are an adult system who is physically disabled and mentally ill. we struggle ourselves with chronic suicidality that fluctuates in intensity. please use any pronouns except they/them for us.

common triggers will be tagged with "__ tw" (no quotes).

we don't have a DNI, but we will block anyone who brings anything toxic or hateful to this space. anyone of any syscourse stance is welcome here so long as you don't bring drama to this blog. the internet has plenty enough hatred and vitriol elsewhere - this space is for kindness and respite.

we firmly believe that nobody deserves to be harassed, suicide baited, triggered on purpose, cyberbullied, doxxed, stalked, or harmed over online discourse.

remember, you are loved more than you know. any reason to live is a good reason to live.

claimed anons:

🧠⚰️ , 🌈💫 , ‼️♦️, 🧟🍄, ☀️🌌, 🚫🗝, RS , 🗡️🦷, ☀️🪽, ✨⚜️, ⌨️, 👁️‍🗨️, 🎧🎶, 🏎🇬🇧, A. 🌑, lucky, 💫🎭, 🖊️🌟, 🎶🎹✨🪀

above userbox by @underground-userboxes

above 2 userboxes by @simply-plural-accessories

[pluralskeepliving]

Honestly just random positivity ig?

WE HAVE A CANE NOW!!! Used it today and holy hell it was awesome- also customized it with stickers!! :3

Uhh if this were to be written as a reason to keep living, ig it'd be something like "keep living because one day you'll get the help / accessibility / accomodations you deserve"

you don't have to write it out that way! some people started it back in the earlier days of the blog and now quite a few folks think we ONLY take submissions for reasons to live for... reasons unknown to me lol.

CONGRATULATIONS ON GETTING YOUR CANE THAT'S AWESOME!!! i hope you COVER it in stickers and it helps you!!!

[pluralskeepliving]

For small wins Saturday! We went to the doctor for the very first time (ever, our parents were insane...) But we were very nervous and it went really well~ we had a very patient doctor and the nurses were all very sweet 🫰 we're feeling a lot more confident in pursuing more heath care stuff now! Our lives will improve, I swear it will!

YAYYYYYY that's so brave and awesome!!!! i'm so glad you're getting the care you need and deserve.

[pluralskeepliving]

Small wins Saturday, we played a board game with our housemates today. the best part was between turns we'd all start doing dumb jokes and laughing together. (One of the bits was we were quoting megamind at each other in increasingly goofy voices, another was "whoever's turn is taking too long, start the timer! Right as their turn began and many more)

At one point someone said "I can't think! I'm trying to strategize, everyone be quiet" and we held our breath dramatically, and my roomneighbor and I made eye contact and he started laughing. then I made eye contact with the person who ordered quiet, and she laughed cause I was holding my breath, and it made me snort so hard I hit my elbow on the table and flung my pieces everywhere, which made our other housemates laugh and almost fall out of their chair.

It was such simple pure joy, it really hit us when we finally went to bed how, beautiful those moments were, and how grateful we are to have come so far. And there's still so much joy and laughter to be experienced. Keep going, there's joy waiting for you still!

THIS!!! board games and silly antics are the best way to spend time. it's so awesome, can confirm.

i'm glad you got it nonnie! i hope you get many more good game nights.

[pluralskeepliving]

Okay at this point I'm pretty much spamming you with a good mood, but we had a really good Friday, and it's made up for a lot of shit we went through this past few months haha.

We've actually popped in here a few times, and dropped some anons, and we'd send them unanon, but our main blog isnt out as plural.

Would you mind us going by any of these emojis (idk if any of them don't work for you, so pick whichever shows up (or any combination you like if they all do) and I'll mimic that!) -🎶🎹✨🪀

you can have ALL of them!!! >:3

i'm glad you're here and you're always welcome to hit our inbox

[pluralskeepliving]

happy small wins saturday! today we, a system who has been struggling with a severe eating disorder for over half our life, managed to try a completely new and different food!!

HOORAY!!! that's so huge!!! great job!

[pluralskeepliving]

Small wins Saturday! We're gonna start to learn crochet and we're getting our nails painted! 👀 Also might get a new book from the library yippee yay!

(Completely off topic, but could you change 🎧 anon to 💫🎭 anon? 🎧 is one of our headmates and they forgot that you guys log anons, LOLL)

-💫🎭

yeah, no problem! i'll change it right now.

how goes the crochet? i'd love to see it!

[pluralskeepliving]

small wins saturday although this isn’t much of a small win. we finally started seriously recording audiobooks this week! not only that but we’ve gotten a ton of writing done for one of our fics because it seems to have a high demand and we’ve actually begun to enjoy writing!

DUDE/GIRL/FRIEND THAT IS SO AMAZING!!! that's so awesome! wishing you good quality audio and no issues 🙏

[pluralskeepliving]

small wins Saturday,,, but it’s Sunday now because we missed it

Bought a thick studded black choker with a heart in the front, it’s really cute, both me and another headmate (the alt ones) and the wolf headmate love it, it’s kind of like a collar.

despite the bad day (since we had to deal with my emotionally abusive dads birthday all day and spend hours right nearby him! Yay /sarc!) our protector who loves flavours got to enjoy two excellent meals that I wouldn’t have appreciated as much :]]]]]]

-🦀 of the 🖊️🌟sys (really wanted a sign off, we’ve been around before)

i missed it for several weeks nonnie ur so good 💀

CONGRATS ON THE CHOKER AND THE GOOD FOOD!!! that's amazing!!!

[pluralskeepliving]

Reason to live: new legos soon

YAYYYY NEW LEGOS!!!!

[pluralskeepliving]

stay alive so you can see Artemis IV, which if all goes well will be the next time we land on the moon :3

the artemis missions are so important to me! fun fact, i'm going to a university that helped quite a bit with them and directly contributed! very excited!

[pluralskeepliving]

We feel really invalid because all of our headmates are just introjects and fictives from the host’s hyperfixations 💔💔

(tone: gentle/soft)

sometimes, headmates who have been there a long time can change shape into something that's more supportive/comforting to you now.

sometimes, new headmates will take the shape of something familiar.

neither of these are invalid. fictives are well-known and well-documented. and even if they weren't, that doesn't change your state of being. you know you best.

[pluralskeepliving]

keep living so that ur daemon / thoughtform can be happy because ur finally acknowledging those feelings in the back of ur head is a dissociated form of ur subconscious mind whose a child who desired love and care! 🧠⚰️

(yes i still exist my old blog got nerfed by people who were angry about my origin)

i'm pulling this one out of the queue early because i'm so genuinely happy to see you're okay!! i was worried about you.

syscourse sucks, i'm sorry toxic people are... toxic. you are welcome and loved here. 💙

[pluralskeepliving]

sorry y'all i live in a place where it is notoriously difficult to have regular access to my ADHD meds, much less have dosing be correct. it's a constant battle :(

your regularly scheduled posts will resume soon! i love you. thank you for staying alive 💙

[pluralskeepliving]

Dear lord we want to fuse so bad

It's not due to any outside factor, we loved being a system and all, but I think fusion would help all of us. Especially symptom holders relax.

We understand it will be HEAVILY different but we are ready for that, genuinely. But I don't really know how...? do we just pretend to be the person we want to fuse as, maybe trigger him to always front or something? Question mark??? Maybe intentionally make ourselves blurry and focus on him? idfk tbh. I haven't really started much

We still have our pluralspace but we might just delete it one day, I wish for that day to be honest. But It's been very hard, we're becoming incredibly separate... which, we DID want before, we thought it would help us feel "whole" again. But not really, we're just unstable now, yay. So we have decided we want fusion.

We are dissociative and traumagenic so idk if that makes it harder or not? I think it would? Yet again, no idea, going into this blind and might just research

putting this here just to put it off my chest. We've been kind of scared, but we are now absolutely sure it will help. We can create headmates easily from how fast we split/form new ones naturally so if we don't like being a singlet, we can just go back to this. I don't really think we'll regret it tho

Thank you!!

hi, anon! i'm a multigrated system (as in mostly fused) and it IS very different.

you can't just decide to fuse and trigger it that way, unfortunately. it's a very tedious recovery process and doesn't always work the first several tries. it also does require getting to know and accept all of your alters, which may feel at first like separation.

you cannot "pretend" your way into fusion the ways you describe either - that's just suppression of symptoms and will likely make everything backfire.

it requires every alter involved in the fusion to fully accept each other's differences and memories - including traumatic ones. without that, the fusion fails. fusion is just a point where two alters are so close to each other that the separation is kinda meaningless to point out.

i suggest trying to front together fully present with just a couple of parts who work well together. see if you can see from each other's viewpoints. blending (as in the therapy method discussed in workbooks, NOT as in the community version of the term) is very useful for figuring out if a fusion is going to work between those two parts or not.

also, final fusion (and multigration, honestly) like you seem to want requires a lot of trauma processing. please seek the help of a therapist who specializes in dissociative disorders, and take your time on it! you can't rush through this process or you run the risk of retraumatizing yourself, making your other conditions worse, making your symptoms bite you in the ass, etc.

i also recommend using CDD workbooks along with therapy. about 10% of recovery is therapy and the other 90% is using what you learn outside of therapy.

do your research, and good luck in recovery!

[pluralskeepliving]

small wins saturday!!!

let's hear 'em! what did you accomplish this week?

for me, i went to my great grandmother's house, then D&D, AND THEN i hung out with a friend in-person. lots of socializing this week, and i'm going to my great aunt's birthday party later today.

[anniespositivity]

There is always hope. Hope for a better tomorrow. Hope for feeling less heavy. Hope for sunshine after rain. Hope for getting that new job. Hope for finding someone you love. Hope for healing whatever hurt you. Hope for happiness. Hope for the life you always dreamed about. When everything else fails, there is always hope.