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Happy pride month!

Here’s a link to this design on my redbubble, support a nonbinary artist :)

if you don't remember any feel free to ignore but do you know any other anti blogs who are pro aro/ace?

@anti-ddlg-junko @anti-ddlg-tavros @antiddlglink @king-of-kink-shaming @edward-elric-against-cgl @fxck-ddlg @oliviakanethesjw tbh every anti account I follow..

If you’re pro ace/aro can you reblog this!! (Includes supporting cis het aro/ace. You cant pick which ones you want to support. All, or none at all)

stop-ddlg-please

😘😘😘😘😘 right here 😘😘😘😘😘 Got that aro spec/ace bi shit over here

anti-transphobia

Do I count?

not-my-daddy

I’m an asexual myself so I’m definitely pro ace

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😚😚💜🖤💜🖤

I’m ace!! 💕

I’m ace ☺️

SO I got positive feedback for my trendercore promptlist idea so I’m deciding to go with it!

Introducing Trendervember!

Make a different oc based on the day’s prompt, for the month of November.

You can draw, write, use moodboards, use zepeto, dollmakers, ect! You can even just give some positivity/info posts if you don’t like to make OCs.

I know a lot of us are spoonies, so let it be known that you aren’t required to do all the days! Only do the days that you want to do.

Remember to tag as #trendervember so I can see!! :3

Promptlist caption under the cut:

Keep reading

tgce-archive

This sounds promising but I can’t guarantee I’ll remember or have time. But maybe others will be interested!

#might do this

ungracefulace

Ngl, I feel so bad for exclusionist aces and aros and those questioning. Like, lets take a break and imagine thinking ones asexuality or aromanticism isnt inherently LGBT+ for whatever reason. And so you make a exclus blog or follow them because you agree with what they say. You interact and join exclusionist discords and whatnot and you have a whole subsection of internet friends bonded with you over your discourse opinion. And you get these allo exclus giving you a pat on the back for being a "good" aspec and you're comforted by the whole "valid but not LGBT" line.

But, youre still ace or aro. And you have 2 choices for how you can handle that. You can only vaguely address your identity in posts that tokenize yourself "I'm ace/aro and I think inclus are awful" or responding to posts like "well I'm ace and you dont support ME !!!" And if you choose this method you see that exxlusionists think youre great and dont bother you about being ace or aro, and because you are aspec and youre supported by exclusionists, exclusionists support aces and aros.

But the other option is you show ace and aro pride, and you actually talk about ace and aro issues. Then every time you reblog pride art with an aro or ace flag you get the people you're friends with and your followers sending messages about why that flag was there and if youre an inclus now. If you dont preface or end you aspec post with "but we arent LGBT!!" then people will add it or ask about it for you, even if its just "aces have problems too". You get mocked if you say anything criticizing the exclus community and how they talk about aces, or straight up ignored even though you still completely and totally agree that aces arent LGBT. Then you realize that this whole subsection of internet friends that youve grown close to are only actually accepting of your identity if you ignore it or if you downplay any negative experiences youve had being ace or aro (unless you are using it to say how you still arent LGBT). And you dont want to be an inclusionist, because you still dont think you are LGBT by virtue of being aspec.

Thats just a really shitty situation and it goes double for those who are questioning since if they show any hint of "am I ace??" Theyre friends are quick with the "not wanting to fuck isnt an orientation" or something similar. Exclusionist blogs are literally fueled by hatred and dismissal of aces and aros, from everything to our experiences to our entire orientation depending on the blogger. And as an ex exclus I know what an awful environment that is if youre ace, aro, or decent. Theres a reason that a lot of ace and aro exclusionists have been turning away from discourse after failed attempts at getting their community to see that theyre being shitty. And it sucks that a lot of these people have also had shitty experiences with inclusionists so they dont want to talk to us either. But I do hope they learn some self love and stop accepting this because for whatever reason they're cool with it.

aromoji

We are just 8 days away from asexual awareness week and I just want to say that regardless if you think aces are lgbt or not at least have some decency to let us celebrate our identity without discourse, especially if you're not ace yourself.

aromoji

People who arent ace are encouraged to reblog btw

thraaaaaaaanduuuuuuuuiiiiiiiiil

I had no idea we even HAD an awareness week

aromoji

Honestly neither did I until the week of, last year

onprangering

Seeing exclusionist blogs that have something along the lines of “ugh I’m so tired of ace discourse” in their about pages makes me crack up so hard

It costs you zero dollars to Stop Hating Aces you know

lastoneout

Joking about aphobia isnt funny even if you are an inclusionist like legit fucking stop especially if you reblog from people who make those jokes because 9 times out of 10 the person making them IS an exclusionist and you're giving them a platform while alienating your ace friends/followers.

lastoneout

Like I see a lot of people who I follow who are inclusionists reblogging aphobe blocklist jokes and posts making fun of ace people who say cringy stuff(and not mocking the person who said it mocking ace people in general) and it's like?? Okay??? Yall really need to learn to understand dogwhistles and also just fucking stop giving exclusionists a platform just cuz you think thier jokes are funny. It's shitty as hell and totally undermines you're inclusionism. Like if you were out there making the same jokes about gay or trans people you would get called a bigot but since it's mocking ace people it's okay?? I gotta call bullshit on that one.

tokyo-mews

when you want asexuality to be a white thing so badly you’re willing to whitewash real people just because of their sexuality

could you imagine being an exclusionist? in 2019??

animefacialrecognitionsoftware01

who the fuck

tokyo-mews

this was in the lgbt poc “safe” server yeehaw

aromoji

ironically when the server owner was called out on this they ignored it on the fact that I brought up that they were an exclus hdaskjhdaskj

sjdean

Some hot takes bc biphobia still exists on this hellsite in 2019

Zepeto: CNVTG5

disasterbisexual-moved

“FEMME AND BUTCH ARE LESBIAN ONLY TERMS!!! IF YOU USE THEM AND YOURE NOT A LESBIAN YOURE LESBOPHOBIC!!!”

uh, no actually? the bi label didn’t exist for a long time, so bi women were just called lesbians (before there was an umbrella term like wlw, it was just “lesbian”) back when butch and femme were coined, so uh, it’s part of their culture too.

god-quit-deactivated20200422

what's up frend REBLOG THIS POST BEFORE SEPTEMBER 7TH 2019 FOR A SURPRISE IN YOUR INBOX AND A CHANCE AT A FREE DRAWING

yehudah

someone with "i hate queers" in their bio: well you know the q slur can be very triggering to those who live in more conservative areas

angelistatic

Hey, I’m begging y'all here.

If you aren’t same gender attracted or gender dysphoric, please do not reclaim queer.

I don’t personally view it as a big deal, but many others do. Especially older LGBT folk. Many get uncomfortable or even upset when non LGBT people use the slur queer.

It’s just like if you’re white and you want to reclaim the n word. You can’t. It’s not for you to reclaim.

Cishet aces/aros and aroaces, PLEASE stop calling yourselves queer. You are not.

In the end, words are just words, and anybody can say anything they want, but we have to think about other people and what is morally right/wrong.

Thank you.

ungracefulace

I dont know how to this but white people “”“"reclaiming”“”“ the n word is literally nothing like aces reclaiming queer. The slurs have completely different historical significance.

Nigga/nigger is specific to black people. Queer is a slur that covers the entire LGBT+ community. Queer has had multiple reclamation movements, the n word had not. Queer can be a stand alone identity to some, just as a general not straight/not cis. Nigga is not a stand alone identity.

These are in no way similar. Its not the same thing at all ignoring the argument of whether or not aces can reclaim queer. This is a shitty comparison to make, and uses the pain black people have tied to the n word, and if you arent black then it’s really not your comparison to make.

nonbunary-coco

If you cant type out nigga/nigger you have no place even attempting to use it as an argument; idk how to tell you how insulting it is to see the two compared as a Queer Black person by someone who isn’t black.

nonbunary-coco

Like stop using my people and my culture and my struggles for discourse points, you’re not an ally to black people just bc you can perform having common sense on a shitty post despite a quick check showing you’ve never discussed or even mentioned black people or race before this shitty post.

apersnicketylemon

aspec lesbians are the most lovely beings upon the earth and deserve so much love and happiness

enyocourse

implying that “”allo”” lesbians are inherently worse because we’re not incels

apersnicketylemon

Where exactly does it imply that allo lesbians are inherently bad because aspec lesbians deserve love and happiness? Do you also derail posts that say trans lesbians are the loveliest beings on the planet and deserve love and happiness by saying ‘Does this mean cis lesbians are inherently worse then???’ What about posts that say ‘trans boys are the loveliest people on the planet and deserve love and happiness!’? Are you derailing those with ‘Implying that trans women are inherently worse?’.

I doubt it, and to be quite frank, ‘we’ are not ‘still doing this’, YOU are the one going through positivity tags trying to pick a fight with people for posting positivity for groups you’re not part of, while also intentionally misdefining an orientation.

Also the implication that aspec doesn’t somehow include aro lesbians, who do experience sexual attraction, or grey and demi ace lesbians who do experience sexual attraction, though rarely, is really quite telling, but y’know, y’all seem to forget aro people exist at all, like, in general, so it’s not a shock that you’d misdefine aromantic as ‘can’t get laid’ when you already misdefine asexual as such, while forgetting that your sexual orientation is not changed by how much, who, or what genders you have sex with. A lesbian sex worker is still a lesbian, even when she takes men for clients, saying an asexual lesbian cannot be asexual because they have sex, is telling the former that she can’t be a lesbian either now, which is uhhhh. Lesbophobic.

Now before you continue to whine about how lesbophobic I am for daring to make a post for a specific sub-catagory of lesbians, instead of making one for ALL lesbians, I’m gonna point out now that I am a lesbian, and that it is not, in fact, homophobic to make a positivity post for a specific sub-catagory of any group.

You’re the one who’s decided saying ‘x group are the lovliest people and deserve happiness’ is saying y group is terrible. It’s not actually implied, but you’re so used to YOU implying it, that you assume everyone else must be too. Says more about you than it does me, tbh.