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Sure, you know how to self-flagellate, but do you know how to apologize? Saying "I'm a stupid idiot" is not the same thing as saying "I did something wrong."

draconym

People who want an apology pretty much never want to hear "I'm a stupid idiot." If someone is actually trying to get you to say you're a stupid idiot, it's not because it will make up for a mistake you made or harm you caused. It's because they want you to feel like a stupid idiot. People who care about you do not want you to feel like a stupid idiot and it hurts them when they see you putting yourself down in their name.

northstarfan

Plus, this can feel really manipulative. An apology is acknowledgement that a mistake was made and reassurance that it won't happen again (or at least, reassurance that the person apologizing will make an effort). Reframing the situation so that's it's all about how bad you feel or how badly you screwed up means that the person expecting an apology is getting a negative reaction to a reasonable request and is now expected to reassure whoever did harm. It's making it all about you, not about righting what you did, and it's a great way to alienate people.

orcbara

i know most leftists agree that everybody should have a right to food, water, shelter, and healthcare but i think a vitally important fifth pillar is privacy. people should not be compelled to be tracked, monitored, or to share personal space with others to access their other essential rights

beemovieerotica

do you know what this intro is from

yes (i'm old)

no (i'm baby)

Voting ended onSep 28, 2025

matthewgrantanson

Outpost, Cambria -- June 17th, 2023

Etsy

serial-unaliver-deactivated2024

it's kind of crazy climate change has occurred at such a remarkable pace that I and everyone else around my age can remember a completely different climate in our childhoods. I truly watched winter gradually disappear in my life.

room429

"You're too young to remember this, but there used to be so many insects outside that you would have to clean them off the windshield after a long car ride" is the kind of sentence that would have been in a cheesy scifi short story earlier in my life, perhaps submitted to a literary magazine and accepted to show support for its environmentalist message - now it's something I've said in earnest.

kosmogrl

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stumbling-buzz

Another super easy and fulfilling way to give back imo is to make yourself available to elderly people in your community for cleaning, yard work, and grocery/medication deliveries. I told a friend of my grandparents’ who has cancer to please tell me if she needed help with anything. And she’s been giving out my number to more of her friends. Today I’m going to clean the condo of a woman who is recovering from surgery and can’t leave the house. These people often have no one they feel like they can ask for help. Make it known that they can ask you! <3

dailyclassicart

Martinus Rørbye - "The Palatine Chapel in the Palazzo dei Normanni, Palermo, Italy" (1842)

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biglawbear

This is really funny on dark mode

transfeminine-anarcho-post-egg

On dark mode this is like a clown trying to hide behind a light pole.

galindatopland

no more jokes about taylor swift's lyrics or about gaylor when all that does is distract from the fact that when it is no longer lucrative to present yourself as a liberal "progressive" artist she has quickly moved on to marrying and befriending trump supporters. i do not care if there was anything gay between her and her ex bestie when her new bestie brittany mahomes is being personally thanked by donald trump. i think it's a shame that all discourse i see on this site about her right now is about whether it's ridiculous and stupid to think she's not straight. what we should be talking about is what it means when the biggest international pop star is getting engaged to a trump supporter during a time when we are seeing eugenics white supremacy ads. i don't care to hear about the eras tour unless it's about how dave portnoy (a trump supporter and alleged rapist) got a personal handwritten note from her at the eras tour. it does not matter if you think she's a crap lyricist or the best lyricist of our generation when what matters is what her choice to align herself with maga signifies about the culture

twinsfawn

stabbedthrutheeye

oh, its so much more than just the song cancelled.

toldentops

Linking this excellent video also

helenvaughans

the thing is that for all its supposed faults, i would take this brand of 90s utopian globalism over whatever the fuck we’ve been doing for the last 10 years in a heartbeat

librarychair

As much as I want to support ethical farming practices I will be buying the cheapest bag of frozen chicken thighs as much as the next frugal/poor person which is why animal welfare needs to be legislated, not left up to the invisible hand of the free market or some bullshit. Invisible hand of the free market finds itself around a lot of throats.