Happiness is Not a Destination

Dom, she/her, 40s, biracial, queer; my blog is a trash fire these days so welcome and good luck; also on twitter, IG, ao3 For Check, Please! see my sideblog tangothecurioustadpole

[victoria-pedretti]

TWISTER 1996 — dir. Jan de Bont

[creekfiend]

death shatters reality like a fist through a pane of glass. if someone tells me a story about death and portrays whatever is broken as simple or comprehensible or repairable, and there's no unpleasant shards of glass sticking out in weird places to be stepped on randomly by someone months or years later. what are you even doing. what do you think death is. death is unreality! it should feel unreal! grief is grappling with the unreality and the linear nature of time. no backsies. nothing can be undone.

[melioristicbeast]

Congratulations Derek, your hard-working boyfriend made it back home from his work trip in time for Valentine's ♡

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[southfarthing]

you ever just have the lord of the rings urge???? just sitting there and then suddenly your heart is about to burst out of sheer love for hobbits and maps and adventures and true friends and haunting histories and distant realms and sacrifice and loss and perseverance and loneliness and strength and horror and bravery and fear and bravery despite the fear and mercy and kindness and twinkling hope and reunions and healing and love and returning home and not quite really returning home and what is home really and learning to live anyway through it all

[vintageandroid]

fanfic writers will go "anyone gonna explore the kinda fucked up or emotionally impactful implications of this minor canon detail?" and then not wait for an answer.

[nonaferatu]

This would have had me crucified on tumblr 10 years ago but maybe we are ready for this conversation now:

If you are a socially anxious person, you have to socialize. Your panic/anxiety attacks will only get worse and trigger more frequently if you constantly avoid contact with The Public. Not saying that you need to be a social butterfly- but there is a genuine problem with not being able to order your own meal at a restaurant. And it cannot be solved by always having someone else do it for you.

This is a PSA to about 3/4s of the Portland Youth populace

[nonaferatu]

everyone who reblogs this and is like "I ordered my own tea this week" or "I only barfed once when I had to give a presentation'- you are doing amazing sweetie. Have patience with yourself, you are relearning a skill so difficult that people get 4 year degrees to do it professionally.

[foreverrhapsody]

#yeah#look it sucks but you’re your own zookeeper#you gotta learn to push thru some discomfort

[not-freyja]

“Yeah but like you probably at least use chatgpt for—” let me stop you right there. I don’t even know what chatgpt is, software wise. Is it a desktop program, a website, an app? No fucking idea.

Don’t have any desire to find out, either.

[no-longer-another-bondi-blonde]

[foxbirdy]

[lamignonette]

[misscrazyfangirl321]

Would be asleep right now, but there are Fictional Characters to imagine in emotional situations. You know how it is.

[dailybtvs]

Buffy the Vampire Slayer 6.07 ― "Once More, with Feeling"

[onlytiktoks]

[lezbadeez]

Holy mother of curb theory those are GOOD

See what happens when we do things for disabled people? We get shot like this that's just better for *everyone* AND accommodates for wheelchair users

[muffinlance]

The hoodies are $59. That is straight up a normal hoodie price that is AMAZING

Creating adaptive clothing and accessories designed to bring joy and confidence while increasing your quality of life. Discover products to

[kermitlesbian]

*in a rap battle* i wonder who your mother could have been if she never had you

[kermitlesbian]

[naamahdarling]

I never thought I would live to see a "your mom" joke that doesn't degrade their mom.

[typhlonectes]

[just-your-average-cryptid]

"fun" fact:

prior authorization, if you've never heard of it, is your doctor asking your insurance to cover a prescription/procedure/what have you that they want to give their patient. the insurance company can decide that they don't wanna and deny authorization, forcing the patient to cover the cost themselves or cancel the prescription/procedure and continue dealing with whatever brought them to their doctor, without the treatment they need.

in other words, people with no medical degrees or experience can decide that you don't need medical care because profits, even if it would save your life - if you're not dying right this second, you're fine, right?

kiiiiiinda sounds like practicing medicine without a license to me, but what do i know? i'm sure those rich guys are so much smarter than me about how health works. totally not just profiting from people's suffering. noooo.

[vaspider]

Prior authorizations are supposed to be handled by a doctor. Often, you have no one doing that or one doctor "reviewing" an unreasonable amount of cases and just rubberstamping thousands of cases a day. That's why one of the best ways to handle a PA being denied is to ask for the license number and name of the person who reviewed your request. In the US, this is information to which you are entitled.

Usually, rather than admit that they are breaking the law - which everybody fucking knows they're doing - they will then just approve your PA.

I highly recommend Matthew Cortland's Patreon for a lot of info on how to handle health insurance. They're a literal pro at health law in the US and a chronically ill person themself & for a couple of bucks a month, you get access to a huge archive full of how-to & disability/health news.

[everythingfox]

Very impressive

[batmanbeyondrocks]

Black Menswear modelled by Black Men

Creative Director Rock Mitchell

[razziecat]

Sharp dressed men :)

[everlastingrandom]

What Is Black Dandyism? The 2025 Met Gala: ‘Superfine’ and the Art of Tailoring Theme Explained

Superfine: Tailoring Black Style

[thelawfulchaotic]

Listen, my clients never know how to dress for court. I won’t get into the number of people that have worn weed related prints or jewelry to drug charges because nobody has time for that.

My white guys sometimes swing a good polo shirt and khakis combo. Very occasionally a blazer.

It’s black clients that break out the craziest fucking suits I’ve ever seen in my life and my friends, the judges love it. They’re literally like “Thank you for respecting the court and dressing appropriately.” Congratulating this 60 year old man in solid mauve velvet and a bow tie. Or 20 year old in neon green pinstripe, who has, of course, taken off his hat as he entered, causing the judge to puff up proudly about the Youth and decide to dismiss his reckless driving ticket.

Idk if any black men are on tumblr but wear your weird amazing suits to court. Make the lawyers jealous. Be polite. Win.

[fuhosh-i]

“Where’s the pathetic element?” Exactly Tom Hardy. Exactly.

(x)

[bettsfic]

reblogging this again because i can't stop thinking about "where's the wretch?"

i have hundreds of thousands of words of writing asks on this blog spanning a decade. i've read dozens of craft books. i've been teaching creative writing for 8 years. and "where's the wretch" might be the best craft advice i've ever heard.

[teaboot]

God I love this guy*

*Posted August 3rd 2024