I always remind myself that one's character is shaped by what you do with what life throws at you but sometimes some circumstances just affect you differently, to the point where we lose a part of ourselves.
So hear this if you find yourself deeply caring for someone who cannot reciprocate it at the moment. It's important to understand that their inability to do so doesn't reflect on your goodness or worth. That's where it always gets me, but hey, you have to realize it's not always about you! Life affects individuals in various ways. Understand that we are all on this Earth just trying to figure ourselves out, just trying to mend the breaks in our souls, just trying to deal with what is heavy within us, grappling with our inner burdens. Sometimes weāre ready and another person is not. Sometimes we try and another person does not. At times, we give our all to someone, and they cannot contain all that we are. Sometimes, you openly embrace possibilities, but the other person isn't healed enough to do just the same. Sometimes, we fight while the other person surrenders. Sometimes, we choose to make things work, but the other person decides it's not the right reality for them. And that's perfectly okay. It's crucial to understand that it's okay.
Because, in the end, if someone can't meet you where you are, you can't keep expecting them to do so. If someone cannot reciprocate your love, if someone cannot give you what you truly deserve, you have to understand that aching for them to do so before they are ready is a form of self-destruction. Your heart is a vast and tender thing, you cannot keep trying to shrink it into what someone else needs. Pouring your love into a vessel that can't contain it, into a soul that hasn't realized the depth of what they're receiving, into a closed heart ā it will only leave you feeling empty. You must step away. Allow this person to grow on their own terms because you can't love someone into their potential. You canāt love someone into being ready. They have to do that on their own.
And yes, I understand how hard it is to walk away from someone you deeply care about. I know how hard it is to lay all of that love down, to close off your heart to all that it sees in another human being. But by walking away, you will discover how to pour all of the love you were offering to the wrong person back into yourself. You'll learn to invest it in your personal growth, in your creative pursuits, in your hopes and aspirations. You will learn how to stand up for your feeling, how to stand up for its value.Ā And when you teach yourself that you deserve to be loved, without having to beg for that love, without having to chase that love down,Ā you open yourself to a world where love chooses you just as readily as you choose it. You open yourself to the kind of people who see you and immediately know that you are a rare and beautiful thing. You open yourself to new beginnings, to a future that unfolds in ways that donāt hurt or break you down, but rather build you up andĀ show you just how worthy you areĀ of having your heart held. š¤