There's a part of your story I haven't told as I feel it will be controversial. However, after speaking with many widows I have found most of us have had the same experience and thoughts.
ORGAN DONATION: I won't do it. And here's why.
As we stood around you contemplating whether to keep you on or take you off of life support, the doctor was pushing to let you go. He did not sit me down and lay out the pro's and con's of both scenarios. He simply pushed to let you go and insisted you wouldn't make it...and pushed the worst case scenario. He did not give much input to the other option. As doing so, the medical staff, as if by routine said repeatedly, "ma'am, Todd is an organ donor, if we don't act quickly to harvest the organs (notice they didn't say "his organs"), the oxygen supply won't be high enough to make use of them. His wishes won't be met." In the moment it was something to consider. Thank Heavenly Father for your mother. She told them where to go.
The doctor didn't perform an EEG, stating your body was failing and wouldn't sustain itself anyways. They removed the life support and you still managed to breath on your own for sometime. I remember praying and feeling you were fighting. You were always a fighter. But the breaths got lighter and lighter. ...And you were gone.
Now I know, had you EEG activity his duty would be to inform us we could keep you alive and discuss the body's recovery and what it would have meant for you. Worst case, a vegetative state. Best case, time would allow the brain to rewire itself. You would slowly gain back health, motor control, speech, walking, eating, etc.... likely not all.... likely not the same quality of life. Spiritually, who knows what testimony this may have given you...how it would strengthen you as an individual.
After attending an organ donors rememberance event, many questions were provoked. Once considering my own will and health care instructions for my power of attorney, I now need answers. Who in the system is benefiting from these donors? Why isn't more education provided to the donor prior to being permitted to donate? I don't think most people understand, that organ donation includes EVERY and ANYTHING in your body. Would you have chose this if you knew how it would affect your treatment in a life or death situation? Did you know they would shave your skin from your body? Remove the bones from your limbs? Cut up your heart for the valves? Remove your veins? Cut up your eyes for pieces? Do people know this?
And who is benefitting from this? A "non-profit" comes to harvest it all, but are the "parts" being charged for like inventory? Or are the "non-profits" skyrocketing charges for the harvesting, transportation of, administrative fees, etc, so not to actually charge for the "parts"....With insurance left to flip the bill.
The business of organ donation is not made readily transparent to the public.....and for good reason . You'd think twice if you actually knew.
I would love to help save the lives of others, but not if it risks how the medical staff will direct the path of my life/death, not if it puts my children/family/loved ones under extreme duress. And I'd never put guilt on those who chose against it for these reasons; for I'd be am inconsiderate and/or selfish woman not to think of the donor and their loved ones.
At what price does organ donation come? Can we really trust the system?
Much more research to do on my end. But this is where I stand as of now.
I hope they read this link to understand better. The article tells your story, they could have been writing about you. AND I HOPE THEY WILL REPOST AND SHARE!!
http://m.us.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052970204603004577269910906351598?mobile=y
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