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Some t-shirts are just clothes… and some say something without saying a word.

I’ve been creating designs with that energy a little art, a little attitude, a little piece of me.

If you like wearing things that feel like you, you might love these 🖤

Take your time… beautiful things aren’t meant to be rushed.

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07-07-24

De mis viejos archivos… Experimento Personal en el Amor Contemporáneo

Últimamente he estado reflexionando mucho sobre el dating actual. Cómo conectamos. Cómo nos mostramos. Y cómo nos escondemos.

Decidí exponerme emocionalmente un poco más y convertirme, básicamente, en mi propio conejillo de indias. Un pequeño experimento personal.

En los últimos 5 meses he conectado con 8 personas. De esas, solo 4 se han mantenido relativamente firmes.

No soy la persona más experimentada del mundo, pero sí he estado abierta. Abierta a conocer, a conversar, a explorar posibilidades románticas con personas de distintas partes del mundo.

Primera observación: Hay una tendencia alarmante al mínimo esfuerzo.

No sé en qué momento se normalizó que todo fluya hacia el hombre sin que él tenga que moverse demasiado. Antes se decía: “el hombre propone y la mujer dispone”. Ahora pareciera que nadie propone nada… pero todos esperan algo.

También estoy probando pequeños cambios de comportamiento. Ver qué aumenta el interés. Qué lo mata. Cuánto dura la intensidad inicial. Es casi un estudio sociológico con tintes emocionales.

Última observación (y quizá la más inquietante): Hay más personas inestables de lo que uno imagina. Incluso personas aparentemente exitosas, atractivas y con vidas de ensueño pueden esconder dinámicas bastante oscuras.

Así que si estás navegando el mundo del dating actual, hazlo con curiosidad… pero también con criterio.

Yo seguiré investigando. Y sí, seguiré actualizando.

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Lately, I’ve been reflecting a lot on modern dating. How we connect. How we present ourselves. And how much we actually hide.

I decided to expose myself emotionally — just a little — and turn myself into my own experiment.

Over the past five months, I’ve connected with eight people. Only four have remained somewhat consistent.

I’m not the most experienced person in the world, but I have been open. Open to conversations, to possibilities, to romantic connections with people from different parts of the globe.

First observation: There’s a noticeable culture of minimal effort.

At some point, it became normal for things to just “move toward” men without much initiative from their side. There used to be that old saying: “the man proposes, the woman disposes.” Now it feels like no one proposes… yet everyone expects.

I’ve also been testing subtle behavioral shifts. Seeing what increases interest. What kills it. How long initial intensity actually lasts. It’s almost like an emotional sociology study.

Final observation (and maybe the most concerning one): There are more unstable people out there than we think. Even those who seem successful, attractive, and perfectly put together can hide surprisingly dark tendencies.

So if you’re navigating modern dating, do it with curiosity… but also with discernment.

I’ll keep researching. And yes, I’ll keep updating.

— CL

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“That in the face of the inevitability of death, there is no reason to ever give in to one’s fear or embarrassment or shame, since it’s all just a bunch of nothing anyway; and that by spending the majority of my short life avoiding what was painful and uncomfortable, I had essentially been avoiding being alive at all.”

-The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.”

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19-02-2024

De mis viejos archivos... Los 40 y el arte de sobrevivir al caos

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Los 40 han llegado a mi vida en uno de los momentos más complicados que recuerdo, y no han perdido tiempo en hacer de las suyas. Han destrozado todos los planes que tenía para esta nueva etapa, como si el universo hubiera estado esperando pacientemente mi cumpleaños número 40 para soltar el caos.

Han pasado tantas cosas, problemas familiares, de pareja, laborales, económicos, que honestamente siento que todo decidió explotar al mismo tiempo, justo cuando soplaba las velas. Ha sido, sin duda, el peor inicio de vuelta al sol que he tenido.

Y como si eso fuera poco, mi cuerpo también decidió sumarse a la fiesta. Un desmadre hormonal total: pasé de ser una mujer medianamente estable a una completamente irregular. De tener energía normal a sentirme drenada, dependiendo de suplementos y cafés para poder cumplir con mis tareas diarias. Entre la depresión que va y viene, los dolores de espalda que me acompañan como un mal recuerdo, y esa sensación de “me vale todo” porque ya nada parece apasionarme, la vida se ha vuelto una especie de película gris con banda sonora melancólica.

Pero bueno, aquí sigo. Sigo tratando de entender, de adaptarme, de encontrarle sentido a esta nueva versión de mí. Si algo espero con este texto, es que sirva de advertencia (y de consuelo) a quienes estén por entrar o ya estén navegando esta etapa: prepárense para la guerra de la vida. No hay otro camino que reinventarse, otra vez, y las veces que haga falta.

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“My stomach hurt all day thinking about it. There is no way out. There is no way out. I kept repeating it in my head. I felt like I could will myself to death with those words. But I couldn’t. I had kids. I had to get better. I had to. I had to take care of myself. To take care of my children. I had to figure out, once and for all, how to get out of the hole, how to get off the floor, and stay there. I had to figure out, from the inside out, what was going to transform me into someone who would not just succeed, but thrive.”

- Choose Yourself!.”

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24-05-25

Hoy me parece que de alguna forma le he salvado la vida a alguien. En este día particular quise dejar de ser la espectadora de los problemas de los demás e ayudar de la misma forma en que quisiera que me ayudaran si pasara por algo similar.

Una simple situación de "Novia rebelde que se escapa de casa" podría haber terminado en un caso de Feminicidio o Suicidio colectivo, al mas puro estilo de Romeo y Julieta.

Esto me hace reflexionar acerca de que estamos viviendo como sociedad, personas que no se permiten ayudar a otros y hacer la diferencia, ya sea por temor a represalias o indiferencia a los problemas de los demás y los abandonados y solitarios que están muchos jóvenes que sienten que sus vidas no tienen ningún sentido ni propósito aparente.

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Today, I feel like I somehow saved someone’s life. On this particular day, I decided to stop being a mere spectator of other people’s problems and to help in the same way I would want to be helped if I were going through something similar.

What seemed like a simple “Rebellious girlfriend runs away from home” situation could have ended in a case of femicide or a collective suicide, in pure Romeo and Juliet style.

This makes me reflect on what we’re experiencing as a society—people who refuse to help others or make a difference, whether out of fear of consequences or sheer indifference. And on how abandoned and lonely many young people feel, believing their lives have no meaning or apparent purpose.

-CL

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This day hasn’t started off on the right foot. I found out some negative things as soon as I got out of bed and realized that I had been in the wrong place with the wrong people for a long time. I’m trying to give much more of myself to end this day on a positive and optimistic note despite the adversities around me—one text and one word at a time. I won’t allow myself to feel bad today. Depending on the "surprises" that may come up for the rest of the day, tomorrow I will carry out a sort of social cleanse.

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Este día no ha comenzado con buen pie, me enteré de ciertas cosas negativas una vez me levanté de la cama, y tuve la realización de que estuve por mucho tiempo en el lugar equivocado y con las personas equivocadas. Estoy tratando de dar mucho mas de mi para terminar este día de manera positiva y optimista a pesar de las adversidades a mi alrededor, un par de textos y letras a la vez. No voy a permitirme sentirme mal este día. Dependiendo de las "sorpresas" que se puedan presentar el resto del día, mañana llevaré a cabo una especie de limpieza social.

--CL

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In the sweet nostalgia of having your heart broken again, but it's so accustomed to that feeling that you're certain that by tomorrow it will pass.

- CL

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03-06-24

I am living one of the most liberating moments of my life, awakening from a past life that was not very satisfying, with quite exhausting relationships that did not allow me to fly enough to fulfill my dreams of total freedom.

I am learning a bit about relating again, improving my self-esteem, something that nowadays is quite a challenge because, let’s be honest, we are living in times where we feel increasingly separated from one another, and it is more difficult to find that special person with whom you can share your life in a respectful way and in total freedom, where loyalty and trust are the main pillars.

Well, while I let things flow and wait for such a special moment, I have decided to take the plunge and experience everything that life has to offer me. I am also taking the leap to meet new people, open my heart, and venture to be vulnerable.

-CL

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12-07-2022 I´m trying to keep a stable weekly routine, but my anxiety won't help me to continue, feels like I always want everything now and done. I´m starting work on a couple of projects and thinking about the possibility of changing the work that I´m doing now, I hope that all these projects help me to gain more stability than my current job. It´s not easy to be some kind of entrepreneur right now, full of ideas but without enough time to develop. I´m not young or old, just in the middle but I have the constant reminder that I´m getting less time always.

Sorry about my English writing, this is not my native language, but I´m writing this way as a form of practice.

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This week's routine was so uncomfortable, is a real fact that I didn't feel to do anything at all about work or working on other important projects, these are hard times for me but I can't blame or lose time thinking about a beautiful past or a better future, the only thing that I can do is to keep breathing, write and keep going.

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In the search for learning something is acquired every day, and in the search for the spirit every day something is left behind.

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"We do not have to restrict as much as it causes us some discomfort, our sorrows, we have the beautiful right to feel bad at some point, this whole process helps us to move forward and evolve"