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[morsobaby]

Remember to make space for the heteros this month too - yes, really.

Lesbians who became straight men

Gay men who became straight women

All straight drag artists (note that not all of them are cis!)

People with complex identities who thusly encompass multiple orientations (like genderfluid and multigender people who, yes, are sometimes straight, or even simultaneously with other labels)

Hetero aro and ace people. Especially. Seriously.

People with fluid orientations

Gnc people who find joy in their straightness

Many queer people are also straight. Queerness is note solely reliant on gayness. These people too, are a part of pride. Remember that.

[All discourse attempts will be swiftly blocked. Exclusionists fuck off]

[biblicallyaccuratemoth]

Hey. You don’t learn to learn everything in a day. Or a week. Or a month. Or a year. It’s been years, and I’m still learning. So is every trans and cis person alike. We’re all learning. You aren’t behind. You aren’t ’less.’

Happy Moth Monday, everyone!

[system-cypress-deactivated20250]

I am so proud.

My mother, in her mid-50s, just came out as aromantic. She never knew there was a word for what she felt. She asked if this means she's "part of the LGBT now", and I got to happily inform her that there are more letters now, and Aces and Aros are absolutely a part of our community.

It's so important to remember that there are people in generations before us who still don't know themselves, and self-discovery is for any age. They should know they have a community. I am so proud of new, older queers!

[transformationsproject]

Trans rights are still under attack in the United States. Please visit our website linked below to learn about your state and contact your reps. Here's a thread of today's updates:

Bathroom bills deny access to public restrooms by gender or trans identity. 

They increase danger without making anyone any safer and have even prompted attacks on cis and trans people alike. Many national health and anti-sexual assault organizations oppose these bills.

Tennessee HB0064 was filed yesterday. This bill targets school bathrooms, banning all trans people from using the proper bathrooms in schools.

North Dakota HB1144 was filed yesterday. This bill also targets school bathrooms, banning all trans people from using the proper bathrooms in schools, with a potential $2500 fine.

Healthcare bills go against professional and scientific consensus that gender-affirming care saves lives. Denying access will cause harm.

Providers are faced with criminal charges, parents are threatened with child abuse charges, and intersex children are typically exempted.

Virginia HB2146 was filed yesterday. This bill targets trans healthcare by allowing people to sue doctors for trans care up to twenty years after the fact. This is designed to punish any doctors who provide care to trans people.

Educational Censorship and Student Suppression bills force schools to misgender or deadname students, ban instruction on sexual orientation and gender identity, and make schools alert parents if they suspect a child is trans.

They remove life-saving affirmation and support for trans youth. 

Oklahoma SB413 was prefiled yesterday. This bill has several components and expands on previous sex ed bans. The most notable section requires all sex ed materials in the state to be picked by the state legislature, not by teachers.

Connecticut SB00036 was introduced today and sent to the Joint Education Committee. This bill bans classroom instruction on gender identity and sexual orientation from K-3rd grade and restricts it for 4th-12th grade.

Oklahoma SB348 was prefiled this week. This bill requires that all school textbooks must define sex and gender in such a way as to explicitly exclude trans and intersex people, regardless of modern scientific understandings.

Washington SB5136 was prefiled last week. This bill requires teachers and school staff to deadname and misgender trans students, which is effectively state-mandated harassment.

Trans Erasure bills create legal definitions of terms like “sex” designed to exclude or erase trans identity and insert them into various laws. This can have many different effects, depending on what laws are affected.

They can force a male or female designation based on their sex assigned at birth.

Some target anti-discrimination statutes, legally empowering trans discrimination 

New Hampshire SB38 was introduced today and sent to the Senate Judiciary Committee. This bill is a classic Trans Erasure bill, aiming to add an exception to the state’s Human Rights law allowing for discrimination against trans people.

Digital Censorship Bills describe any legislation that potentially targets Queer and Trans media/material for removal. 

They typically do this by using vague and broad definitions of "Obscene" or "Harmful to Minors" and then banning such content from being accessible to minors, which often either removes the material entirely or requires age verification methods in order to view. 

This includes online censorship bills, library book bans, and other such legislation.

New Hampshire HB293 was introduced today and sent to the House Judiciary Committee. This bill adds a filter to all electronic devices in the state, targeting queer and trans content. 

SD SB18 was prefiled on Monday. This bill adds an age verification requirement for social media as well as restricting queer and trans content online.

Most sports bills force schools to designate teams by their sex assigned at birth. 

They are often one-sided and ban trans girls from playing on teams consistent with their gender identity.

Some egregious bills even force invasive genital examinations on student athletes.

Virginia HB1809 was introduced Monday. This bill targets school sports from K-12 and in higher education, banning trans women and girls from participating.

Maryland HB156 was introduced today and sent to the House Ways and Means Committee. This bill targets school sports from K-12, banning trans girls from participating.

In other bills that either fit multiple categories or stand on their own, we have:

Connecticut SB00136 was introduced today and sent to the Joint Government Administration and Elections Committee. This bill prevents the state from requiring anybody to use specific pronouns, which would make it so that anyone can misgender any trans person in the state. 

It's not too late to stop these and other hateful anti-trans bills from passing into law. YOU can go to http://transformationsproject.org/ to learn more and contact your representatives!

[makingqueerhistory]

Queer history fact: From 1938-1939, San Domino in Italy was designated an internal exile exclusively for queer people. What began as an attempt to exclude any men who didn’t fit the fascistic ideal of perfect masculinity, ended as a glimpse of the queer community in an impossible time. Equally a prison and a carved-out space where queer people connected in hostile circumstances, San Domino proves the past and continued resilience of the queer community.

[transformationsproject]

Each week, we will highlight and explain the most concerning emerging anti-trans bills. Read more here or in our newsletter.

[katoninefandoms]

I saw a post today about people not bashing cis/het people in accepting queer spaces, because everyone is supposed to be welcomed, and it's counterintuitive to then make them feel unsafe, especially when the people there are your allies.

And I've noticed something similar in another area, but I didn't want to derail that post, so here it is:

There are queer people who are Christian. There are queer people who grew up in accepting churches, or learned on their own the ways God loves them and have done theological study. We know that the institution of the Church is often exclusive of us, but we know that God isn't.

So as a queer Christian, it's really upsetting to be in queer spaces that demonize the diety you worship. I understand that many people in the queer community have trauma around religion, and Christianity especially -- like they do with cis/het folks. Again, it makes people feel unwanted and unsafe in places that should be accepting and safe for them. (And honestly, most of the criticisms I hear are misinterpretation or misunderstanding of the culture and scripture. And trying to explain or inform comes off as evangelism, and doesn't help change minds or make things any less contentious.)

Queer people and queer allies come from all walks of life. The same way an ally wouldn't bash you for being queer, or a queer Christian hopefully wouldn't be hateful to you for being of another or no religion, show those people the same respect and kindness.

I don't like being immediately booted from conversation and community as soon as the topic of religion comes up. There's a place for discussing the systemic issues, absolutely. But that's not always happening. It sucks to be caught in the middle of an echo chamber of bitterness and anger for something that is important to you.

[realtransfacts]

Fact #1057: Body positivity for trans people doesn't have to mean loving our bodies for what they are. It can be about loving our bodies for what they can become.

[crreature]

some recent portraits of butches of color. via butchisnotadirtyword

[polyamorousmood]

It really says something that a lot of monogamous people consider polyamorous and aromantic to be "opposites" but every polyam person I know took one look at aromantics and said "they're just like me for real"

[silosworld]

Poly folks x aro folks in the sense that "alloromantic heterosexual monogamous people view love and sex as an entirely different entity than me, and that makes life kinda strange"

[rincent-van-uggh]

[aegosexual-moments]

You might be aegosexual if...

- you enjoy the idea of sex but don’t want to experience it in real life

- you have sexual fantasies but would never want to be IN THEM and the fantasies don’t involve you

- you enjoy reading erotica/ smut fanfics

- - you enjoy absorbing sexual content but it’s never about yourself

- - you like reading smut in third person but find first person to be a huge turn off. And second person is literally The Worst

- you daydream about sexual situations but the people in the daydreams aren’t yourself (or typically even other real people- but your OCs or fictional characters)

- you find yourself looking at attractive people thinking “yeah they’re hot but I don’t want to DO ANYTHING with them”

- imagining the sensory experience of sex makes you question whether it could really feel good as good as it is in your mind

-writing sex scenes is a lot more uncomfortable reading them, even if creating them in your mind is cool

- you sometimes question if you’re really ace because of the content you like to consume. But this is an acespec identity.

A few years ago there was a person who had cultivated an entire list of acespec identities and lists of common traits. I can no longer find those traits or posts.

SO! This I made this! I’d love for other aego people to add on! And then to add your ideas to the original post.

[guerrillatech]

[thespacesay]

ID: a tweet by Samirah the Sapphic Siren @.sapphic_siren.

Mutual aid is not rooted in generosity. It's rooted in community. I don't like when ppl see community building as selfless. Building community is necessary for both of us. It's crucial to your survival today, and it might be crucial to your survival today, and it might be crucial to my survival a different day.

end ID

[transfloridaresources]

[Photo ID: Pink, purple and blue gradient background. Text reads: 'Jacksonville! Seeking support resources (online or in person) for cis parents to better understand trans identities. Please comment or DM! 🩷.' /End ID]

[destiel-news-channel]

[Image ID: The Destiel confession meme edited so that Dean answers 'There is an UK petition calling for trans people to be able self-identify their legal gender.' to Cas' 'I love you'. /End ID]

You can sign this petition if you are a British/UK citizen or resident.

clickable link

[makingqueerhistory]

Queer history is often complex. One particular complication that I am thinking about right now is the messy Venn diagram that occurs when the erasure of a lesbian relationship leads to homophobic historians suggesting that the parties in question had no physical relationship so as to say that they had no relationship at all. With the current knowledge that two (or more) people can have a romantic relationship without a physical one, this does not change the possibility of the women in question being lesbians, but does bring forward the possibility that they were asexual.

This possibility is complicated by the fact that finding evidence of a sexual relationship between two women is a difficult task on the best of days. It is further made difficult by the additional fact that a large part of history (especially though not exclusively European history) has included the specific brand of sexism that assumes that women have no sexuality to speak of. This first can lead to people trying to make a woman seem respectable by stripping her of her sexuality, and second, can lead the woman in question to not know or not express her sexuality out of fear. Neither of these things makes a person asexual by most definitions of asexuality in use today.

All these things are inseparable, frustrating, and worth acknowledging in the broader discussions of queer history. Asexual history exists and deserves to be explored, and I am hopeful that, as a queer historian, queer history continues to complicate the discussion. There is so much worth in the addition of asexuality into our understanding of queer history, and a part of that worth is how it adds depth and dimension to these particular dynamics that have appeared in the telling of history.

[the-delta-quadrant-deactivated2]

can we stop defining nonbinary people by pronouns?

you can call yourself a thembo or a she/they or a gentlethem all you want, heck, i sometimes do something like this, but maybe don't apply these terms universally.

we are more than our pronouns and a lot of people act like that's all we are, including some trans people, including some nonbinary people.

i'm remembering a post i saw talking about nonbinary representation. they said how a piece of media has "all kinds of nonbinary people", then started listing different sets of pronouns - and nothing else, like we're nothing more than that. not to mention every pronoun set they listed was either they/them or some combo of he, she and they. no it/its, no neopronouns, no nothing, basically implying that people who don't use he, she or they aren't part of "all kinds of nonbinary people".

also remembering someone saying how "they/she" is somehow a specific gender and nope, you're probably wrong. pronouns don't equal gender and people who use they/she pronouns can be any gender.

also, just because a nonbinary person, real or fictional, uses the same pronouns as me doesn't mean i relate to them, that they represent me, that we share experiences.

a lot of nonbinary people who also use they/them experience gender very different from me or not at all, have different lived realities as me, look different than me etc. and there are people who i deeply relate to on a gender level but we use different pronouns.

representation isn't done after including a few pronoun sets, because nonbinary people are more than pronouns. it's just another way to put nonbinary people into neat monolithic boxes.

[gaylor-moon]

[grippy3000]

fun fact one of the world champions in pepper-eating contests is a trans woman and she actually faced significant backlash because people somehow thought she had a biological advantage. to eating spicy pepper

[grippy3000]

update bc i went back and checked: her name is brianna “the chilli queen” skinner and she set a record in 2017 by slamming back 23 carolina reapers consecutively. she only stopped when told to by the referees, and the next year she stepped down out of boredom. queen

[pettyartist]

Here's a picture of her, by the way

And her super supportive wife

[nentuaby]

The championship, it should be noted, is unisex. Apparently being a trans woman gives you an innate biological advantage over both cis men and cis women.