An Invitation to Endless Wonder

27, She/Her, trans woman, white. IF YOU ARE UNDER 18 YEARS OLD DO NOT FOLLOW ME. TME is shorthand for “not a trans woman” About

[punkypoodle]

what makes transmisandry not a thing compared to transmisogyny? I know trans women experience a very specific (and severe) sort of discrimination but I guess my assumption would be that trans men would also have their own unique bigotry they face? I'm not at all trying to argue with you, im just not trans and I'm trying to understand the difference, I guess

Misandry is not real lol thats why

Transmisogyny is an intersection of transphobia and misogyny—that doesnt mean that it’s transphobia+misogyny, it means that there is a very specific oppression that trans women face bc we are transgender women. Trans men absolutely do face transphobia, and some of the issues they face (one example, access to hysterectomies/abortion/etc) are issues that trans women dont experience. But looking at that example, trans men are denied that because of the systemic oppression of trans people, but they aren’t denied that access because of any systemic oppression of men.

Many people will look at this situation though, and say “well, but denial of reproductive rights like this against women IS misogyny!” Which is absolutely correct. But trans men aren’t women. Hence, trans men dont face misogyny. When trans men are seen as women and treated in the derogatory way that society treats women, this is NOT misogyny. This is transphobia. The root of this oppression is transphobic bigotry, not bigotry against women. Stop seeing this as “misdirected misogyny” because it resembles misogyny—remember that we must identify systemic discrimination by its root cause, the bigotry, and not by appearance. Trans women being denied access to condoms and cis women being denied access to birth control are both situations where women are being denied agency of their own reproduction. These are actually not separate issues, but the same issue with different solutions depending on the indivdual (remember for cis women, an iud may be the right solution for one, while for another the pill is the solution. The answer being condoms does not make this a separate issue).

Your confusion is likely coming from a perspective of viewing transmisogyny to mean “transphobia directed against trans women” and if that was the case, then yea you could argue that “transmisandry” would exist. But that isnt what transmisogyny means.

I hope that this helped, honestly. You can ask if anything here isnt clicking with you, and i’ll try to explain better.

[lezuzu]

the society that separates its gamers from its scholars will have its gaming done by fools and its thinking by noobs

[trawl]

It’s a New Year, but Gaza is still suffering.

Despite a so-called ceasefire, bombs are still being dropped on Gaza. There is still a full-scale occupation. The border is still closed, cutting off an escape route for the thousands and thousands of people stuck there. Even if that wasn’t true, the people of Gaza are still starving, cold, sick, and under threat of death from those things.

If you have a New Year’s resolution this year, consider adding something — consider adding a pledge to support the people of Palestine. In particular, please consider supporting my dear friend of several years, Ibrahim @wolf-aid.

[trawl]

I’m watching Ibrahim, who is still a young teenager, grow up in unimaginably difficult conditions. Starvation, sickness, injury, the loss of loved ones — he’s experiencing all of that on a scale I cannot fathom. This year, please consider donating to him to help him and his family escape the hell they’re in, or at least survive it.

[trawl]

Donating once is amazing. If you can, I highly encourage you to donate regularly — even just five or ten dollars a month, every month, adds up for this family. If you can’t, donate what you can, when you can, and spread Ibrahim’s campaign in the meantime. Post about it, talk about it, share it as far and wide as you can. He and I both thank you.

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[wolf-aid]

Please, everyone, we desperately need your help. Please donate and share this post. We're suffering a lot; life here is exhausting, and I've lost all passion for it. Please donate and don't ignore this.

[zinaanqar07]

I will not forgive anyone who sees this post and does not support me with a single word and ignores me.

[zinaanqar07]

I’m writing this with tears in my eyes. I can’t carry this anymore. I am completely exhausted because of my sister’s severe anemia and malnutrition.

[zinaanqar07]

All I care about is keeping my family safe. Please help me buy healthy food so her body can keep going.

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[zinaanqar16]

Guys, Please don’t ignore to help us, we are suffering so much during 8 months with my sister, Please just share if you can’t able to donate

[ellevandersneed]

Please do what you can. Share and donate to his fundraiser and help Zeina and her family.

[tamarrud]

I know for a fact many of you got tired of seeing and circulating donation campaigns from Gaza. But here's the thing, I talk to Amal almost daily and so many times she feels the need to profusely apologise for basically telling me how bad their situation is. Amal and others like her don't particularly enjoy being vulnerable on your feeds. But Israel has worked so hard to make their lives unbearable that this is in fact the only option a family like Amal's has.

All Amal is fundraising for is a tent. A tent. She fully knows this tent won't keep her safe or warm, but she simply needs a place she can recover after giving birth in the coming days instead of being stranded without shelter. That's all she's asking for and that's why we're trying to help her reach her target.

When I say donating and sharing is the least you can do, I truly and wholeheartedly mean it. Please do what you can and always remember that no amount is too small when we're all donating and sharing collectively.

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[wolf-aid]

I swear I'm tired, but I'm still fighting... because what comes after exhaustion is something worthwhile.

Oh, finally! After so much hard work, sleepless nights, and suffering, we've achieved 95% of our goal. Please, we're almost there! We need 4,000 euros to reach our goal. Reaching my goal has become my dream. Please donate some euros to us. We're almost there. Please, I want to save my family from this ruin. Please donate.share this post if you can.

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[wolf-aid]

Please, my friends, donate to me, why are you ignoring us? Why are everyone ignoring? Are we numbers? Or are we not human or is it? Please raise up and share Please, honey, please. We're not numbers.

[wolfertinger666]

please help out!

[wolf-aid]

Please donate. I care a lot. It is said that the crossing will open in the coming days. I hope it is not common. I want my family and I to travel to safety. Please, buddy.

[wolf-aid]

No one has ever donated to me, unfortunately, please guys donate to me even one euro, I'm telling you I've achieved my goal. 95% and I am very close to him, please donate to me and do not ingore him

[estrogenesis-eeveeangelion]

"femboy" in its original context was coined as an alternative to "trap" "shemale" "dickgirl" and "tranny" when transphobic straight men became embarrassed to use those terms in front of each other. it is a porn category word that was used then and is still used now to justify jerking off to trans women while calling them effeminate men. it's an insult that is being reclaimed by some transfems, and as with all insults, if it was not originally aimed at you then you have no right to reclaim it. we all know that it has nothing to do with being a femme man and you are engaging in bad-faith wordplay games if you claim otherwise.

i don't think any genuinely transfeminist man or boy, cis or trans, of any aesthetic persuasion, would choose to use that particular word if they really thought about it. and if you aren't genuinely transfeminist and at least that bare minimum of thoughtful then i don't wanna fucking know you.

[90-ghost]

I feel helpless and I don’t know how to explain to my brother and what to tell him that’s people don’t care anymore there’s no donations .. I can’t sleep because of overthinking about everything being responsible and u are the one who must take care of your family is exhausting my brother who lives in hell and my family in Egypt . I just feel useless and sad 💔

[90-ghost]

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[jjs-adorable-rotting-corpse]

[librarycards]

re: transmasculine envy of transfem (hyper)visibility.... it really is striking that for years we (feminists) have pushed back against the framing of constant sexual harassment as "desirable" and "complementary" by men who willfully ignore the danger this places feminized people in... and then when it occurs to trans women –– who face a disproportionate amount of danger even among feminized people –– nominal "feminists" double down

[librarycards]

like this was a frequent argument w.in 00's and 10's discourses on street harassment and catcalling, men swearing up and down that they would welcome this abuse as complementary and wish they received the attention, and women being ignored and trivialized in their attempts to explain what a dangerous position it put them in.

[soup-mother]

Everyone else's masculinity is a violent performance of the patriarchy. Not mine tho, because of [identity trait].

[soup-mother]

Patriarchy was the exclusive product of [outgroup], so we don't have it. Our masculinity is cool and secretly leftist because of [identity trait]

[dragongirlsweetie]

like imagine you're working a boring job that doesn't pay very well and then in the busiest part of the year they start playing like. kidz bop and the wiggles on the radio instead of normal music. that's basically what december is

[catboybiologist]

On my string of problematic posting:

I don't think you can properly express to someone who isn't transfemme how seeing a gag about someone disgusted and vomiting over a body like yours over, and over, and over again in every fucking piece of media in the early 2000s

[catboybiologist]

And SO many more media portrayals of disgust. EVERYWHERE. The outright societal disdain for your body is on a magnitude for transfemmes that is insane.

[whatever618-deactivated20251212]

Sorry to be annoying but I noticed people in the notes likening it to fatphobia, which to me is inaccurate. When I first read this post, it did make think of growing up as a fat black girl but I didn't intend on making that parallel as I deemed it inappropriate.

Even with the intersection of fatphobia and misogynoir, fat black women are not a hyper minority. There were black women who spoke life into me. There was a time where my social media feeds was solely black women of various sizes. There are well respected black female celebrities who are bigger, yes not that many, but it exists. People literally liken Aretha Franklin to a queen.

There is no trans female answer to Lizzo, for example. Yes, Lizzo is hated by many, but still, she is highly successful and her music was inescapable. I can also think off the top of my head Yseult & Chika, also there are so many black women who rose to fame while fat/plus size (Missy & Jhud). So clearly the barriers to entry aren't as harsh as that for TW broadly.

So, while it's nice for us as TMEs to see ourselves in TW, I feel like people don't get what a hyperminority means. Little trans girls are not in communities full of people who look like them. It's very common for trans women to first encounter their likeness in pornography or a hateful caricature. Very few fat people in the west can claim they/we never saw a fat person until they were being mocked or objectified in media. It really is not the same at all, as OP already said in response to the notes.

I actually remember being asked by a boy in school if I'd date a "chick with tits & a dick" (it wasn't innocent, he acted like it was gross) bc I told him I was pan, and I said "yes" and it was only when I said "they're people like you & me" did he have the shame to look embarassed. We were like thirteen? I remember boys performing disgust at black and fat girls at school, but not like that. It was framed as "preference" usually, not like a perversion of some kind.

So little boys are already understanding they have to socially control/exclude others who are into women if they find trans women attractive. I was obviously presenting as a queer girl at the time & I had enough social capital to scold him and make him drop it. Most kids just accept it & repeat it.

[catboybiologist]

I can't claim to understand what its like to be black, or fat, at any point in my life.

However, some aspect of the comparison to fat and black experiences wasn't quite sitting right with me, and I think you hit it harder than I had even thought myself.

I had no one. I'm from a "liberal" area of the country. I still had no one. There were one or two trans guys at my high school who transitioned quietly. I've checked in with some people I went to HS with, a couple of trans women transitioned well past the age of 18.

I did not knowingly meet a trans woman who had already transitioned until I was 21, and even that was just in passing. The first time I made trans friends irl was when I was at a low point, lost and deliberately seeking community, thinking about transition myself, when I was 24.

So what perception did I have of trans women before then?

Movies and TV. Serial killers, men in dresses, characters that are treated as deceitful and/or disgusting, and gags over and over about how sick and twisted and disgusting those stupid transvestites are.

There's a lot of generational pain that I'm saved by being white. I really, really hope this doesn't come across as trying to benchmark my experiences as a white trans woman against things that I can't understand. But you genuinely articulated something here, unique to the experience of being a trans woman, that I had been struggling to say myself. Thank you.

This is actually really reminiscent about some chapters in Detransition, Baby, that ring really true. The lack of generationality to the trans experience, the lack of guaranteed role models, is a mixed blessing. On the one hand, it means that generational persecution isn't necessarily passed down through the family, but on the other, you get this disconnect.

I'm trying analysis of my own while being too tired to function, so I'm just kinda rambling. But this take is good and it feels good to highlight

[megafaunabracket]

Tumblr's Favorite Charismatic Animal: 13th Place Bracket Semifinals

Capybara VS Red Panda

Capybara

Red Panda

Voting ended onDec 5, 2025

[wheelie-sick]

Deaf people have double the suicide rate that hearing people do. If you're hearing, put that number in your head, really think about how high that is. This is especially true if you're queer and/or surrounded by people who have experienced suicidal ideation. Think about just how appalling that number is. Think about what double that number would be like in your community.

[wheelie-sick]

The Deaf community literally saves lives. What drives d/Deaf people to suicide is isolation.

[abedmmajed-42]

The War Is Almost Over… but Our Struggle to Rebuild Has Just Begun.

Every day here in Gaza feels like a year carved into our chests. The war isn’t like it was in the early days—the sky is quieter, the air carries less smoke, and the nights hold fewer explosions. But the pain… it still lives under the rubble, inside our memories, and in the empty spaces where our loved ones once stood.

I’m writing this today not because the war has completely ended, but because for the first time in a long while, it feels like the horizon is opening a little. A small space where we can breathe, gather ourselves, and try to rebuild what’s left of our lives. Yet every step forward feels like walking on wounded memories, and every stone from our destroyed home whispers stories we never got to finish.

We lived through nights so heavy we thought morning would never come. We lost things that can never be replaced—homes, dreams, pieces of our hearts. But we are still here… holding on, trying, fighting to stay standing despite everything.

And in the middle of this long road… there is a house. A house that once carried laughter, warmth, noise, and life. Today, all that remains is an image holding a memory—and rubble longing for the people who once lived inside.

Today, we are trying to rebuild—not just the walls of a house, but an entire life that was shattered. We are trying to create a new beginning, to live with dignity again, to give our family a sense of safety that we’ve been missing for so long.

We’re not writing this to mourn what was lost, but to ask for a chance to start again. We ask for your support because rebuilding after a war is not something one person can do alone—it is a human effort, a shared act of compassion. We need you. We need your hearts. We need your help to stand again.

Abedmajed’s Hope: Rebuilding Our Family’s Life in Gaza

My name is Abedmajed Elderawi, and I live in Gaza with what remains of my once large and loving family.

Because Gaza has no working banking system, we use my brother U.S. Stripe account to safely process donations for our family. Nothing is hidden — every dollar goes where it should. We are ready to show proof of anything, at any time.

Every contribution—no matter how small—makes a difference. It becomes part of our story, part of rebuilding a home, part of reviving a life that nearly faded.

The war may be almost over… but our journey back to life begins now.

🌿✨ Thank you to every soul who still feels our pain, and to everyone who reaches out a hand to help us rise again.

[kirbism]

Sex is something you do with your teeth so gnashing at my neck w a muzzle on is equivalent to dry humping, right?