queer-writer-forever

[fandomsandfeminism]

As we barrel into another Pride Month, we will inevitably all see the stupidest, coldest, most reductive, exclusionary, assimilationist nonsense discourse simmer to the surface of social media again like scum foaming up on a long simmering soup.

And when that happens, whether it's garbage takes about trans people, or ace people, or nonbinary people, or neopronouns, or he/him lesbians, or bi women with boyfriends, or furries, or *what the fuck ever*- remember-

You do not need to quibble over the details. You do not need verbally spar on every hill that dipshits want to die on.

Just stop and ask- hey, does this fucking matter?

Does it matter if some queer people do _____? Does it cause any actual, measurable, material harm? Is this *actually* a problem? Be specific. Beyond just 'it makes me uncomfortable' and 'but that doesn't make sense' - does it actually *matter*?

Because if the answer is no, then who the fuck cares?

I don't care if something is confusing, or illogical, or weird, or makes you uncomfortable. Does it actually harm anyone? No? Then mind your fucking business.

Its not your responsibility to Lincoln-Douglass debate every overzealous puritan and under-informed tween on the complex nuance and inherent political context of the queer experience. Focus on what matters . Ask them what, if any, harm does ____ actually do, and THAT is all you need to address. (Oh you wanna defend ___ spaces? Which spaces specifically? What are you worried about happening? Oh is ____ normalizing ____? Does it? Does that...matter?)

Because even if other people dont like it, Queer People will continue to be weird, messy, confusing, contradictory, illogical, and strange as we all do our fucking best to be ourselves as best we can be. The way we survive and grow and thrive is by giving each other the grace and space to do so, whether or not we deeply, logically resonate with whatever others have going on.

And we don't talk shit about each other. We don't take pot shots at the queers who are queerer than we are. Throwing other queer people under the bus has never made things better.

So. Circle the wagons, close the ranks, and get comfortable rubbing elbows with people who are, you know, freaks and weirdos.

Happy Pride.

[leshermes]

June 1st is TOMORROW. It means that GAY PEOPLE will exist, but only for ONE MONTH. Do not forget to buy your tickets to see them NOW, or else you will have to wait AN ENTIRE YEAR to be able to meet them AGAIN.

[sixofclovers]

hecate

[veryluckyclovers]

medusa

[emiemi345]

[zhe-lazy-fox]

My patches have arrived! :D I love these so much.

@prideknights and their crafts my beloved!

[liberaljane]

Everyone needs help sometimes. It doesn't mean you're weak.

[chemdoodles]

1x01. I need my emotional support ginger ale!

[lilgothbee]

tip for practitioners with altars and cats.

please do not lie to yourself like i did.

your cat will jump up on it.

your cat will lie on it

and your cat will knock things off.

i did feel a tad insulted that she targeted the tarot cards - felt like that one was a indirect message from the deities hahah.

[escapepodding]

Everyone acting like Ilya wore his Raiders tee to ragebait the Hollanders NO, he wore that because its the least slutty thing he brought. My man came to the Cottage to get loved up on the sex vacay of all time. He maybe brought it to ragebait Shane, or maybe to make it look like he wasn't hiding if they got caught. But he wore it because he wanted to fight the slut rep and put those herculean shoulders and guns away to impress his in-laws on an unexpected detour after accidentally feeling up their beloved son's fine ass in front of a man who is a new yorker reader.

And now it is too late to change so accidental rage-bait it will be. But he is on his bestest behaviour when meeting the parents, its not his fault he's out of practice on being the Best Boy he wants to be!

[quinn-art]

I publicly apologize to all the trans and cis girls I've misgendered on accident.

[welldrawnfish]

As a member of the high council of the alphabet mafia board of governance I absolve you

[shillanov]

it's so crazy how shane is all sad puppy-eyed and almost texted ilya "we didn't even kiss" because the thing is that they did kiss that night. ilya surged forward to kiss that motherfucker in the bathroom after he caught a glimpse of shane's vulnerable glassy eyes and it's like all his carefully crafted restraints for the last few months went out the window. that man grabbed shane by the back of his head and poured all his repressed emotions into that kiss like his life depended on it.

but shane was thinking about the fact that they didn't kiss during SEX which is so fucked up because he didn't just want the physical relieving act of sex. he also wanted the emotional intimacy of it all. he wanted the intimacy that matched the scary emotions of what he was feeling toward ilya and he wanted it to be reciprocated. wow. so fucked

[karmacharmeleon18]

Ilya might be a dog person but he's NOT a golden retriever boyfriend.

Ilya is a cat. Ilya makes eye contact with Shane from across the room and slooowly reaches his hand out to knock his expensive skincare products off the counter. Ilya wants attention and wants it now and who cares if Shane's on the phone with his bff? Ilya will hiss and scratch at anyone who hasn't earned his trust but let Shane pet his belly and boop his nose. Ilya will explode the whole house if Shane doesn't pet his hair the second that he wants him to. Ilya was made in a lab just to annoy Shane and be loved by him more than life itself.

Ilya is a cat.

[my-2nd-account]

Meanwhile in his opponent's room:

[chemdoodles]

1x01. I am not a chicken.

[my-2nd-account]

Ilya points out Shane getting hard in the showers then proceeds to jerk off in front of him. "I thought you might chicken out" as if he wasn't losing his mind having an identity crisis in that elevator. Ilya makes fun of Shane for coming quickly his first bj when his time is only like 5 seconds more than Shane's. Ilya makes fun of Shane's sexting as if his loser ass horny texts are any better. "Remember when I made you come hands free" Ilya sweetheart you're lucky Shane was on his hands and knees too busy with his own orgasm to hear your pathetic (affectionate) "oh God, Hollander" right before you came so hard you almost blacked out. "We are not anything" proceeds to freak out the next time he sees him and makes a folder named "boring" of the photos they took as a bit. "Not as person, of course" when he came up with a whole plan to convince him to stay the night, gave him his clothes, made him food, and is looking at him like he hung the moon. "We get together we fuck is simple" cut to him two weeks later confessing his undying love on the phone.

Ilya you're a fucking hypocrite I love you <3

[metalheadsagainstfascism]

My only comment is form. See theoretically... if you're trying to punch down... a villain... for a book... theoretically...

You want to punch THROUGH the villain. This is called follow through and generates more momentum which creates more force. A common mistake when you're trying to do one of those punch force tests is you stop your punch AT THE OBJECT. But then you immediately lose all your momentum and force.

But if you use the follow through method, you get all of the momentum through the entirety of that punch... theoretically... if you were punching a villain... for a book...

You see this in sports. Like golf, tennis, or baseball. Their club, racket, or bat don't stop where it made contact. They follow the motion through the entire swing so they don't lose momentum or force through the strike