I have BPD, I’ve known a lot of people that also have it. And gosh, our live is not that easy to handle. It’s pretty much like our existence is something so heavy that everyday, just because we’re us, it’s an impossible and hard battle. We always feel like we’re too much, it’s not beautiful or poetic.
And I’ve also met a lot of people that say that people with borderline are abusive monsters that just want to manipulate others. It’s completely possible to be abusive and manipulate while having borderline, but having borderline will not make someone be this way. Learning how to manage feelings is a hard task to everyone, and when the more intense you feel, the harder it gets, so we try a lot, and we’re strong for that, everyday is an attempt to survive. I’m so, so proud of the borderlines out there. I’ll be real here, it’s much easier for a borderline to be manipulated rather than being manipulative, because we care too much and we love too much, we want to not be hated too much, and it’s not an uncommon thing that people use the stigma and the pressure that “we’re the monsters” agaisnt us to think we’re the bad guys in an specific situation and that we’re doing something wrong. I’ve seen is happended, it has happended to me too.
Depression and anxiety are super important, it’s so great that it’s been talked about more often, and the other mental disorders are very important too, the mentally ill people that “scare you” are very important too, even if to you they’re “too hard to deal with”. If you support mentally ill people, you support all of them or you just don’t support us at all. Don’t be a dick, instead of being someone that out of nowhere becomes a bad memory to someone, be kind, patient and search, learn. It’s not that hard to simply not say something bad about something you don’t know about.
It’s a fact that around 9% of people with BPD complete suicide, which is more than 50 times the rate of suicide in the general population. We’re all trying, we’re also in pain, and we also want to be able to live.
I’m with all of you, borderlines out there, you’re not alone, never.
