INFJ: SO Misunderstood, itās a Tragedy
I am an INFJ, the rarest of the 16 personality typesā¦Only 1% of the worldās population identify as INFJā¦No wonder I often feel misunderstood by othersā¦but itās what people donāt see in my personality, that makes our type truly special. Often people are quick to label us as āquiet and antisocialā. When in reality, INFJs are looking for an even deeper connection, thatās almost ineffable.
What you donāt know about me, (and most likely other INFJs): I crave authenticity. Small talk gives me anxiety but I often yearn for intellectual conversation. I am extremely introverted, which is not the same as being shy. I truly enjoy spending time alone. I also hold very strong convictions of morality, and what it means to be truly altruistic and genuine. I care about people more than I can express, and oftentimes, it leaves me in a position where I care tooĀ much. So much that I end up emotionally distraught and angry for being unappreciated. This is why my biggest pet peeve is regretting helping people.
I always try to get people to truly understand others before judging them. We are all way too judgmental, including myself. But itās so important to take a step back and think āmaybe thereās a good reason why they are like that?ā Doing this is a life skill that would make this world better than we could even imagine. I often become angry when others are inconsiderateā¦I become irrationally upset when I see someone being treated wrongfully when they donāt deserve it. Iām hesitant to share my thoughts and insights for fear of being socially alienated. People are quick to label those who share these āphilosophicalā thoughts and theories as āweirdā and āstuck upā. I see it as trying to understand everyone on a level that makes us all human, to strike down negative stereotypes and to see people for who they really are, rather than how they simply appear to the eye. I choose to keep my inner circle small because I trust few people. And for those people, Iād give my life for.
Because as an INFJ, my mind is constantly observing. I am unusually good at reading people and situations. Itās to the point where I consider myself slightly psychic, as more often than not, I can successfully predict the outcome of many relationships/situations. Being able to read hidden motives and intentions by penetrating appearances is something I canāt turn offā¦
My intuition is high at all times. I feel as though I can understand a personās motives and innermost psyche by simply observing their mannerisms (thru interaction or keeping to themselves). I view almost everyone as having 2 personas (their outer social exterior as people perceive them, & their innermost psyche/demeanor that differentiates them on a spiritual level) . In other words, Iām usually VERY aware of who people are. I usually feel like I can see people more clearly than those people can see themselves.Ā
And I find it funny and ironic how people try to typecast me when in reality, theyāll never know unless theyāre one of the few I choose to ālet inā. I find myself just knowing things/insights about people and situations that I often have a really difficult time justifying it. Itās because INFJs have such a keen intuition as to how things truly are at its innermost core, and we all see how things should be, ideally (although it may not be realistic).
I also find a creative outlet in writing. Iām always writing. In my phone, on post its, opened letters, just anything. I find myself over analyzing characters from movies and books. Often wondering how or why they feel, think, and act the way they do. I imagine what their week was like before the first scene of the movie/book. I draw out their thought processes and deepest desires. I find myself wondering what the characters are doing at this very moment. My mind is like an endless time continuum, with every person, character, story, interaction, or thought Iāve had in my lifetime.
You see, to most people, the majority of my post may sound like nonsense. But to the INFJ, itās as if weāve finally discovered who we are, and that itās perfectly ok to be different. That being a 1% minority does not āalienateā us from the rest of society. In fact, it doesnāt even make us ācoolā. All it means, is that we are a personality that takes on the morality, mercy, and underlying meaning of lifeās greatest gifts.
We have a knack for understanding others on the innermost sense of empathy. Weāre sometimes labeled as ācold and insensitiveā which couldnāt be further from the truth. We actually really care about people in general,Ā perhaps too much. Itās insane thoughā¦to think that all of this personal expression of life and desire for the well-being of humanity, is packaged into one stereotype of āquiet and antisocialā. So misunderstood, itās a tragedy.
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