Btw rape play is okay not because "I'm a victim and this is how I cope," it's okay because it's play pretend. We are play pretend. We are just adults playing adult versions of house or doctor or firefighter. It's fucking play pretend.
All kink is by definition not abuse. Abuse neccessarily; is done without consent of one or more parties, and involves unjust exercise of power over another/denial of agency of another.
Cnc, like all kink, begins and ends with consent. Just like juvenile play, all parties negotiate roles, responsibilities, improvisation. And if those guidelines are violated, play stops, attention is paid, and the players decide if they want to continue.
I’m begging y’all to develop a more complex understanding of violence and agency than, “thing bad, therefore people bad.”
