important messages to lesbian/questioning lesbian kids and teens:
not feeling attracted to boys is perfectly normal, do not push yourself to try to have crushes on them just because you see other girls doing so or you feel pressured by other people.
there’s nothing disgusting about you, you’re not broken.
lesbian is not a dirty word, it is a beautiful and meaningful identity with a deep and important history. you should feel proud to find out you’re one.
it’s okay to have a crush on your girl friends. you’re not bad for that and you shouldn’t feel like you have to stop yourself from feeling this way. loving other girls is such an awesome thing. your love is pure and good.
your worth is not based on whether you’re attracted to boys or not, even if for now it’s hard to believe it isn’t. you’re so valuable and so strong for being who you are, do not let anyone make you believe you’d be less if you identify as lesbian.
there’s nothing wrong with experimenting new gender expressions that represent your lesbian identity. if you’re in a safe environment to explore how you present yourself, do it. there’s nothing to be ashamed of.
if you struggle with gender, know that nonbinary lesbians have always been part of our community too! especially when you’re so young, adults most of the time try to force you into fitting gender expectations and it may be hard to explore your gender, but i’m here to tell you that it’s okay if you find out you’re also trans/nonbinary.
do not let adults telling you you’re just a “tomboy” or “going through a tomboy phase and you’ll grow out of it” distance you from your lesbian identity. you can be a “tomboy” and a lesbian and there’s nothing wrong with that.
liking typically “feminine” things does not mean you cannot be lesbian. even though it’s common that many lesbians were tomboys as kids, we absolutely can enjoy feminine things. i’m a lesbian myself who’s always been into all “girl’s box” stuff as a child.
lesbophobia is really scary and i tell you to please always do anything to keep yourself safe. and even if now you feel hopeless, everything will get better and you’ll find people that understand you. you will, just like i did. just like so many older lesbians did. you have so much strength inside of you and you’re not alone.
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