Queer Confessions

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HELLO CRUEL WORLD!

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I was born afab. If you ask me, I’ll tell you I’m a trans man. However, i feel like I was supposed to be born a boy so I could be a girl. I struggle to word it in a good way but I feel dysphoria with my body and the fact that i was born female. I’m so scared to talk about this anywhere because I feel like my feelings are problematic. If I say I feel like I should’ve been a trans girl I know it’ll sound very odd. I wonder if anyone else has felt this way.

gender is a spectrum, it’s totally okay to have a complex/mixed relationship with masculinity/femininity.

but as always…

What do you think?

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I think I’m Bi, but I’m also greyromantic/greysexual, which makes it more difficult to make the decision. I would be happy dating a girl or a guy, but I’ve only really pictured myself in a long term relationship with a guy before.

At the same time, I’m scared to come out, because I don’t know if my friends would accept it, or if they would get really weird around me. I don’t know how to ask them their opinions on queerness. And now thinking about possibly being Bi is stressing me out.

What do I do? Do you think I’m Bi?

i mean you can only teally know by being true to yourself, i can’t really tell you that. i would say that it probably would be helpful to have at least one friend who knows about this tho.

but as always…

What do you think?

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I fear I may have a crush on my good friend of many years

I've known her for maybe 8 yearsish(?) now, and we've been really close throughout the entire duration of how long we've known eachother (We've gotten much closer this year) and we've had conversations abt like types and stuff, which might be why I've kinda wanted to get closer to her. She did have a boyfriend (As far as I know they've since broken up) whom we've chatted about and. thoroughly dislike (He wasn't really a bad guy, just not the kind of guy she was really into + Strange opinions /neg)

The problem is though, I don't know for sure if I actually have a crush on her or if it's just something else entirely? I wanna spend more time with her and I really really love everything about her, I just don't know if it's romantic. She's also broken up with aforementioned boyfriend not too too terribly long ago and I feel asking her out without waiting a little longer would be disrespectful to both of them. Also I don't know if I'm necessarily good enough for her just bc of self-doubt stuff and I don't wanna accidentally drag her into a pit of always feeling the need to affirm what choices I make just to keep me happy (This hasn't been an issue before, but it's possible enough that I just wanna be safe)

I don't really know though. I definitely love her regardless of whether it's romantic or platonic and we are going to binge most of the transformers series this weekend, but ughhhhhh idk idk, conflicting feelings are weird

i mean honestly i feel like you should talk with them about it, and make sure they feel comfortable with it.

but as always,

What do you think?

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ok I think I’m genderfluid but even sending this ask is huge for me. I’m too scared to write my feelings in a diary for fear of it being found and read and I don’t want to express myself freely because I’m afraid of the judgment and being ‘in trouble’ I lean to my gender assigned at birth but lately I’ve been dissatisfied with that identity. How do I express myself or help these feelings? I would also mention I am deeply religious and I’m not willing to give up either part of me and I can’t make sense of my religion and identity

that’s great that you felt comfortable writing this! i teally feel that you should be who you want to be, and try to silence your inner hate.

but as always

What do you think?

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not queer related but everyone mentioned in this is queer in some way and im sorry but i need to vent somewhere

tw: vent, suicide mention, (brief) relapse mention

so i know this one person, and she has some serious mental health issues, and thus constantly asks me for assurance that i dont hate her, and of course i say that i dont hate her because i know that im one of the only people that she feels comfortable opening up to and that i would probably make her issues worse if i said otherwise.

now heres the thing. i hate her. i feel like she constantly makes every single thing about herself and her problems and doesnt even pretend to care about other people. it doesnt matter whether im having the best day of my life or if i relapsed last night, its always about how shes doing horribly and has so many problems, even if nothing is happening and shes just taking the chance to make someone else's pain into her pain, and honestly at this point i feel more like a therapist than a friend. she also slapped me once when i made a joke, because she was having a "bad day"

but i also know that if i tried to tell her about any of this, then she would either a) kill herself, or b) start treating someone else like this, and honestly, no one deserves this. so now im stuck like this until next year, when i can switch classes and get away

i mean honestly this is kinda above my pay grade (and i’d teally appreciate input from you, the reader) but it seems like you should distance yourself from her. maybe i’m wrong here but i feel like if someone is only your friend because they can manipulate you, they arnt really your friend.

but as always

What do you think?

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(I’m bi) I hit a parked car pulling out of a parking lot the other day and drove away instead of leaving my info. I feel very guilty. Obviously, I can’t go back and find the car/owner. Any advice on what I can do to get some good karma back?

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i want to switch my pronouns from he/they to he/it but I'm scared :( mainly of irl people. And it feels a little pointless bc I know I'll get they themed anyway :(

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Damn, I want to go to conversion therapy already.

Seriously, I feel like my body is saying, "YOU SHOULD HAVE A PENIS THERE, YOU SHOULD START GROWING A BEARD, THOSE BREASTS SHOULDN'T BE THERE, YOUR VOICE SHOULD BE DEEPER," and I want to instantly take testosterone, I want to go to the bathroom and cut off those fucking breasts, I'm trying to deepen my voice, and damn, every day I get this horrible feeling that something's missing between my legs.

Damn it

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okay. so.

im afab (and intersex), and generally regard myself as a trans guy.

I feel like im pretty apathetic about gender in regards to how I express myself, but other people viewing me as masculine/using he/him for me feels the most right out of anything.

recently I saw a post by a nonbinary person that was like "the reason I found out I was nb and not binary trans was that I realized that if I was born the opposite asab, I still would've transitioned" and like,,, I very much relate to that. if I was born assumedly male I would more than likely transition still in some regard.

am i nonbinary? idk I'm not really comfortable labeling myself as nb, I personally feel it doesn't fit and would be like,,, fraudulent? to say that I am? like im a guy, but probably not 100%? demiboy doesn't feel quite right either.

if I could just be like a genderless black void, that for some reason people default to he/him for, that would be great.

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I know I’m queer but I don’t know how. I’m not quite a girl and I don’t not like boys but I don’t like them either? I like girls too sometimes I love being a girl and others I wish I could teee my chest off and be a boy I like when people don’t know my gender online but I don’t think it’s even safe for me to ever express myself that way

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(🐖🐌 so I can find my ask)

My partner is a nonbinary transmasc person, and my mother had always been fine with it (up until about 3 months ago they had gone by he/him pronouns) but for some reason, when they changed their identity to fit them better, my mom said they were "faking being a man" to get in a relationship with me??? I'm a bisexual and my mother knows this so idk why she would think that but now she wants me to break up with them and says if I don't she'll never accept them and continue to misgender them... I don't want to put my partner through that but I also don't have enough money to move out, what should I do?

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Okay so I'm nonbinary and bisexual (AFAB(this will matter a bit in context)) but I think I have a crush on my best friend, who's a lesbian.

I want to tell her, but she's also been my best friend for like 5 years now, and I understand she's probably not going to feel the same but I still want to tell her?.

I feel like confessing would be really weird and uncomfortable and I don't want to lose my best friend

What should I do?

i mean ofc that’s something you should ultimately decide yourself, but i would give room for/ set boundaries and make sure that she is cool with it.

I’ve never been particularly apt at relationships, but i wish you the best!!

But as always…

What do you think?

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I’m avoiding a friend because he took me on a date without telling me it was going to be a date and he made me scared

yeah it’s always a good practice to keep boundaries!

i’m sorry you had to experience that!

But as always…

What do you think?

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There's a specific spot to walk to the park that I jaywalk on It just doesnt make sense that there isnt a crosswalk there and the next crosswalk is way too far sometimes

I dont do it if theres high traffic or if im feeling really slow

Are all confessions supposed to be queer related? If so I apologize

not all confessions need to be queer related, this is a safe space barring murder and sa!

it’s sorta ironic that they wouldn’t put the crosswalk where ppl actually walk!

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For the last 5 years, I have been a dl cock sucker for ts ladies. It started with me moving to a large city, and living around the corner from a ho stroll. I found out that I like the thrill and the shame of paying for sex from a street walker. One of the street walkers happened to be a passable ts, and while I used her services, I didn't want to reciprocate for safety reasons. So I slid into escorts, which I felt more comfortable giving to (why, I don't know). I live in a big enough city to where I actually was able to find two or three ts ladies who I could service. It felt so good physically and mentally/emotionally looking as that pretty face while I sucked. Then I left my job for family reasons, and while i was out of work for a year, i didn't stop my habits. Then I got low on money and the economy crashed around the same time and it's been hard to get a job. I briefly got a gf, but it didn't last long. Honestly, the stress of having to maintain something with another person is difficult to deal with when the mental and emotional payoff of being used without the pressures of being a good guy is so enjoybable. I just long for the day when I can get another job and get back to ts escorts and picking up street walkers.

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Shimmy shimmy yay shimmy yah

that is shocking!