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[theluxemiss]

Books to Manifest Prosperity, Confidence, and Wealthy Men (Part Two)

Law of Attraction, Manifestation, Wealth, and General Self-Improvement

♥ Anatomy of the Spirit: The Seven Stages of Power and Healing

♥ As a Man Thinketh: 21st Century Edition (audio)

♥ Courage to Change: One Day at a Time

♥ Creative Visualization: Use the Power of Your Imagination to Create What You Want in Your Life

♥ Dave Ramsey’s Complete Guide to Money: The Handbook of Financial Peace University

♥ Dominating Money: Tapping into Gods Supernatural Economy

♥ Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff and It’s All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life (audio)

♥ Driven by Eternity: Make Your Life Count Today and Forever

♥ Ego and Self: The Old Testament Prophets from Isaiah to Malachi

♥ Emotional Intelligence 2.0

♥ Focus: A simplicity Manifesto in the Age of Distraction (pdf)

♥ Fun Is Good: How to Create Joy and Passion in your Workplace and Career

♥ God is My Source

♥ God Never Blinks: 50 Lessons for Life’s Little Detours

♥ Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance

♥ How Successful People Think: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life (audio)

♥ Man’s Search for Meaning (audio)

♥ MONEY Master the Game: 7 Simple Steps to Financial Freedom

♥ Positive Thinking Every Day: An Inspiration for Each Day of the Year

♥ Rich Woman: A Book on Investing for Women, Take Charge of Your Money, Take Charge of Your Life

♥ Start With Why (audio)

♥ Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient

♥ Super Rich: A Guide to Having It All

♥ Targets with Absolute Confidence and Certainty

♥ The 4-Hour Workweek (audio)

♥ The 80/20 Principle (Third Edition): The Secret to Achieving More with Less

♥  The Aladdin Factor (audio)

♥ The Alchemist (audio)

♥ The Art Of War (audio)

♥ The Compound Effect: Jumpstart Your Income, Your Life, Your Success (audio)

♥ The Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel Your Life, Work, and Team with Positive Energy

♥ The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

♥ The Fred Factor: How Passion in Your Work and Life Can Turn the Ordinary into the Extraordinary

♥ The Magic of Thinking Big (audio)

♥ The Millionaire Next Door

♥ The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results

♥ The Path to Success Is Paved with Positive Thinking

♥ The Power of Broke: How Empty Pockets, a Tight Budget, and a Hunger for Success Can Become Your Greatest Competitive Advantage

♥ The Power of Focus (Tenth Anniversary Edition)

♥ The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

♥ The Procrastination Equation: How to Stop Putting Things Off and Start Getting Stuff Done

♥ The Richest Man in Babylon

♥ The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams (audio)

♥ The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

♥ The Success Principles (10th Anniversary Edition): How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

♥ The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference

♥ The Ultimate Credit Repair Guide to Having Luxurious Credit

♥ The Wealth Choice: Success Secrets of Black Millionaires

♥ The Wealth of My Mother’s Wisdom: The Lessons That Made My Life Rich

♥ Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts – Becoming the Person You Want to Be

♥ Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma

♥ What Keeps Me Standing: Letters from Black Grandmothers on Peace, Hope and Inspiration

♥ Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength

♥ Write It Down Make It Happen: Knowing What You Want and Getting It

♥ Your Best Life Now: 7 Steps to Living at Your Full Potential

♥ Your Best Year Ever: A 5-Step Plan for Achieving Your Most Important Goals

♥ Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More

  Confidence, Seduction, Style, Etiquette, and Psychology of People

 ♥ 4,000 Questions for Getting to Know Anyone and Everyone

♥ A Guide to Elegance: For Every Woman Who Wants to Be Well and Properly Dressed on All Occasions

♥ Emily Post’s Etiquette (19th Edition): Manners for Today

♥ Finishing Touches: A Guide to Being Poised, Polished, and Beautifully Prepared for Life

♥ Goodbye to Shy: 85 Shybusters That Work!

♥ How the Mighty Fall: And Why Some Companies Never Give In

♥ How To Be Chic And Elegant: Tips From A French Woman

♥ How to Speak Like a Pro

♥ How To Win Friends and Influence People (audio)

♥ Lessons from Madame Chic: 20 Stylish Secrets I Learned While Living in Paris

♥ Mastery

♥ Men Are Like Waffles – Women Are Like Spaghetti Devotional Study Guide

♥ Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time

♥ Own the Room: Discover Your Signature Voice to Master Your Leadership Presence

♥ Pitch Perfect: How to Say It Right the First Time, Every Time

♥ The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You (audio)

♥ The 33 Strategies of War (audio)

♥ The Art of War for Women: Sun Tzu’s Ancient Strategies and Wisdom for Winning at Work

♥ The Bombshell Manual of Style

♥ The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism

♥ The Definitive Book of Body Language: The Hidden Meaning Behind People’s Gestures and Expressions

♥ The Gift of Fear

♥ The Greatest Salesman in the World (audio)

♥ The Little Dictionary of Fashion: A Guide to Dress Sense for Every Woman

♥ The Power of Who: You Already Know Everyone You Need to Know

♥ The Sensuous Woman

♥ The Wisdom of Psychopaths: What Saints, Spies, and Serial Killers Can Teach Us About Success

♥ Three Steps to Yes: The Gentle Art of Getting Your Way

♥ What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-Reading People

♥ Worldwide Gestures: A Traveller’s Introduction to Common International Gestures & Symbols

  Sugaring, Relationships, Love and Marrying Wealthy

 ♥ A GOAL Digger’s Guide: How to Get What You Want Without Giving It Up

♥ Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate

♥ Being a Woman: Fulfilling Your Femininity and Finding Love

♥ Getting to ‘I Do’: The Secret to Doing Relationships Right!

♥ Have Him at Hello: Confessions from 1,000 Guys About What Makes Them Fall in Love … Or Never Call Back

♥ How To Date Like a Courtesan: Attract, Seduce, and Manipulate Men for Love, Money, and Marriage

♥ How to Marry the Man of Your Choice

♥ How to Meet the Rich: For Business, Friendship, or Romance

♥ Lucrative Love: An Insider’s Secrets to Marrying Millions!

♥ Marry by Choice, Not by Chance: Advice for Finding the Right One at the Right Time

♥ Mars and Venus in Love: Inspiring and Heartfelt Stories of Relationships

♥ Mars and Venus in the Bedroom: Guide to Lasting Romance and Passion

♥ Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship

♥ Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: Practical Guide for Improving Communication

♥ Pussy Power: How to Keep Him and YOU Happy

♥ Sex and the Single Girl

♥ Shanghai Girls: Uncensored & Unsentimental

♥ Simply Irresistible: Unleash Your Inner Siren and Mesmerize Any Man, with Help from the Most Famous – and Infamous – Women

♥ The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

♥ The Power of a Praying Wife

♥ The Seduction Mystique

♥ The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce & Keep the Man You Want

♥ Trophy Man: The Surprising Secrets of Black Women Who Marry Well

* Continue to check back for updates with links to audiobooks and PDFs.

* Read PART ONE here.

[mi-sucre-ny-blog]

Today's Mantra

You deserve a luxurious, high end lifestyle.

You are worthy of all the best things in life regardless of you’re upbringing or history.

Do not let your past dictate your future.

If you’ve settled before that’s ok promise yourself to NEVER do it again.

You deserve everything you want in life.

You deserve to be treated like a princess, you deserved to be spoiled, you deserve to have thousands of dollars spent on you simply BECAUSE YOU WANT IT.

Learn everything you need to know about the lifestyle you want and then go out and FUCKING GET IT.

[germansugarbaby]

Smart Girls Marry Money

How women have been duped into the romantic Dream - and how they’re paying for it 

Isn’t it Shallow?

Why, we wonder, does society applaud a girl who falls for a guy’s “big blue eyes,” yet denounces one who chooses a man with a “big green bankroll”?

What’s the difference? Earning power is, after all, a reflection of his values and character. Big blue eyes? Not so much.

The average guy believes most gals are only looking for money, but the truth is too few of us are interested in their income at all. The modern gal is earning her own cash and is looking for emotional security. Too bad it doesn’t exist.

But what about Love???

From the day we’re born we’re immersed in a culture that elevates romantic love over … pretty much everything else. And with true love as our highest goal, marrying for any other reason has come to be seen as just plain wrong. Immoral even.

In much of the world most of the time, romantic love was considered too temporary of an emotion upon which to build a life together. These days it’s considered the only truly moral basis to build a life together. 

social commentators predicted that marrying for love would drive the divorce rate right up around 50%. And they turned out to be right.

When couples started to marry for love, soon afterwards they also sought the right to divorce. 

The reason? If being in love is a valid reason to marry, then being out of love is a valid reason to divorce. 

How long does romantic love last? Answer: 18 to 24 months, tops.

The latest scientific studies say that “romantic love” is not love at all. It’s a thrill that always fades away. Well-invested mutual funds, however, last much longer.

Armed with science, no one needs to blame a partner for not being the same “Schnookums” you first met. Your brain simply went back into proper balance and that wondrous bio- chemical experience that once controlled your every thought either evolved or dissolved.

The quest for romantic love is so powerful that many a smart girl will lose all rational thought and become victim to cons and slackers who only want to take advantage of her youthful search for “The One.” 

Don’t Waste Your Looks on a Mediocre Man!

Good looks are a woman’s most fungible asset, exchangeable for social position, money, and even love. 

The same societal norms that condemn us for looking for a man with resources, encourage and reward men who go after a woman for her resources: her figure and her fertility.  

Dutifully, a modern gal might go bankrupt trying to look beautiful and sexy—in increasingly drastic ways. 

We’ll put our lives at risk to plump our puckers, boost our breasts or revive our virginity. 

It appears the ladies are going all out to hold up their side of the deal. And the guys? Well, somewhere along the way, the deal broke down. Women are now denounced as gold-diggers for desiring our balance of the bargain. 

These days most girls just hope to find a guy with a nice-fitting pair of pants and a job 

Why do women work so hard to look good while plenty of guys lie around in sweat pants playing video games? Probably because there aren’t a lot of good men around. 

Great looks gives women the power to choose. So choose wisely.

Use your sex appeal to score a man who earns while you’re still young!

It may sound harsh, and it is harsh, but it’s true. Let’s highlight the reasons:

Your sexual power is unstoppable when you are young. 

You may not believe it now, but you will get older.

You will get tired.

Many of us have found that getting it all often costs more than having it all is worth. Why? Well, partly because for working gals, having it all also means doing it all. 

On the other hand, many men focus first and foremost on having a great career—and then maybe a hot wife who’ll take care of all the rest

And when they accumulated enough wealth when they’re 40 or older, they are still (or more) attractive to the opposite sex and physically able to start a family. For women in this position, its just not the case…

Economic resources never get angry, ask if you’ve gained weight, or forget to call home.

Even if your husband leaves you for someone younger or you get sick of hanging out with your old man, with a few bucks in your pocket you can live well, pursue a successful career, and still have a shot at “true love.”

Marrying well while young is a smart girl’s best chance to “have it all.”

Remember your hotness is a commodity. Don’t just spend it for the sake of being admired. Instead, try to use it to get something tangible you can take into your old age

You need to be smart because you won’t be the hottest girl in the room forever. 

All girls need to look ahead and fight for their financial futures.

The average married woman’s standard of living lags only a little behind that of men. But if the marriage crashes, it’s the women who are exposed to an extremely high risk of poverty. Why? Because on average married women make half what their husbands earn.

The data is clear: If you depend on your career, and then marry just for love with no concern for your spouse’s ability to earn, you’re very likely to end up abandoned or broke or both.

One out of every five elderly women who is alone at retirement will be living below the poverty level. Alone, wrinkled and broke? It doesn’t sound like a very good deal to us.

It may just be better for your health and your wealth to marry a man, than to act like one!

Source: Smart Girls Marry Money - How women have been duped into the romantic Dream - and how they’re paying for it by Elizabeth Ford and Daniela Drake 

[deitywork]

“Hi. I just read your recent post and wanted to ask how much money it really takes to make it in high society. Building a business, signing up for women’s clubs, and philanthropy takes a lot of money. I like your series so far and would like to see more. Thank you.”

Thank god I’m not yelling into the void! Thank you!

Here’s the answer you’re all dreading my reply to: It depends. There is no set magical number.

“High society” which is a subjective term in and of itself operates in levels. For example, personally I don’t intend on become one of the billionaire class because I disagree fundamentally with their ecological and social malpractice on an ethical level. Therefore, I’ll never need to invest as much as I would if I intended to join that class (which is a defunct idea anyway, the way the global economy and cultural awareness is going. Do I hear a guillotine in the distance, anyone?)

But let’s draw our attention back to more achievable levels of wealth (that aren’t going to be overthrown in the coming decades).

Here’s the uncomfortable truth: Yes, a degree of positive free cash flow is required to meet baseline requirements for social climbing. However, after a point, positive cash flow is a lubricant, and can be switched for effort, consistency and a certain thriftiness. 

People with excess free cash flow have the luxury of trading cash for effort. For those of us with less free cash flow, we need to invest effort, not cash.

Example: a wealthy person can invest several thousand a year into hiring a personal trainer and nutritionist to keep them fit and healthy. A less wealthy person would take the time to educate themselves on those topics and develop the willpower to consistently apply them. See how one uses cash to fix the problem, and the other requires effort?

Now apply that thinking to everything you see as a roadblock.

Can’t afford a ticket to xyz event? Make the effort to form connections with the people who can get you one for free or discounted. Befriend someone to go as a plus one. 

Can’t afford a personal stylist? There’s a metric tonne of free information online on looking polished. Make the effort to educate yourself, and begin applying those practices in real life. Consciously reject low quality grooming and dressing. Be thrifty with your spending, consignment stores, vintage, sales. How you carry yourself and the aura your project make you seem better off than any ugly brand logo. You’ve heard this advice before because it’s low hanging fruit. 

Can’t afford a business networking event? That’s pure bullshit and just shows how little effort you’re putting in to this. Business events are free more often than not. Get a meetup account and attend tech, finance, start-up, real estate, art and any other meeting you deem personally relevant. If you’re socially adept and provide (intellectual, social, emotional, ie no cash required) benefit to those you meet there, invites will arrive to more exclusive groups. Ticket costs can be bypassed if you know the right people. The right people don’t cost money to access, but require effort.

Can’t afford to start a business? Agreed, starting a business merely for social climbing is strange. Business is central, while social climbing is peripheral. However, events geared around industries you’re interested in (either because you want to work in that field / recognize the amount of wealth in that field) are common and typically easy to get into. See above. 

Personal tangent: I attended a single tech meeting in my old (small to medium!) city in 2019. I was the only woman there. No other women in this (disposable) social group is great because there’s no-one to call you out on pandering to men. (If the group was not disposable / there were woman present I would have had to be more subversive with my tactics to avoid raising ire). Tech men, particularly the old school ones are my favourite because they lack social nuance and are more than happy to provide labour for the mere attention of a generally attractive and attentive woman. I made the effort to speak personally with the founder of the group once the event was done, and the next day I received links to resources on the field I was interested in, and an invite to a separate group specifically for that industry. This event was free. All it cost was 1.5 hours of my day and a smile. If you can’t muster even that minuscule amount of effort you’re not for social climbing. 

Superfluous parts of social climbing can be paid for in effort, not cash. But what about the essentials?

If you’re a functioning adult you have a written budget. Excel sheet, mint, YNAB, whatever the fuck. You record where your money comes from, how much, and where it leaves, how much.

Essentials must become budgeted.

How much are these essentials Dietywork? Tell me! I’m skimming this entire article to find this answer!

I don’t know your personal circumstance, it’s time for you to do some research. 

Here’s a few ideas of what is an essential that can’t be exchanged for effort:

Social club membership fee

Tertiary education costs (debatable)

Charitable donations (debatable)

Higher education mainly serves as a networking tool nowadays, and nobody particularly gives a shit about your piece of paper unless you’re a surgeon or pilot. Hyperbole, but you get the point. 

Yes, typically the wealthy give financially to causes, but there’s no reason you can’t be seen providing physical work as your donation. Additionally, many social clubs pool finances to donate, which allows you to become involved without people seeing you name and exact dollar amount you gave.

So what are the social club fees!? I don’t know what’s near you, do some research. For reference, the old boys club in my city charges ~500 to 2000 euro p/a just as a membership fee, with additional activity costs on top. However, the women’s society I belong to only charges 95 euro p/a, with additional activity and event costs. Less than a fifth! And I know damn well some of you spend more than that club fee on something useless that could be swapped for effort. Stop fake tanning and purchase a club membership instead.

If you find something that you know you cannot exchange for effort, and you depend on it to gain access to higher social circles, you must add it it to your monthly budget.

Increase your cash flow with a side job if you need to. Reduce your discretionary expenses and channel that cash into essentials. Reduce your financial output and increase your effort output. These are investments that pay off with time and commitment. There is no quick fix.

As a final aside, being socially adept and well connected (which doesn’t cost money to begin) can provide vast amounts of ROI. Older, more established women in your circle will assist in getting you the proper clothes for an event if you don’t own them, ie loaning or recommendations. Men you’re seeing can be made to take care of your grooming expenses. Business connections can bend the rules to get you free access to industry events. 

Yes, wouldn’t it be lovely if we had the cash to throw at the problem to make it go away. However, we use effort as a replacement to get us to the point where we can throw cash.

[theprincisis]

The Mindset

A lot of women believe that leveling up is solely about hypergamy (a lot of it IS). However, the bigger portion is your mindset and approach to it. You have to be confident within yourself and the actions you make. There will be many instances where being assured will save you from hardship and heartache. With that being said, let me give you a few quick tips on building an unshakable backbone…

Realize that you’re alone on this journey

Most of us in the community, understand that “leveling up” is not perceived well to outsiders. Stop trying to make your mom, sister, and/or bestfriend agree with your values… they don’t. You need to accept the fact that you are different and that their opinions don’t matter. Stop going to them about your “level up” problems/dreams/aspirations because they honestly don’t give a damn. If they don’t give a damn, why should you? 9 times out of 10, you’ll be alone on this journey and that. is. OKAY. Fuck judgmental hoes and that is on period. Know that you are ALONE, but also know that you are strong enough to get through it. Know there is a whole community online, that wants to hear about your experiences and help! We are always here 💞

Surround yourself with positivity 

Change what you see on social media by unfollowing/muting those that don’t align with your path. Follow pages with positive quotes and people who are where you want to go! Some of my favorite accounts are @najmalott, @avirgoworld, and @sheraseven. All of these women promote health (mental/physical) and hypergamy. As you get further in the journey, you’ll find more people that cater to you!

Have a purpose

What are your goals? Know what you want out of this! Make a list of wants/needs and figure out a real way to get to them. If you do this without direction, you will quickly end up on a road with no motivation and burn out. When you know what you want, you can *properly* manifest it. Put up reminders to keep your mind in the right space (phone background, sticky notes, etc.).

Meditate! 

Meditation is probably “thee” biggest contribution to my new mental health. There are plenty of videos on youtube that show you how to properly meditate. You will immediately notice the difference between the days that you do and don’t meditate. You can literally feel the pressure being lifted off of your brain and soul as you do it. You can also use this time to think over your affirmations and review your goals. Get some candles/incenses and get to it!

Hit the gym 🙄

I know most of us dread it, but it truly is good for us! Working out AT-LEAST once a day, can provide a way to release built up energy. Letting go of unwanted energy and bringing in positive energy is great for your mental health. Assuming your eating right… The more you go to the gym, the more weight you’ll lose. Losing weight makes you feel good, so just get up and do it!

Self-worth & Faith

YOU, yes YOU, have to KNOW that you are THAT bitch at all times! If I come outside in a publix bag and crocs, I’m the baddest bitch they will EVER see in a publix bag and crocs. Your confidence needs to be HIGH, if you don’t feel it 24/7… fake it til you make it! People can tell when you don’t value yourself and if you don’t, why should they? Exactly. YOU ARE PHENOMENAL and don’t let anyone think otherwise. if someone calls you a narcissist… OH FUCKING WELL, TF? With confidence, you will notice how many woman are insecure… don’t let them make you feel bad for feeling good! 

“Hating hoes ain’t happy and happy hoes ain’t hating”

Have faith in yourself and this journey! No matter what you have to go through, KNOW you WILL get to where you want to go! Never lose sight of your dreams or that fact that you will achieve them! Don’t let society and your surroundings alter you thoughts… you will get there baby, I promise ❤️

These are the tips that helped me grow mentally! I hope you guys found them useful! Comment what made you stronger on your level up journey! In between blog post, you can catch me on social media!

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[oquiproquoii]

the girl with rituals

“I came home. I enjoyed my bath. I enjoyed perfuming myself. I knew I was born for this, to do it over and over again, the ritual of the dressing, the perfuming for love, for sensuality. I enjoyed everything sensually”

(Anaïs Nin, from a diary entry featured in Mirages: The Unexpurgated Diary; 1939-1947)

[theblackcourtesan]

How do you get men to wanting to care for you and help you? It doesn't matter what kind of men I meet, bf/pot/sub they don't want to give me money, they don't want to give me any gifts and they don't want to help with anything. And I don't get it? It's like I am so strong that I should manage by myself. But I never do the whole independent woman thing, on the contrary I really try to be feminine, I ask for help, I show appreciation when they do things for me etc. What am I doing wrong?

You are either picking up men in the wrong place or your “look/appearance” is not giving off a “kept woman” vibe. You get men wanting to take care of you by looking and acting as if you’re already being taken care of.  

You have to look like it, act like it.You have to eat, sleep and breathe it. You have to EMBODY it.

Giving you a “script” or phrases to say doesn’t always work because certain words don’t have the same effect on every man. 

For instance some guys love damsels in distress. (aka “captain save-a-hoe” types). If you approach them with a tragic, sad story they’ll leap at the opportunity to help you. 

But every guy isn’t like that. 

Some guys love the bossy, princess type. They love a girl that’s a bit demanding, bitchy and takes no shit. 

Both of these guys will “keep” you. But they will do it for different reasons. And if you try to use a “bossy princess tactic” on a “captain save-a-hoe” type it’s not going to work. He’s going to get turned off and will probably cut off contact with you. Or he’ll pretend as if he’ll assist you and then never come through. 

Words are not the most effective way to IMPLANT the idea into a man’s head that you want to be kept. 

Most people don’t really hear you when you speak. Everyone has “selective hearing”. They hear what they want to hear. 

So what do you do?

You show them better than you can tell them. 

It’s 80% of how you present yourself and 20% of what you say. 

Haven’t you ever made up your mind about someone or made a judgement about a person before they even opened their mouth to speak?

Your words merely back up your actions. 

You have to dress like a kept woman. This doesn’t mean you have to be draped in Chanel but you do need to be put together. Looking put together is SO fucking important. Look at how the “rich women” in your area are dressing and presenting themselves. Are you doing the same? Everyone has their own unique style but the common theme is that they are put together from head to toe. Be honest. Are you doing this? ALL of this? Hair. Eyebrows. Skin. Teeth. Makeup. Posture. Perfume. Properly fitting outfit. Manicured nails. Quality handbag and shoes (it doesn’t have to be designer).

When you look like a million bucks you attract a million bucks. There are quite a few videos on YouTube about how to look expensive on a budget. Watch them and take notes. 

You have to act like a kept woman. How would you act if you were already being sponsored? What would your hobbies be? Where would you go? What would you do?

Begin incorporating it into your lifestyle. And don’t think it has to be expensive either. It costs absolutely nothing to walk around Saks Fifth Avenue. 

Now where are you finding your men?

I know you’re on a lot of online sites. I urge you to diversify and begin freestyling and to also change the pictures that you’re using. If they’re head-shots or body-shots of you in some random location or in front of a plain background/wall they’ve got to go. 

A picture is worth a thousand words and you need to set your narrative: 

A picture of you in an upscale hotel lobby.

A picture of you in front of a high end department store (with the name of the store in the picture with a shopping bag in your hand)

A picture of you in an expensive restaurant at the bar with a pretty drink.

A picture of you holding a bouquet of flowers, box of chocolates, etc. 

And when a man sees that type of profile with those kinds of pictures, he’s not going to think “wow she’s an independent woman getting it on her own”. He’s going to think “there’s some man paying for all of that and if I want to get with her, I’m going to have to do the same.” 

And THEN when you start to ask for things, he wont be surprised. But you have to set this precedent from the very beginning.  

He doesn’t want to give you what you want? Thankyou, NEXT. 

I personally like to start off like this:

2 Dates at a NICE restaurant (do not accept drink dates).

Then I start asking for gifts. Maybe a dress for our next date. Or 2 dozen roses. Or chocolate truffles. Nothing too crazy as long as it sends the message that I am a luxury, I like luxury things and you will spend your money when you’re around me. 

It doesn’t matter if he’s a captain save a hoe type, bossy princess type or something else. NO MAN should have a problem with buying gifts for his lady.

He has a problem with it? THANKYOU NEXT.

After a few gifts, I ask for a small bill to be paid. Then I keep working my way up.  

And do not be afraid to “act dumb”:

“What do you mean you didn’t give your past girlfriends gifts??? Didn’t you want to do something sweet for her?” *look confused* What do you mean you never took your former Mistress/Domme shopping?? I thought you liked showing your appreciation? *look confused?*What do you mean that’s all you gave your previous sugar baby?? Didn’t you want to help her out more? *LOOK FUCKING CONFUSED*

You do not have to act bitchy or demanding (unless he’s in to that)You do not have to beg or plead.You do not have to act overly sweet. 

You simply say this as “matter of factly” as you can with a straight face. 

He’s going to feel like an ass and is either going to cave within 24 hours or disappear out of your life.

You have to set the standard from the beginning.  

And you can not waver from it. You have to be ruthless and willing to cut him off with the quickness if he will not meet your demands.

You don’t have to be mean. Just stop giving him attention.

A kept woman does not “ask”, she expects.

She expects you to take her on shopping trips.She expects you to take her dining at upscale restaurants.She expects you to take her on luxury vacations.She expects you to take care of her financially.

That is simply the “cost” of dating her.

When I look at both my successes and failures I noticed that every time I failed it was because I acted like a woman that WANTED to be a kept woman. Every time I succeeded it was because I acted like woman that IS a kept woman. 

There is a difference.

[rechbetch-deactivated20220314]

This is it. No more anon questions. This answers everything!!! 😭🙏🏼🙏🏼

[the-hidden-mistress]

Preach

[scorpionlafemme]

This is what I needed to hear!! THANK YOUUU 💗✨✨

[trophywifeintraining]

Self discipline is so important. Fuck will power and fuck motivation. If you set a goal 5 years, a year or 6 months ago, even last January and you’re still struggling with attaining it, motivation and will power are out the window. You need to plan out the specific ass steps to get your goal, and do them whether you feel like it or not. And if you still don’t do it, just throw the whole goal away. You don’t want it enough. Not more than you want comfort and pleasures and favorite foods and sleep and whatever is keeping you from attaining it. Imagine the rest of your life without you reaching that goal, and accept it. Start again when you’re sick and tired of coddling yourself.

[professor-trophy-wife-deactivat]

Sugar Sweet New Year

hey babes, here is my own personal list of goals for what I want to get accomplished in this new year:

I want to look my best ever:

Regular wax cycles, and commit to it. I feel like every time I do an alternative hair removal method, it is only short-term and it long-term f*ks up my hair growth cycles making it worse than before. Also open to laser removal, but I got that once a couple years ago and it hurt like a B

Regular skin care - I have been getting a facial about once a month, but I need to extend that to my back and chest. HMU with Boston recommendations

Mani-pedis regularly (obviously)

I want to dress up more. I have so many cute clothes! I also have so many great events to attend! I vow to take more advantage of my fabulous closet and social schedule and STOP OUTFIT REPEATING and START BEING MORE ORGANIZED so I can maximize my outfits and appearance

Get my hair done more regularly - I have dry-bars in my area and I got that “blow-out junkie” special for $90 a month that’s 2 blowouts a month (and they role over!) so I’m stoked to be taking advantage of this new plan

I want to lose 15 lbs fat, with probably a 10 lb drop on the scale (muscle gain). I got a little pudgier than I would like, and it’s making me unhappy. I’ll do this HEALTHILY through diet and exercise. I dabble with that thinsp0 stuff, but def not for unhealthy methods

I will go to the gym more regularly. I will take 3 HIIT classes a week, 1 pole class a week, and do an hour of cardio at least 5 times a week. These are minimums, and I’ll obviously take vacations off. I want to be skinny but toned, and that requires work 

Moisturize my skin more - I have the lotions but I get lazy. I also want to exfoliate more, so I’ll have to mentally draw up a schedule for myself so I incorporate it into my weekly routine

I want to feel my best ever:

I want to look in the mirror and be happy with my reflection

I want to sit in bed and feel fully content with who I am and what I have done, am doing, and will do

I will do more work with meditation and yoga

I will make specific efforts to give back to the community more (blood donation, giving away old clothes, charity work, etc.)

I will get deep tissue massages once a month, I have been already and they always make me feel great later (even though they kind of hurt in the moment)

As I drop weight, I will always remind myself that exercise is a wonderful celebration of my body, NEVER a punishment for food

As I drop weight, I will focus on centering around healthy additions. I’m already really into veggies and fruits (and I dabble with veganism) but I will make sure that my diet is improving in quality. While I’m not delusional and am VERY MUCH AWARE THAT CALORIES MATTER FOR WEIGHT LOSS, I will also be conscious that my calories should have high nutritional quality

I will take time to garner my hobbies and skills in a way that pleases me

I want to succeed more than ever:

I will get good grades in all of my courses

I will advance my business productively

I will develop a satisfying final product and introduce it to the market

I will continue making satisfying personal connections and new friends

I will continue making satisfying (sugar-based) professional connections

I will regularly reach out to family members and old friends to keep myself happy and to keep my emotional connections/bonds strong

I will maintain an organized schedule and a clean room

Happy Sugaring, and (almost) Happy New Year! SSL

[jasonttodd]

*comes online*

*reblogs 30 things within 5 minutes*

*fucks off again*

[high-maintenancee-deactivated20]

How can I look expensive on a budget?

First and foremost- Pay attention to sales and promos. You can shop at higher- end stores but still save so much when you pay attention to these things

How to shop on a budget:

1) Start with the basics- buy simple pieces such as the plain white tee, little black dress, camel coat etc. Make sure to try them on and get them in any specialty sizes (petite/plus/tall) that you may need. The goal is to have them look tailored or like they were made for you. Avoid bold colors. If you like color then mustard yellow, reds, emerald green, cool tone blues, and millennial pink tend to look the most classy. Monochromatic outfits look like $$$. Stay simple with patterns.

2) Find a pair of inexpensive but convincing “diamond” studs and dainty pendants. Avoid anything gaudy or flashy and only do mixed metals if it matches the particular look you are going for.

3) For your makeup find a neutral tone eye shadow palette you can use everyday and for formal events (they last a long time and therefore save money), also get a nude lipstick, lip-gloss and a red lip.

4) For handbags stick to smaller size bags but regardless of the size go for structured preferably leather purses.

5) When it comes to shoes the classiest looks are pointed toe shoes, nude or black heels that are NOT super high, and for summer or casual days- espadrilles

6) Last but not least being well groomed is very important. So make sure to do your hair in simple and flattering hairstyles and learn how to do them yourself to save money. For instance, when I cant make it to the salon I know how to do pretty heat-less curls or a neat bun. Also groom your eyebrows- if you cant afford to get them waxed or threaded you can always buy an eyebrow razor from stores like sally’s. To keep your nails looking nice you can use the at- home acrylic method with glue or keep it simple and paint them nude (which looks classier). Most hair oils also double as cuticle oil.

The most important thing to note is where to shop. Mix the high with the low.

To keep from breaking the bank you can shop anywhere to get basics such as Primark , fashion nova, and forever 21. However when it comes to denim and outerwear pay attention to the quality of material.

Higher end stores such as Revolve or off Saks 5th have items that are amazingly priced down 

The best places to get affordable yet quality shoes are Macy’s (who has sales basically everyday), Ross (shop in-store), and Steve Madden.

The best places to find affordable non-cheap looking jewelry is Francesca’s, Charming Charlies, Brandy Melville, and Swarovski.

I get compliments the most on my handbags from Zara ( all under $100) and Aldo ( who also has cute affordable sunglasses)

It’s best to get makeup from Ulta than Sephora if you are on a budget. Maybelline and Makeup Forever ( concealers) has great affordable foundations. However I love Fenty.

A Few things to remember:

Quality over quantity (don’t just get a bunch of items because they are on sale get things you will wear and like, and don’t be afraid to splurge on must haves)

Size matters - don’t expect the body-con dresses to fit you like the do fashion nova models if you haven’t their shape. Pay attention to the cut of tops because fashion models are typically flat chested so a low cut top may look classy on them but be way more revealing on the average women. Also dress to flatter you body shape (you should make the clothes look great; they shouldn’t wear you)

Avoid spending more just because of fads. Many names come and go out of value (Baby Phat, Champion etc.) so if you like name brands stick to the classic ones that will elevate you or make a nice resale item. Logos can be tacky but Louis Vuitton is safe

[swtbabykay]

💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎

[oliviasugarbabe]

def gonna add my own fashion tips at some point when i’m done with finals!

[empresspiscea]

[babyphat05archive]

inspirational words by @babyphat05​!

[babyphat05-deactivated20250613]

💞💞 luv this!!

[jehovahhthickness]

I just wanna get my money up and feel comfortable in my own skin at all times.

That’s what I want in 2020.

[sophisticatedtemptress]

Realistic 2020 goals

Keep getting my nails done every two weeks

Save 2000$ for my savings account

Pay off 2019′s student loans

Exercise 4-5 x a week

Support small businesses more

Try not to break my sobriety

Meditate more

Budget wisely

Travel at least 3 times

Go out more, wether it be alone or with friends 

Stick to my signature scent 

Cultivate relationships with family members/friends

Slowly ditch processed foods and dairy

Get my legs and armpits lasered (already got my pussy and a$$ done)

Grow out my hair more / get hair trimmed every 4 months / avoid heat products

Apply for honors scholarship at my uni / maintain a gpa of 3.7 of higher

Drink more water

Use less makeup and appreciate my natural beauty

Floss daily

Don’t drink sodas or caffeine

Cook my own meals

Compliment more people

Be more understanding and patient

Read more

Make moneyyyyyyyyyy

Smile more often and remember self care isn’t selfish

[scorpionlafemme]

I love this list ✨

[underworldariel-deactivated2021]

December Manifestations:

My plans will fall into place.

I will be paid well so I may treat those I love.

My loved ones will be around this holiday season.

I ring in the new year with success and pride.

My purpose and path are bright and burning.

I do not threat about money.

My goals and dreams come to fruition.

[blessed-high11y-favored]

REPEAT AFTER ME : I am about to walk into the greatest year of my life✨