Always Accountable

Improving myself every day! -`♡´- Health and Fitness. Mindset Shifts. Continuous Learning. Discussion of weight loss on this blog (Down 50+ lbs with more to go.) Blog I follow from is @idle-emote

[quiet-discipline]

❤︎⁠ New Pin ❤︎⁠

Hi all! This is a new pinned post because I'm shifting the focus of this blog towards general self-improvement. I will be using this blog as a journal of sorts while I work on growing into my best self!

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This blog will have posts about:

❀ health and fitness goals / updates

❀ my commitment to continuous learning / reading

❀ developing healthy habits and hobbies

❀ mental health and mindset shifts

❀ disconnecting from social media and online toxicity

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About me:

I go by Jill. I'm 27. I live in LA with my boyfriend and my cat (pictured in this blog's banner). I'm pursuing a masters in data science and work as a data professional. My hobbies include reading, knitting, and gaming. For physical activity, I enjoy walking, yoga, ballet, indoor cycling, and pilates. In the past, I struggled with BED and other unhealthy coping mechanisms, and I am working on replacing those crutches with healthy habits. I'm working continuously to improve myself and take accountability for all the little daily decisions that make up who I am. If you are interested in my journey, follow along!

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[quiet-discipline]

is anyone else watching the Pearadise documentary right now

[stuckinapril]

[floatingbook]

Growing older I can feel some of my opinions calcifying, which is terrible. So I make sure to take them out sometimes, and dust them off, and beat them like you would a carpet, and let them hang in the sunlight, and check them for wear and tear, and at the end of the day mend them if there's a need. Maintenance for the mind, like you'd mind the fondations of your home.

[quiet-discipline]

I remember when I used to feel tired getting 7k steps in a day. Recently I’ve been ending up over 13k on accident!

[zerosugarlover]

The whole "I can't lose weight/xyz condition makes it impossible to lose weight" is what made me stop even TRYING to exercise and form healthy eating habits. It kept me stuck in this mindset of "I'm helpless" and "well what's the point, it's impossible" cycle that gave me the excuses to continue the unhealthy habits that I had formed.

YES you can have PCOS/PMOS and STILL get to a healthy body weight

YES certain conditions can make it harder to lose weight, but also being at a higher body weight can exacerbate the symptoms of a lot of conditions and make you feel even worse.

But continually being in the mindset that "it's just genetics" or "it's impossible to lose weight because of xyz condition" is what's keeping so many people stuck.

[yoolaa]

Oh to live in a book…

[radfemme-rage]

just saw this one influencer i follow on instagram post pictures on her weekend getaway with her boyfriend

she’s posing on the bed in minimal cosy clothing, you know the drill

and a chilling thought occurred to me, that is, regardless of whether she genuinely wants to fuck him or not, there is always an obligation for all women to have sex with their male partners on such weekend getaways or any other trips they go on

and so many women will give in to it because they wanna keep the peace, feel some level of pressure, or think their moid deserves a BJ or whatever

and it’s all so dystopian and unnecessary

a trip with a female lover who respects consent and loves you for more than your body, or with female friends, would be so much more enjoyable and so much less performative

it wouldn’t be a violation of your agency and autonomy and peace

[quiet-discipline]

I'm not in the radfemme space but couldn't help but add my perspective to this post as a "normie".

If this has been your experience with men then I'm really sorry about that, that's awful, and I hope you find a happy relationship/sex life with the woman of your dreams.

That being said.... I'm a bisexual woman who has had both male and female partners and long-term relationships with partners of either sex. And my experience has been entirely different. My long-term (cis) male partner of 5 years has never made me feel like I'm obligated to have sex with him, even though I have a fairly low sex drive. There have been plenty of birthdays/holidays/vacations where we do not have sex and there have been normal (no special occasion) days where we do. If he wants to have sex and I don't, I just tell him I'm not feeling it and it's never an issue. I can say with 100% confidence that he would always rather not have sex at all than have sex with me when I don't want to. My best friends are women who have similar experiences with the men they are dating. On the other hand, I had two other long term relationships (one with a woman and one with a trans man) where I did feel a little pressure or "obligation" during our relationship to have sex with them.

I do think generalizations like op made are odd because it makes a very negative claim about every heterosexual relationship, which frankly, op cannot possibly observe. In general, if you claim one experience is universal, you will find other people who have had the opposite experience.

There will always be people who are manipulative, inconsiderate, or just shitty communicators, no matter their gender/sex. And yeah that behavior can lead to one partner feeling pressure to have sex. But OP has formed this opinion from their own online echo-chamber of negativity towards men and is projecting their own inner issues onto this influencer they follow to such an extent that they assume that 1. She does not want to have sex with her boyfriend on vacation. 2. Her boyfriend will make her feel badly if she doesn't. All because she took a photo where she is sitting on a bed.

If you have such extreme thought patterns that you jump to thoughts about sexual misconduct because you saw someone on vacation ... and felt you needed to post about it ... that's definitely something to work on with your therapist.

[live-to-100]

i hope you gain weight <3 and stop harrassing fat people for existing <3

I probably will gain weight eventually, particularly since I want to be buff, but if it is from excess fat you won’t believe how simple* it is to lose it <3 I don’t harass fat people, never have and never will. The only people I come across as harassing are those that spread misinformation <3

*simple not easy, but I’m sick of only doing things that are easy

[profundis-formor]

I like how they use "I hope you gain weight" as some kind of punishment for your behavior. Mask off, they know being fat is unpleasant.

[littlemissclairebiggs]

[strangehorse]

Is anyone else starting to feel kind of wary about the increasingly common narrative that "women's bodies are so different to men's that modern scientific recommendations do not apply to them"?

Like. There is a significant gap between 'a lot of studies do not take into account variations caused by things like female hormone cycles, which can limit how generalisable they are' and 'medical science does not apply to women', and the latter just seems to create a situation rife for bad faith actors and snake oil salesmen to reassure you that actually, THEY have the answers, because THEY listen to women, and if you simply pay them for their online subscription service-

[kocalls]

[dieuwt]

okay, i think i cracked it.

[titsay]

[cats-of-pinterest]

[prinz-myshkin]

Bothersome beast, comforting friend

[cozyvu]

via cozyvu