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Here’s the thing: authors know when they get a rec on an older story. There’s a telltale uptick of kudos (with a 10-15% comment rate if you’re lucky) in your digest email.

The thing is, there’s no way to know where these people are coming from. In the before, when fandom was more in the corners we all knew about, you could search LJ or a message board or whatever social bookmarking site we were using. You could join the community and participate.

You could get a little dopamine hit by seeing someone tell their friends why they loved your story.

Anymore, those recs are hidden in discords, or in tiktoks or instagram slideshows that you can’t search for. They’re inaccessible, not discoverable unless you’re already there. You may never know why 27 people left kudos on an old story of yours, what they liked and found in your writing. You just get the thumbs up and a kinda lonely feeling, cause these could be your people. You could like them, maybe. You could be friends.

But you’ll never find out why they stopped by, or what people are saying about you behind your back, and that’s sad.

So thank you to the people who still do public rec lists on this webbed site. You are my sunshine, and I’m appreciative of all of you.

saathi1013

If you are recced a fic and enjoyed it, leave a comment telling the author where you came from! We like to know!

fforsythiaaa

Once when I was in undergrad, someone described something as “problematic” in class and our professor was like, “That’s cool, but ‘problematic’ doesn’t really mean anything. It means that the thing you’re describing has a problem, and in and of itself that’s not bad. Art, especially, should always have problems, or else it’s not interesting and not art, either. It sounds like you’re trying to say that this is bad, but you don’t want to say ‘bad.’ Is that right?”

So from then on whenever one of us called something problematic, he would make us talk it out until we could name the “bad” thing we were hinting at. In this particular class, 7/10 it was some type of oppression, and the remainder was like, “I’m uncomfortable because this is very new/confusing/pushing boundaries that made me feel safe.”

Once we stopped calling things “problematic” and stopping at that, class got way more interesting and... we all had to say, like, “that’s racist” or “that’s misogynistic” or “ew capitalism gross” out loud, which a lot of us had never done in a classroom before. Or we had to be like, “Uhhh... I’m not sure what’s so bad?” and confront our own beliefs and that was maybe even more useful.

Anyway. Whenever I see the word problematic, I can’t help but think of this professor being like, “Good starting point, now let’s get specific.” I think when we have to commit to saying “that’s ___” it requires a lot more careful thought about the truth and impact and complexities of whatever we’re claiming. Sometimes there really is some bullshit afoot, and also sometimes it’s art, and it should be full of problems, because that’s what art is.

hypokeimena

#'this is present in the text' is often a good first step #but those second and third ones (naming it; describing its function) are vital (via @elucubrare)

werewolfcave

Begging and pleading for people to realize that some people may not experience sexual attraction but sometimes they may be sexually aroused by certain concepts/actions. And sometimes this then means they want to participate in sex with someone so long as the concepts/actions are present.

They aren't attracted to the person they are having sex with, but they are aroused by whatever is occurring within the sexual scene.

Sex favorable aces don't just have sex because their partner wants to have sex!!! Some sex favorable aces do seek sexual stimulation with other people for their own pleasure!! Big surprise! Shocking development!!

And this is also stigmatized because it's believed you need to find someone attractive to have any drive to have sex with them! Like! No! Some of us are just more interested in their ability to perform what arouses us!

werewolfcave

I'm posting about this because as I am presented with sources within one of my classes about asexuality I see a complete lack of talk about pleasure and what it means within asexuality. There is this constant reaffirming of sex is what the allosexual partner wants (and the asexual partner is just doing it to make their allosexual partner happy) and it's deeply frustrating that we are defining sex around sexual attraction and not looking at the fact that sex should be defined around a whole range of things!

elektra-pop

Just FYI, it's still murder when disabled people die by medical neglect.

Read that again.

thelawfulchaotic

I mean, technically speaking, yes it is actually murder.

And yet it bothers me that the blame is placed on the “caregivers” alone. When police investigate cases of neglect, they focus on horrific conditions, dirty houses, animal feces, as though those who are supposed to care for their disabled relative aren’t also in those same conditions.

There are essentially None qualified nurses doing home visits; there is excruciatingly little monetary support from the government and what there is comes with exhaustive lists of rules and regulations. Running afoul of those is defined as “fraud” and prosecuted.

And yet this is a world where predators will tear each other apart to have access to a steady $850/month from the government… and, as anyone in that situation can tell you, predators who want that welfare check and friends/family who want to help take care of you are not two categories separated by a big fat black line. They’re one long continuum, and people jump back and forth on it, depending on their own needs.

And the exhaustion. The exhaustion of caregiving 24/7 and working and keeping a home at the same time. The exhaustion that slides into carelessness and resentment. That leads to horrific things. But the exhaustion isn’t the caregiver’s fault, not originally.

So I guess I’m saying —

Yeah it’s murder. It’s a murder done a tiny bit by everyone. It’s a murder by the government buying drones and bombs and new battleships at a cost that would send every welfare check from constant agony to occasional discomfort. Murder by insurance companies eating all the money that could have gone to quality care.

I haven’t seen a single case of death or injury to a disabled person by neglect that couldn’t have been prevented by the government gave a single fuck. But god forbid anyone care about stinky poor disabled people before they’re conveniently dead and quiet and serving as an excuse for government vengeance. They deserve protection before it ever gets there.

dogpuppy

ortegas-maneuver

[ID: image 1 is a tweet by americanredcross: "you're driving and see a flooded road ahead. what do you do?" and a response by dril: "floor it 900 mph hydroplaning across the surface jesus christ style clear it perfectly and my tires aint even wet".

image 2 is a tumblr tag: #one time i drove thru a flood because im stupid and it made my check engine light turn OFF. what that mean /End ID]

phantomrose96

show: "And with this incredible technology, these characters' consciousnesses are transferred to a virtual body." me when I have the chronic affliction: "Does the character's chronic affliction come too? Does it come too or does the virtual body cure it."

show: "This character is immortal. Watch as their entire destroyed body rebuilds itself via immortality." me when I have the chronic affliction: "Does immortality cure the chronic affliction? Do they come back together and the affliction is just fixed? Is that part of immortality healing?"

show: "In a cyberpunk world, people actually build new bodies and place their minds inside--" me when I have the chronic affliction: "Do they still have the affliction"

wizardjpeg

mostly i do god knows what

oldbutchdanielmolloy

every day i’m like i should reduce my screentime today i should take a little break from tumblr and then 5 minutes later it’s like weeellllll….. surely just one little image wouldn’t hurt……. 🤦‍♀️

quastions-i-dont-ask-on-main

Hello, Tumblr user. Here's a non-binary character who uses they/them. Their ASAB isn't relevant at all for the story and everyone regardless of relationship uses they/them for them and they're trans. Your challenge will be to not try to sniff out their ASAB. Go---- oh you're already telling other people who don't agree with you they're wrong and bigoted for hcing it different from you. Okay.

shamebats

"it's just stress" oh thank god, it's just the silent killer that slowly kills you, perfectly harmless, no need to worry

crabussy

trans women and trans men and nonbinary people and everyone else being friends and holding each other close and falling in love and thinking of each other. I'm making this my future. let's all be okay together

zinesbycee

(nods sagely) (nods basily) (nods rosemarily) (nods saltly) (nods star anisely)

orteil42

given the current climate this pride especially i feel i must mention that i love my trans friends, i stand with trans people in the fight against transphobic legislation and those who would enforce it, and this blog is not a good place for you to be if you do not vibe with that

chilewithcarnage

we're not ever gonna make this website a safe space for black people or have a substantial black user base anymore unless y'all (non blacks obv) come to grips with the fact that y'all hold internal biases whether some of y'all be blatantly racist and hide behind your disabilities/mental illnesses queerness/transness or it's something as simple as if you see black face on your dash you immediately swipe up

chilewithcarnage

I dip into a lot of spaces on this site. non black fandomites I don't ever see you all discuss or celebrate the black characters in the media you partake in. You don't reblog fanart or gifsets of said black characters. You actively don't follow and ignore the black fans in the space you occupy. When the topic of racism gets discussed in these fandoms there's a lot of denial and throwing stones and hiding hands. On queer visibility days I don't ever see y'all reblogging selfies of black trans women, black trans men, black lesbians black gays or black bisexuals. I very rarely see y'all circulating mutual aid posts of black users. People in NSFW arenas, I don't ever see you reblog content of black swers. For whatever reason y'all keep the black people in your likes. It requires posts to be made by white and non black people discussing racism and social justice to actually get some traction when black tumblr users will make the same talking points but get a fraction of the notes.

We Keep Having Discourse About Rap Music For Christ sakes.

dajo42

need a polite way to say "im not engaging in a discussion on this topic with you because the conclusions you have reached are based on so many interwoven layers of misconceptions it would be easier to just like, hard reset your whole brain, just start over as a baby and try again"

oysters-aint-for-me

there’s a used bookstore in rural western massachusetts (the montague book mill) whose motto is “books you don’t need in a place you can’t find” and i just feel like that summarizes tumblr too

oysters-aint-for-me

posts you don’t need on a site you can’t search