Love and Oranges.

Yo, what it is? I blog a multitude of things but mostly anime.Also I do not care. About anything.

[noc10-moved]

*parts a bead curtain as i enter the room, carrying a glass of lemonade* 

hey….

nothing you ever read, watch, or participate in will be ideologically pure and without its problems. your quest to consume the most unproblematic material will be, in the end, fruitless. your enjoyment of anything will be sapped away, leaving you a husk starved for media.

 it is okay to enjoy things that have problems to them, so long as you do it critically and with an open mind, and take care to consider others.

*leaves the way i came*

[more-witches]

This is possibly the healthiest post I’ve seen on this site

[dizzleceezy]

friends, lemme share this little gem with you

FIRST! The inner flap:

oh dear indeed… 

some people crayons are jerks.

:’(

:D

:D :D :D :D :D :D :D :’’’’) :’’’’’’’’)))))))))))

i just have a lot of feelings about this book and think everyone should own it

[naliniasha]

i lovethis so much

[wilwheaton]

It’s raining on my face.

[featuresofinterest]

it seems so strange to me that the only people it is socially acceptable to live with (once you reach a certain stage in life) are sexual partners? like why can’t i live with my best friend? why can’t i raise a child with them? why do i need to have sex with someone in order to live with them? why do we put certain relationships on a pedestal? why don’t we value non-sexual relationships enough? why do life partners always have to be sexual partners?

[greenjudy]

My grandmother and grandfather more or less adopted my grandmother’s best friend back in the 50s. After my grandfather died (before I was born, back in 1968 or so) they continued to keep house together, platonic best friends, and they hung together until they died, a few months apart, in 2007.

It’s quite recently, as far as I can tell, that living arrangements like that have stopped being regarded as normal.

[deathcomes4u]

It’s absolutely a new thing to find this stuff weird, and it has a lot to do with media pretending that the nuclear family and marriage are the only reasons to live with other people.

I’ve lived in a 3 adult household my whole life. My parents and their best friend. This was never weird to me, even though everyone my age thought it was because the media never portrayed these kinds of housing arrangements. As far as i was concerned, I just had an extra non-blood parent.

According to my parents, it was very common in the 70′s-80′s to buy houses with your friends, because it was financially smart to do so (so long as you were certain they were close friends who wouldn’t fall out with you and fuck everything up). Houses and house payments are much more manageable when you split the bills 3-4 ways instead of just two.

Millenials aren’t the first to think it’s a great idea to just shack up with friends. That’s housemating without the hastle of living with strangers. It’s still a good idea to shack up with people you’ve known a long time so you know how you’ll get on living together, but still. In the current economy, it’s pretty much now our only option for affording anything.

I think, and I’m not researched on this, but I think conservatives probably tried to suppress images of non-nuclear families because they likely thought it would encourage ideas of polygamy, polyamory, open sexual relationships with or without marriage, as well as other relationship types they thought of as un-christian or unsavoury. I could be wrong, but that shit wouldn’t surprise me.

(And i want to make a note that there’s also a disturbing amount of asexual denial around that makes people go ‘if they’re living together they HAVE to be banging because why wouldn’t they?’ and that shit both creeps me out and annoys me no end. People can be in relationships without sex. People can live together without sex. Sex is not the be-all and end-all and people being taught to think it is really need to stop).

Don’t let the media fool you into believing you can only live with a sexual partner or blood family. Someone somewhere has an agenda for making these seem abnormal, when really it’s just practical.

[curlicuecal]

A lot of people acted like it was super weird when two of my brothers decided to move states with me when I started my postdoc. I got really used to giving a little canned speech about it because it seemed to bewilder people so much. (Their leases happened to be up! We could share rent! They wanted to try somewhere new!)

The notable exception was my grandma, who was just like, “oh, yes, when we were young my sister and I decided to move cross-country together and it was lovely.”

More of this kind of thing for everyone, pls.

[magickedteacup]

The implication that close sibling relationships must also be a warning sign for incest also peeves me off; what kind of society are we living in anyway

[ineptshieldmaid]

#my mom’s a historian#does a lot of research#one of the main takeaways from the census data of literally every US census since the beginning#is that the nuclear family has never been the actual norm#nobody really ever lived like that#and a lot don’t now#and it’s clearly artificial and not ideal for most people#every household in the census had at least a grandma#usually a cousin#some rando#someone living in the house who wasn’t mom or dad or kid#always someone#usually several someones#some uncles etc.#unmarried aunties#that sort of person#but often unrelated friends#we’ve never really lived alone#that’s not how families work#that’s not how humans work  

tags by @bomberqueen17

[solarcat]

Having a multi-adult household unit also just makes a shit-ton of sense, tbh. Much easier to split not only the bills, but also the housework and child-rearing responsibilities. Communal living ftw.

[glassbonespaperskin]

[lilgivenchyprincess]

[bisexualhobgadling]

remember when the Sherlock fandom decided to dislike all the Elementary trailers on youtube in an attempt to get it cancelled before it even aired

[brainstatic]

No, but I believe it.

[gmbencompetence]

My favorite part was when they called the show homophobic because making Watson a woman made it harder for them to write slash fiction about two lead characters.

[stargazerofgoldenwords]

Remember when Elementary fans had to create their own tag to get away from the Sherlock fandom invading the ‘Elementary’ tag on Tumblr

Remember when Sherlock fans found it incomprehensible that an Asian woman was playing the role of Watson.  Never mind that both Holmes and Watson have been mice and dogs and robots and pieces of fruit in different media. 

Remember when the cast and crew of BBC Sherlock pretty much baited its fandom by being passive-aggressive whiny chits about the show on social media and in interviews.

Remember when Mark Gatiss retweeted that ‘Not Benedict Cumberbatch/Not Martin Freeman’ mock-poster. 

Remember when self-professed ‘militant feminist’ Louise Brealey (Molly Hooper) called the casting of Lucy Liu - the first time a woman would play the role of Watson in a major adaptation of the Sherlock Holmes stories - ‘gimmicky’.

Remember when Benedict Cumberbatch insinuated that Jonny Lee Miller took the role so he could ‘buy something nice for his wife.’

Remember when Martin Freeman called Lucy Liu a dog on live television and then brushed it off as a ‘joke.’

[wondersmith-and-sons]

Remember when renowned feminist Victoria Cohen lost her shit in a Guardian article and frothed at the mouth for like 800 words on how Lucy Liu’s Watson “was an insult to British values”

Remember when renowned feminist Caitlin Moran wrote an entire article about how Asian Watson was “gimmicky” and “trying too hard”.

Remember when renowned fandom feminists was all about “SCREW WRITING STRONG WOMEN!!!! WRITE COMPLEX WOMEN!!!!!!” but collectively shat themselves and bent over backwards trying to justify their racism and how “Asian Watson is not progressive” and how “disinterested” they were in the Holmes/Watson relationship because it wasn’t about two white men eyefucking

[whillowed]

don’t forget when elementary included a trans woman in the show and people reached trying 2 say that including her was “FORCING DIVERSITY” and “WASN’T REALISTIC” because she was in the same room as an asian woman 

[biochemprincess]

There’s something to be said for fiction that’s predictable. Like I don’t always want to watch or read something that makes me nervous and wonder what’s going to happen. Sometimes it’s nice to read something where you know exactly how it’ll end. It can be relaxing just to watch a plot unfold.

[the-bitch-goddess-success-deact]

Millennials, let’s be the generation that ends the “bitterly criticize the youth” cycle. When we’re old, let’s embrace and nurture them and commend them for facing challenges we might have created.

[kidomarus]

[chasertiff-deactivated20190402]

When I say “boys are dumb” what I really mean is “boys have been raised in a patriarchal society that forces them into an incorrect and problematic view of masculinity that not only forces them to strip away valuable virtues from themselves, like patience and gentleness, but also forces them them to view and treat women in unhealthy ways that devalues women as people and makes them into objects purely for a man’s benefit”

but it’s a lot faster to say “boys are dumb”

[fashionsensexoxo]

Money can buy

Independence and safety (not having to rely on abusive ppl, getting to control how you spend your time and money)

Experiences (travel, events, vacations, entertainment)

Health (medical care duh, good food, good location, reduced stress)

Opportunity (car, being able to move, having a safety net, “looking professional”)

Confidence (clothes that make you look good, things that make you feel good)

That seems alot like happiness

[animentality]

I think rich people just said money can’t buy happiness so that poor people would be content with being poor and not having access to the shit they take for granted.

[athenakeene]

‘but how are my kids supposed to sing along to moana if it’s in another language?’ the same way i sang along to lion king brenda tell your bitch ass kids to up their fucking game

[grrover]

no one talks about how rick riordan literally scammed disney 

[grrover]

dead ass pjo was that seemingly “normal” kids fantasy series with a seemingly white straight kid saving the world and it’s a fucking success. percy jackson? iconic! ppl fucking love percy and his character and then hoo comes out? everyone is pumped bc everyone is in love with that world. the first book? two main bad ass poc characters. the second book? two more bad ass poc characters! the fourth book and there’s literally a gay character and it’s not like disney could say no. hoo ends and then there’s magnus chase and ppl are fucking pumped bc that’s annabeth chase’s cousin and in the first book there’s a muslim girl and by the second book there’s a transgender and genderfluid character. trials of apollo? a main gay couple in a happy relationship and a fucking bi character. could disney say no? no. literal 10 year olds are reading books with heaps of representation all published by disney. rick riordan played the game. you step in thinking ur just gonna get white cishets and you walk out surrounded by different cultures and rainbows.

tldr; rick started out with the basic pasty white and straight series which got hella successful and used his success to pusblish more books and allow only one (1) cishet and only one (1) white

[grrover]

i doubt he planned it but deadass it would be so funny if that’s what happened

[kaylapocalypse-deactivated20201]

I saw him speak on /writing in the UK right before (or early in on when) his series hit it big. Planned. Definitely planned. 

[professorsparklepants]

HEY YO DON’T FORGET that Rick started writing because he wanted to give his son with ADHD and dyslexia media representation, because, LET ME TELL YOU, ADHD representation is literally impossible to find. Percy Jackson is like, the only book I’ve ever read with ADHD characters, let alone a protagonist. 

TDLR; Rick didn’t spring a representation trap, he started out writing representation and then just cast wider nets

[marauders4evr]

So, we need to talk about Men In Tights more.

[stanwrightworth-deactivated2020]

Everything’s so much better when it’s gay

[jacktwohats]

No it’s not. I’m so tired of this “Lol gay=good” mindset. Speaking as a writer, I was writing a story that had primarily straight characters. Why, because that’s how I imagined them. That’s who they were. This damn site guilted me into thinking I had to change my characters to make the story good. So I made some gay, some trans, changed the races of a few characters and names. And you know what, it fucking sucked. Not because the characters were lgbt or poc, but because I had forced them to be something they weren’t. I became disinterested with the story and depressed, and I came to the realization that the story didn’t need to have lgbt characters or poc charactes to be a good story, because a story isn’t about their sexual preference or color, it’s about who they are inside. I changed the characters back to how I originally had them, which was primarily straight and white, and the story was reinvigorated because I wasn’t forcing it to be something it wasn’t. I was allowing the story to be what it was.

So no, gay doesn’t equal better. Gay doesn’t mean good. And having this mindset can negatively impact stories when you force your characters to be something their not.

[stanwrightworth-deactivated2020]

Anyways everything’s so much better when it’s gay

[racethewind10]

#wow that’s a really roundabout way of saying you’re a shitty writer - [x]

[dabe-strudel]

“as a straight white author i can’t imagine a world that doesn’t revolve around me and diversity is just too hard to write” 

[door]

[boycottromance-deactivated20181]

So i just came out to my dad abt being nb, and he said something really wise about names, i think.

He said “Gifts are not obligations. You give things to people, and you hope they like them. And your name was a gift from us to you. If it doesn’t work for you anymore, you’re not obligated to keep it.”

and i just thought maybe other people could use hearing something like that.